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SJSM
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Shocked and devestated
I don't know where to start.
I am 18 Weeks pregnant and just found (by amnio)out my baby has down syndrome..
This is the second time this happened.
I did IVF in September became pregnant with twins, lost one early one and then I lost the second, they were only able to test the second one she too, had downs.
My fertility doctor and a couple of genetic counselors told me, the chances of this happening again were very slim. So I went ahead and used my frozen embryos and became pregnant again
One minute I think to myself I will keep the baby, then I think about the future and tell myself I can't have this baby. Then I tell myself, I have been through SO much I should keep the baby, but I just feel so terrible and confused. I just want a healthy baby, I want my baby to have every opportinity. Am I being selfish? By saying I am not sure that I want my baby?
At least last time I did not have to make the decision..
Thanks for listening
I am38 but my embryos are 37
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JennyPenny
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carissa1643
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maybeamommy
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Re: Shocked and devestated
My heart is just breaking for you... what a difficult situation to be faced with.
I will be praying for you
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| Posted 8/3/09 2:41 PM |
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Jonsgirl04
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Re: Shocked and devestated
As I can't tell you what will be best for you, as it is a hard decision I just want to send hugs and prayers your way...
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| Posted 8/3/09 2:42 PM |
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curlywife5808
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sleepie76
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Smileyd17
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I will be praying for you.
Only you and DH can decide what is right for you both, no one else can.
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Linda1003
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Re: Shocked and devestated
Im so sorry you are dealing with this devastating decision to make. no matter what you decide you are not being a selfish person!! You are doing what's best for you and your family.
My prayers are with you!!
Message edited 8/3/2009 2:46:48 PM.
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Bean08
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RandiG
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Re: Shocked and devestated
 I'm sorry you are going through this hard time and decision.
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headoverheels
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Re: Shocked and devestated
i am so sorry. i know that you and your DH will do what is best for you.
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| Posted 8/3/09 2:47 PM |
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kahlua716
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Kissy331
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I am so sorry you are going through this & are faced with this decision Like others have said, no one can tell you the best decision for you. Think it through & try to weigh all options
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| Posted 8/3/09 2:48 PM |
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conigs25
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I am so sorry. Did any of your earlier screenings come back w/ a chance of this happening? Is that why you chose to do anmio? Or did you do it bc of your last experience?
I pray you come to peace w/ your decision
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| Posted 8/3/09 2:49 PM |
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08BabySurprise
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I am so, so very sorry. I will for you. You have to do what is best for you and your family and no one can tell you what that is.
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codybear
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. We had to have a CVS because our screening test came back with elevated chance. The whole time I was waiting for our results I was trying to figure out what we would have done. No one but you know what the right answer is for you. I will say I heard a lot of stories from mom's of DS kids who find them to be some of the most loving wonderful children and consider them a blessing. Check out the groups for DS moms on babycenter, maybe hearing some of their experiences will help you out.
I hope you find a way to make a decision you will be at peace with.
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| Posted 8/3/09 2:54 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: Shocked and devestated
Just I'm sorry you're dealing with this and wish the best for you and your baby
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| Posted 8/3/09 2:56 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I'm so sorry that you are in this position. I'm sure no matter what decision you make, it will be the right one for you & your family.
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pnbplus1
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I think it's important for you to take the word "should" out of the equation. There is no one thing that you should or should not do.
Only you can come to what is the best decision for you (and DH if there is one.) If you just received the news, wait a few days for everything to sink in. Your concerns are of course justified and you are entitled to your own opinions. I'm sure out there will disagree with you regardless of what you choose so do yourself a favor and make this decision based on your true and honest feelings. Don't make a decision based on what anyone else wants or thinks is correct or thinks is best.
I'm honestly not sure what I would do in your situation and so I understand that you have a lot to think about. It is not easy having a child with DS - on the otherhand, those who have children with DS or other special needs report that they feel and receive a love that is very special.
Take some time to make a decision - as long as you are at peace with what you decide, ignore what the rest of the world thinks.
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emomma17
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I am so sorry you are going through this
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jam11308
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Re: Shocked and devestated
Posted by Linda1003
Im so sorry you are dealing with this devastating decision to make. no matter what you decide you are not being a selfish person!! You are doing what's best for you and your family.
My prayers are with you!!
ITA and my prayers are with you as well
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| Posted 8/3/09 3:11 PM |
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MrsA714
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I'm sorry you are going through this.
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Shocked and devestated
I am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason...I think God thinks you will be a wonderful, loving and caring mother and even though your baby will have downs I know he thinks you are strong enough to face that challenge.. It is your choice and your choice alone I will pray for you whatever you decide
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