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Funkybutt
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by BargainMama
What a creep!! And are you really giving these weirdos your phone number to text with them? I wouldn't do that
No way! It's texting thru the site (Bumble, Tinder, etc). Whenever someone asks me for my phone number so they can text directly, I tell them I only give out my personal info once I've met the person and know there's a connection. I've had some guys stop texting after I tell them that or they're shocked that I'm being so careful, but that's just another way to weed out the crazies.
I also never answer when they ask where I live. I usually give a vague description and mention a subdivision that's 2 miles away as a reference point.
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by BargainMama
What a creep!! And are you really giving these weirdos your phone number to text with them? I wouldn't do that
No way! It's texting thru the site (Bumble, Tinder, etc). Whenever someone asks me for my phone number so they can text directly, I tell them I only give out my personal info once I've met the person and know there's a connection. I've had some guys stop texting after I tell them that or they're shocked that I'm being so careful, but that's just another way to weed out the crazies.
I also never answer when they ask where I live. I usually give a vague description and mention a subdivision that's 2 miles away as a reference point.
Gotcha!! Smart!!
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klingklang77
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Funkybutt
Please tell us how you answered "do I look yummy?"
I said - oh, sorry, I don’t think really have a response because I’ve never met you. I have to meet a person to know if there’s a connection first.
His response was that he had been sick and was just looking for validation to make himself feel better so I told him I thought he was cute (he kinda looked like the actor that plays Frank on Outlander).
Even after that, he kept writing flirty stuff. When I asked if he wanted to get coffee, his response was that he didn’t drink coffee. [eye roll]
That’s pretty creepy. Some people don’t drink coffee, though. I know I can’t because of anxiety.
But this (these) guy(s) sounds like a creep(s).
It’s all pick up artist techniques. They match with someone and try right away for sex. If they can’t be patient, then next them. Apparently, men don’t get many matches on dating sites/apps, so they try for sex when they can.
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| Posted 2/12/18 9:40 AM |
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Funkybutt
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Dating questions
Thanks for the answers. I have "not interested in hooking up" in my profile, but I guess they never get that far. :P I'm glad to hear it's not just me that thinks they're creeps! There have been so many like this that I was beginning to think it was me being a prude and that flirty texting was just what everyone did.
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LuckyStar
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Funkybutt
Please tell us how you answered "do I look yummy?"
I said - oh, sorry, I don’t think really have a response because I’ve never met you. I have to meet a person to know if there’s a connection first.
His response was that he had been sick and was just looking for validation to make himself feel better so I told him I thought he was cute (he kinda looked like the actor that plays Frank on Outlander).
Even after that, he kept writing flirty stuff. When I asked if he wanted to get coffee, his response was that he didn’t drink coffee. [eye roll]
That is SO creepy. I’d tell him he’s a creeper and block him (can you do that?)
What woman hears “do you think I’m yummy” and is like “oohhh, I want to sleep with him!” Where do these guys come up with this crap??? What woman are these lines working on?
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NervousNell
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by Funkybutt
Please tell us how you answered "do I look yummy?"
I said - oh, sorry, I don’t think really have a response because I’ve never met you. I have to meet a person to know if there’s a connection first.
His response was that he had been sick and was just looking for validation to make himself feel better so I told him I thought he was cute (he kinda looked like the actor that plays Frank on Outlander).
Even after that, he kept writing flirty stuff. When I asked if he wanted to get coffee, his response was that he didn’t drink coffee. [eye roll]
That is SO creepy. I’d tell him he’s a creeper and block him (can you do that?)
What woman hears “do you think I’m yummy” and is like “oohhh, I want to sleep with him!” Where do these guys come up with this crap??? What woman are these lines working on?
I swear I would have said, "I can't even respond to you anymore because you used the word yummy. I'm sorry. Goodbye."
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| Posted 2/12/18 10:24 AM |
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b2b777
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by Funkybutt
Please tell us how you answered "do I look yummy?"
I said - oh, sorry, I don’t think really have a response because I’ve never met you. I have to meet a person to know if there’s a connection first.
