Am I Being Materialistic? (A Vent On My DH)

Last night everyone knows was the first night of Hanukkah. I came home from work, we lit the first candle and then DH hands me an envelope. I open the envelope, and it's a subscription to Motor Trend Magazine (I kid you not- I dont' even read this magazine - ).
I just turned to DH and thanked him for the gift...I was nice about it even though it's not what I really wanted. He also said this is my only gift this year from him.

I had given DH his gift two weeks ago- tickets for him and I to go see a Jets game- so that was his only gift this year.

Anyhow, this has been bothering me all day today, am I really being materialistic about his gift (which is totally unlike me). But on the flip side, we won't be actually celebrating Hanukkah until the 17th with his family so I'm also thinking that this was to "fake me out" and that there's another gift in store for me then.

I'm a bit peeved at him but I'm also peeved at myself for feeling like he could have done better and get me something like a $25 gift card or something that I'd like more than this. It's definitley not the monetary value of the gift that's bothering me though (the subscription is only $12 for the year btw) it's the gift itself.

So stressed over the fact that should I tell him what I really think of the magazine gift?? grrrr.....

Message edited 12/2/2010 6:55:01 PM.

Re: Am I Being Materialistic? (A Vent On My DH)

Are you really into cars? It's not the money spent on the gift that would matter to me, but the thought, and if he was so off base about your interests, I would be very hurt. That would be like getting me a subscription to ESPN when I have no interest in sports whatsoever.

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I am so not into cars..I'm wondering what he was thinking on this one.

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WOW... no im right there with you... i think tickets to a Jets game is a huge gift... and like you said its not the monetary value of the gift.... its the thought, time & energy you put into a gift like that...

and to receive a magazine subscription is just really not fair... even if it was something you enjoyed reading... i still dont see how that could be your only gift...

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Why would he give you that??? Did you ask him the reasoning behind the gift? Seems so out of left field. I'd be annoyed too.

ETA: Is it possible he bought you a new car and this is kind of like a fake out...hmmmm

Message edited 12/2/2010 7:00:14 PM.

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This "gift" is so out there... that I can't help but think it's for any other reason then to throw you off on a real gift.

It's really ODD and just nothing I'd expect or be happy about. and no you are not being materialistic. It's not like your saying... hey where's my diamond tennis bracelet or where's my Beemer. KWIM?

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Posted by Cacarina



Why would he give you that??? Did you ask him the reasoning behind the gift? Seems so out of left field. I'd be annoyed too.

ETA: Is it possible he bought you a new car and this is kind of like a fake out...hmmmm

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Posted by Cacarina



Why would he give you that??? Did you ask him the reasoning behind the gift? Seems so out of left field. I'd be annoyed too.

ETA: Is it possible he bought you a new car and this is kind of like a fake out...hmmmm

Message edited 12/2/2010 7:02:22 PM.

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I feel like this is supposed to be a fake out gift.

It's so bad it doesn't seem possibly real.

But ... if it IS real... I'd beat him with a belt.

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i think there has to be some other reason he bought you a motor trend sub. maybe he's buying you a car??

i really hope thats the reason. if not, then i dont blame you for feeling lousy and i would nicely question him about it (maybe after the 17th if he doesnt surprise you with something by then) and tell him how you feel.

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Yeah, that is kinda weird. I'd probably make a comment in a funny way to try to figure out what is going on.


I'll never forget as a college student my father got me a subscription to Forbes magazine. College loans, eating ramen, living in a studio apartment and he gets me a subscription to Forbes magazine.

At first I was then just and because it made me realize how messed up and awkward my father is socially.

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I just read this to my husband and he said 'She should be mad. He got a sweet gift. If that's real he was being super cheap. It's gotta be a fakeout.'

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I don't think you are being materialistic at all!!
Did you question it when you opened it? I would not have been able to bit my tongue on that one!

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I didn't question it- I really was afraid to offend DH on this one. I think he wanted me to question him. He asked me to tell him honestly what I thought of it...I hate to say it but it was one of the few times I lied to DH.

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Posted by DGoldfarb0776

I didn't question it- I really was afraid to offend DH on this one. I think he wanted me to question him. He asked me to tell him honestly what I thought of it...I hate to say it but it was one of the few times I lied to DH.

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don't lie about liking gifts to people who are going to be getting you gifts for the rest of your life.

if this isn't a fake out... he's going to think you like shtt like this and keep getting you worse and worse gifts.

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err! double post

Message edited 12/2/2010 7:42:38 PM.

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Clearly it's a joke gift. I would just roll with it till you get your real gift.

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Posted by DGoldfarb0776

I didn't question it- I really was afraid to offend DH on this one. I think he wanted me to question him. He asked me to tell him honestly what I thought of it...I hate to say it but it was one of the few times I lied to DH.

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I would've taken it as a joke and laughed. It wouldn't even be me trying to be mean or ungrateful, I would be genuinely confused.

Message edited 12/2/2010 9:09:40 PM.

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Posted by Motown Throwdown

I feel like this is supposed to be a fake out gift.

It's so bad it doesn't seem possibly real.

But ... if it IS real... I'd beat him with a belt.

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I am thinking it is a fake out.

I am also hoping in a week you post about your new car

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But if I remember correctly, didn't he get you a brand new wedding set for your holiday gift?

Maybe he meant this was all you getting aside from your new wedding ring set.

I dont really know why it would be a Motor Trend subscription though....theres probably much more to it. Most likely a fake out.

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I read this to DH and even he said oh come on. I don't think this is your real gift. If it is, oh man, I would have to say something - it seems less than fair for you to give him tickets to the Jets and for you to get a magazine about cars.