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I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
The houses are fairly close to each other where we live. The house behind us has an elderly woman with Alzheimers and a full-time aide.
Saturday morning I was in my backyard and heard the elderly woman yelling at the top of her lungs "Get the hell away from me" followed by what sounded like slapping, a huge THUD and a scream. I called the cops and reported what I had heard (anonomously). They sent 2 squad cars over to investigate.
This morning, DH was in the backyard and someone (I'm assuming the aide) yelled through the window "She wasn't yelling or screaming, you know..." DH pretended not to hear her.
Now I'm wondering if I made the right call by calling the cops. What would you have done?  
Message edited 1/10/2011 12:10:27 PM.
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heathergirl
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
I would have the done same. I don't think you did anything wrong.
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Sounds to me like someone might feel guilty? (the aide, not you or your DH.)
I think you did the right thing.
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Blu-ize
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
what a hard situation.
I probably would have done the same.
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missfabulous
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
I don't think you did anything wrong. You were just looking out for someone's safety- your intentions were good.
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mrsBLT
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
i know what it's like to deal with altzheimers patients so i wouldn't have called the cops, but i don't think you made the wrong decision at all. better to have someone check it out then to have an aide beating a sick elderly woman 
who cares what the aide thinks or says to you! you were only looking out for your neighbors well being!
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Who knows, maybe the old woman was hitting the aide? I just couldn't let it go wth the noises I heard. 
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twinkletoes807
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
You ABSOLUTELY made the right call by dialing 911. Even though you wanted to remain anonymous, as long as you gave all of the info to the dispatcher, I think what you heard definitely merited a call.
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AScottWolf
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
I agree... I would have made the same call.
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AngnShaun
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Posted by scarletbegonia
Who knows, maybe the old woman was hitting the aide? I just couldn't let it go wth the noises I heard.
i wouldnt worry about it... im sure if the roles were reversed the aide would have done the samething...
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Linda1003
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
you did the right thing V!!!
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| Posted 1/10/11 12:15 PM |
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debidonnamom
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
I would probably have done the same thing. Elder abuse happens!!!! Mary
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jeanyus27
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Posted by scarletbegonia
Who knows, maybe the old woman was hitting the aide? I just couldn't let it go wth the noises I heard.
This is what I would've thought as a possibility too, but I think you did the right thing regardless.
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jilliibabii
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
I would've done the same thing.
You're damned if you do, damned if you don't. Don't worry about it!
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DeniseMarie
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
you absolutely made the right call!! What if something terrible was going on and you never reported it? You would have felt awful. I hope they are thankful for neighbors like you who are attentive, many people would have just ignored it
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
my grandmother has altzheimers and I have to say if it was my grandma living near you and you heard that- I would want you to call the cops
you did the right thing
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
You did the right thing V. If nothing untoward was going on, then no harm no foul. If something bad *is* happening then the aide knows there are neighbors who CARE and are watching out... Tough call but you did a good thing.
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Kaitlyn747
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
I would have done EXACTLY the same.
I would also try to find out who the woman's family is and give them a call.
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| Posted 1/10/11 12:23 PM |
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debidonnamom
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
my grandmother has altzheimers and I have to say if it was my grandma living near you and you heard that- I would want you to call the cops
you did the right thing
I absolutely agree!!!! My Mom is in a nursing home, and if anyone ever hit her, I'd want it reported!!!! Mary
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debidonnamom
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Posted by Kaitlyn747
I would have done EXACTLY the same.
I would also try to find out who the woman's family is and give them a call.
That's a good idea too!!!! Mary
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
my grandmother has altzheimers and I have to say if it was my grandma living near you and you heard that- I would want you to call the cops
you did the right thing
me too.
if nothing was happening then why is she yelling out the window defensively insisting that nothing happened?
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maymama
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
V, you made the right decision. The woman sounds defensive. Even IF what you thought you heard was not what was actually going on ... better safe than sorry.
If nothing was going on, im sure she explained everything to the cops and they went along their way. Its been documented and maybe that will prevent anything from happening in the future.
You could have saved this woman's life - even if not this time, in the future!
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
I would have done the same thing. It's not my place to determine what happened. That's why the police need to be called. They can investigate & if necessary take action - no matter who did the slapping.
The fact that the aide said something to your DH makes it more suspect.
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rojerono
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Posted by heathergirl
I would have the done same. I don't think you did anything wrong.
same.
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Re: I'm questioning a decision we made over the weekend - what would you have done??
Posted by nrthshgrl
I would have done the same thing. It's not my place to determine what happened. That's why the police need to be called. They can investigate & if necessary take action - no matter who did the slapping.
ITA.
I also think that, god forbid there was something inappropriate going on there, it may deter any future happenings- knowing that, eventhough the patient can't advocate for herself, there are others that are looking out/listening.
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