His response was that he had been sick and was just looking for validation to make himself feel better so I told him I thought he was cute (he kinda looked like the actor that plays Frank on Outlander).
Even after that, he kept writing flirty stuff. When I asked if he wanted to get coffee, his response was that he didn’t drink coffee. [eye roll]
That is SO creepy. I’d tell him he’s a creeper and block him (can you do that?)
What woman hears “do you think I’m yummy” and is like “oohhh, I want to sleep with him!” Where do these guys come up with this crap??? What woman are these lines working on?
I swear I would have said, "I can't even respond to you anymore because you used the word yummy. I'm sorry. Goodbye."
GAG!!!! I'm so sorry you have been dealing with this crap. People are really full of it.
It is so hard to meet normal people. I would talk to friends and friends of friends about guys they may know or their husbands may know. That seems like the best way to meet someone.
Maybe even put it out on here that you would like to meet someone. You never know if another LIF member has a great guy for you!!
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chilltocam
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Funkybutt
Please tell us how you answered "do I look yummy?"
I said - oh, sorry, I don’t think really have a response because I’ve never met you. I have to meet a person to know if there’s a connection first.
His response was that he had been sick and was just looking for validation to make himself feel better so I told him I thought he was cute (he kinda looked like the actor that plays Frank on Outlander).
Even after that, he kept writing flirty stuff. When I asked if he wanted to get coffee, his response was that he didn’t drink coffee. [eye roll]
That’s pretty creepy. Some people don’t drink coffee, though. I know I can’t because of anxiety.
But this (these) guy(s) sounds like a creep(s).
It’s all pick up artist techniques. They match with someone and try right away for sex. If they can’t be patient, then next them. Apparently, men don’t get many matches on dating sites/apps, so they try for sex when they can.
I don't drink coffee either, but if someone asked me out on a coffee date I would still go, if I was interested in meeting the person ( there are plenty of other things I would have - decaf tea, hot chocolate, etc.). So not drinking coffee is no reason to turn down a coffee date. The guy was totally being creepy and I think I would just block him without any response
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NervousNell
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by chilltocam
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Funkybutt
Please tell us how you answered "do I look yummy?"
I said - oh, sorry, I don’t think really have a response because I’ve never met you. I have to meet a person to know if there’s a connection first.
His response was that he had been sick and was just looking for validation to make himself feel better so I told him I thought he was cute (he kinda looked like the actor that plays Frank on Outlander).
Even after that, he kept writing flirty stuff. When I asked if he wanted to get coffee, his response was that he didn’t drink coffee. [eye roll]
That’s pretty creepy. Some people don’t drink coffee, though. I know I can’t because of anxiety.
But this (these) guy(s) sounds like a creep(s).
It’s all pick up artist techniques. They match with someone and try right away for sex. If they can’t be patient, then next them. Apparently, men don’t get many matches on dating sites/apps, so they try for sex when they can.
I don't drink coffee either, but if someone asked me out on a coffee date I would still go, if I was interested in meeting the person ( there are plenty of other things I would have - decaf tea, hot chocolate, etc.). So not drinking coffee is no reason to turn down a coffee date. The guy was totally being creepy and I think I would just block him without any response
Exactly. You could even grab a bottle of water at Starbucks and just sit and chat.
But honestly the bigger red flag is the yummy comment- and the fact that he needs you to validate him...if that's true he sounds insecure... huge red flag
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Funkybutt
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by chilltocam
I don't drink coffee either, but if someone asked me out on a coffee date I would still go, if I was interested in meeting the person ( there are plenty of other things I would have - decaf tea, hot chocolate, etc.). So not drinking coffee is no reason to turn down a coffee date. The guy was totally being creepy and I think I would just block him without any response
Exactly. You could even grab a bottle of water at Starbucks and just sit and chat.
But honestly the bigger red flag is the yummy comment- and the fact that he needs you to validate him...if that's true he sounds insecure... huge red flag
I even had a previous thread about what to drink when asked out for "drinks" since I don't drink alcohol. I responded back to him that I don't drink coffee either but just wanted to set up something to meet. He never commented about it so that should have been my red flag (after the "yummy" red flag).
He definitely was on the needy side. He texted me the night before while I was sleeping and seemed to get bent out of shape when I didn't reply until the next morning. I actually thought it was funny that he texted again that night while I was sleeping, and unmatched after I didn't respond.
Here's another weird one:
Him: R u still up (it was 2am)
Me: (next morning) Haha no - I have to get up early with my son so I'm rarely up that late.
Him. What are you doing for the superbowl
Me: Not much - hanging out with my son. Do you have fun plans?
Him: I do but I have secrets
Me: Interesting....
Him: We all do its like bad things. Have secrets (at this point I was losing interest b/c he sounded weird)
Me: Guess it depends on what the secret is
Him: My secret is that I am not that cool
Me: I don't think a lot of people are either - they just don't know it
Him: (at 2am) Could I talk to u on the phone for a sec
Him: (next day) You sorry
Him: (next day) Lets have a nice conversation on the phone
Him: (4 days later) Why don't u want to have a great time
Clearly he was creepy and I stopped responding. I don't usually unmatch b/c I've noticed that they show back up in my list so if I stay matched I won't see them again. I don't usually block people unless it's bad (worse than just being creepy).
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bunnyluck
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by chilltocam
I don't drink coffee either, but if someone asked me out on a coffee date I would still go, if I was interested in meeting the person ( there are plenty of other things I would have - decaf tea, hot chocolate, etc.). So not drinking coffee is no reason to turn down a coffee date. The guy was totally being creepy and I think I would just block him without any response
Exactly. You could even grab a bottle of water at Starbucks and just sit and chat.
But honestly the bigger red flag is the yummy comment- and the fact that he needs you to validate him...if that's true he sounds insecure... huge red flag
I even had a previous thread about what to drink when asked out for "drinks" since I don't drink alcohol. I responded back to him that I don't drink coffee either but just wanted to set up something to meet. He never commented about it so that should have been my red flag (after the "yummy" red flag).
He definitely was on the needy side. He texted me the night before while I was sleeping and seemed to get bent out of shape when I didn't reply until the next morning. I actually thought it was funny that he texted again that night while I was sleeping, and unmatched after I didn't respond.
Here's another weird one:
Him: R u still up (it was 2am)
Me: (next morning) Haha no - I have to get up early with my son so I'm rarely up that late.
Him. What are you doing for the superbowl
Me: Not much - hanging out with my son. Do you have fun plans?
Him: I do but I have secrets
Me: Interesting....
Him: We all do its like bad things. Have secrets (at this point I was losing interest b/c he sounded weird)
Me: Guess it depends on what the secret is
Him: My secret is that I am not that cool
Me: I don't think a lot of people are either - they just don't know it
Him: (at 2am) Could I talk to u on the phone for a sec
Him: (next day) You sorry
Him: (next day) Lets have a nice conversation on the phone
Him: (4 days later) Why don't u want to have a great time
Clearly he was creepy and I stopped responding. I don't usually unmatch b/c I've noticed that they show back up in my list so if I stay matched I won't see them again. I don't usually block people unless it's bad (worse than just being creepy).
OMG. These posts are scarring me and entertaining me all at the same time. All I can say is, keep your head up. I truly believe there are "normal" people hiding somewhere.
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Funkybutt
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by bunnyluck
OMG. These posts are scarring me and entertaining me all at the same time. All I can say is, keep your head up. I truly believe there are "normal" people hiding somewhere.
Here's the only other creepy one I still have access to:
Me: Hi :)
Him: Hi hot stuff
Him: I'm looking for a partner to do things with (including rolling over in the morning to kiss and make love - like right now)
Him: (after I ignored him) Nothing huh?
Me: Sorry - that's a little too much for me without knowing someone
And he never responded.
Why do guys think that's the way to get a date or even a hook up?
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by bunnyluck
OMG. These posts are scarring me and entertaining me all at the same time. All I can say is, keep your head up. I truly believe there are "normal" people hiding somewhere.
Here's the only other creepy one I still have access to:
Me: Hi :)
Him: Hi hot stuff
Him: I'm looking for a partner to do things with (including rolling over in the morning to kiss and make love - like right now)
Him: (after I ignored him) Nothing huh?
Me: Sorry - that's a little too much for me without knowing someone
And he never responded.
Why do guys think that's the way to get a date or even a hook up?
Yeah, unmatch and stop talking to him. He’s Joel Rifkin.
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Funkybutt
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Dating questions
Next time I get one of those, I want to ask if their cheesy lines actually work on other women. :)
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Re: Dating questions
ugh what an azzzzhle. sorry you experienced that.
I never ever give my cell# out ever.
I always give my private unlisted landline. it doesnt accept private calls.
You cant look it up because its private and unlisted.
When they say "oh i was trying to text you" I say - "I told you that is my home # and I dont give my cell number to strange men from the internet. If we become friends I will give you my cell#".
I will never deviate from doing this because that way if I dont feel like speaking to anyone, or if they've stepped out of line, I dont have to worry about them calling my cell phone or texting me.
p.s. If we set up a time to meet, I will forward my house # to my phone# that way if they call I get the call and if I do call from my cell phone I *67 to make it private.
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longislemom
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Dating questions
The other thing that bothers me about these azzzhles is that some of them actually have daughters and sisters.
I say to them sometime, "can you imagine someone acting as inappropriately as you are with me to your mother, sister or your daughter?"
They usually never have a response to that..
on a side note:
i think the name is probably appropriate.
this is where he proly got it from.
from wiki:
"Joel David Rifkin (born January 20, 1959) is an American serial killer."
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NervousNell
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Re: Dating questions
You must keep posting these gems!
Please, it's so entertaining!
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by NervousNell
You must keep posting these gems!
Please, it's so entertaining!
Ha! I could write a book.
*The next morning after coffee date, guy asks if I could use a strap-on on him...
*A guy told me he rubs turtle necks all over his body after a long day at work (accountant)....
*Matched with a guy. Really cute. He had a distinct tattoo. Googled it. Found his IG page. He was living in TX. Married...to a guy...
*Had a guy I met 6 years ago text me recently. Googled him. He's married with an infant. I said leave me alone or I will tell the wife. Never heard from him again.
*My exH won't leave me alone. On 2nd restraining order (they only last one year).
All of these are different guys/different sites. Yup this is what is out there..... 
Then you have the scammers. Ran into some of those too.
I just thank the lord for Google. It's amazing. I always ask for the guys # first so I can investigate
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Tulips915
*A guy told me he rubs turtle necks all over his body after a long day at work (accountant)....
Can I just tell you it took me 5 mins to realize you weren't talking about real turtles
I was sitting here dumbfounded trying to figure out the What, Why & How!
I need to go back to sleep
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Re: Dating questions
Yea that conversation ended immediately after that.
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NervousNell
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Re: Dating questions
There's so much perversion in this world.
It's really scary when you think about what's out there walking this earth disguised as normal humans!
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chilltocam
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Re: Dating questions
Just starting to think about dipping my toe back in the online dating world. These stories are not comforting!
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Funkybutt
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by chilltocam
Just starting to think about dipping my toe back in the online dating world. These stories are not comforting!
For finding a boyfriend, no. But for finding entertainment, yup!
Thankfully I haven't had anything weird happen after I met the guy. No turtle neck rubbing, and no strap on stories. 
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Funkybutt
Posted by chilltocam
Just starting to think about dipping my toe back in the online dating world. These stories are not comforting!
For finding a boyfriend, no. But for finding entertainment, yup!
Thankfully I haven't had anything weird happen after I met the guy. No turtle neck rubbing, and no strap on stories.
Oh people ask the weirdest shit...
But...wouldn't you rather know the weird early on so if you're not into it, you go another direction?
I've been out of the online dating world for almost 4 years, but it is comedy, best advice is to not take it that seriously
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b2b777
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by NervousNell
You must keep posting these gems!
Please, it's so entertaining!
YES PLEASE
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