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computergirl
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Reading this thread, I am surprised how commonplace redshirting is. My kids go to Catholic school, and so far in kindergarten and 1st grade, there has been exactly ONE redshirted child in my older one's class. And that child had minor developmental delays, so there was a very valid reason to choose to hold him back.

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Posted 1/2/13 9:56 AM
 

KarenK122
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Re: Holding Child Back

Posted by Annie91606

My son turns 5 in January, he will do kindergarten next Fall. I know he will be with a bunch of older kids, but at least they will be half a year older. My two year old, born April, will likely be in a grade with kids nearly a year older!


- you are setting them out to the world losing a year of earning potential. I was born in the late summer. When I turned 19, I had a year of college completed and was working at a bank with a great internship. A red shirted kid born in June would just be graduating high school when they turn 19.

Of course, a child with a developmental delay is a different situation. But holding back for the reasons I stated above is wrong , IMHO.



I'm just using you as an example so please don't think I'm singling you out : )

Your son turns 5 in January so that means that he will be 5 starting school in September. My daughter started K as a 4 year old and turned 5 in October. This was the "correct" placement for her. Your son would be 9 months older than my DD. She is repeating K this year so she turned 6 in October. Your son would also be turning 6 in January of his K year so my DD would only be 3 months older. For your DD, again she will start K as a 5 year old. IMO 4 years old is to young to be in K. Kids learn alot in the early years and alot of children at 4 still are not as independant as they are as 5 years old. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule.

As far as a red shirted child being 19 when graduating, I think that is not the norm because the child needs to start school while they are turning 6 by law. If he was turning 19 at graduation that means he turned 7 during K. The only way I see that happening is if the child was retained at some point during their school years and that would be educational issue not a parental choice.

Posted 1/2/13 11:00 AM
 

Merf99
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What happens if the teacher suggests that you hold your child back a year? Would you still say no, because then they wouldn't be in the proper age range? Or does that change your feelings because the teacher feels it could help your child? Just curious....

Posted 1/2/13 11:05 AM
 

Annie91606
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Re: Holding Child Back

Posted by KarenK122

Posted by Annie91606

My son turns 5 in January, he will do kindergarten next Fall. I know he will be with a bunch of older kids, but at least they will be half a year older. My two year old, born April, will likely be in a grade with kids nearly a year older!


- you are setting them out to the world losing a year of earning potential. I was born in the late summer. When I turned 19, I had a year of college completed and was working at a bank with a great internship. A red shirted kid born in June would just be graduating high school when they turn 19.

Of course, a child with a developmental delay is a different situation. But holding back for the reasons I stated above is wrong , IMHO.



I'm just using you as an example so please don't think I'm singling you out : )

Your son turns 5 in January so that means that he will be 5 starting school in September. My daughter started K as a 4 year old and turned 5 in October. This was the "correct" placement for her. Your son would be 9 months older than my DD. She is repeating K this year so she turned 6 in October. Your son would also be turning 6 in January of his K year so my DD would only be 3 months older. For your DD, again she will start K as a 5 year old. IMO 4 years old is to young to be in K. Kids learn alot in the early years and alot of children at 4 still are not as independant as they are as 5 years old. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule.

As far as a red shirted child being 19 when graduating, I think that is not the norm because the child needs to start school while they are turning 6 by law. If he was turning 19 at graduation that means he turned 7 during K. The only way I see that happening is if the child was retained at some point during their school years and that would be educational issue not a parental choice.



I hear you! One of my sons, the January one, is "older" for his grade just because of when his birthday falls. The way our cut off works, there would be very few kids starting kindergarten at 4, because the cut off is September 30th, and if so, it would be a mere few weeks before they turned 5.

I know every situation is different. My issue is really with the parents of kids who turn 5 months before the cut off, who still wait to enroll them. DS has two good friends who have birthdays in early June, yet they will not start kindergarten with him. The parents want to wait until they are more mature.

So these boys will turn 6 three months prior to starting kindergarten, with an extra year of preschool under their belts. They will have an unfair advantage, IMHO, especially compared to others who started at age 5. Additionally, they will be 19 when they graduate high school. I know a lot of parents who want their kids to be "advanced" and cringe at the idea of them struggling. So, why not set the bar lower for them and have them be older?

Posted 1/2/13 12:45 PM
 

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Message edited 1/3/2013 1:00:40 PM.

Posted 1/2/13 8:50 PM
 

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Posted by KarenK122

Posted by Annie91606

My son turns 5 in January, he will do kindergarten next Fall. I know he will be with a bunch of older kids, but at least they will be half a year older. My two year old, born April, will likely be in a grade with kids nearly a year older!


- you are setting them out to the world losing a year of earning potential. I was born in the late summer. When I turned 19, I had a year of college completed and was working at a bank with a great internship. A red shirted kid born in June would just be graduating high school when they turn 19.

Of course, a child with a developmental delay is a different situation. But holding back for the reasons I stated above is wrong , IMHO.



I'm just using you as an example so please don't think I'm singling you out : )

Your son turns 5 in January so that means that he will be 5 starting school in September. My daughter started K as a 4 year old and turned 5 in October. This was the "correct" placement for her. Your son would be 9 months older than my DD. She is repeating K this year so she turned 6 in October. Your son would also be turning 6 in January of his K year so my DD would only be 3 months older. For your DD, again she will start K as a 5 year old. IMO 4 years old is to young to be in K. Kids learn alot in the early years and alot of children at 4 still are not as independant as they are as 5 years old. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule.

As far as a red shirted child being 19 when graduating, I think that is not the norm because the child needs to start school while they are turning 6 by law. If he was turning 19 at graduation that means he turned 7 during K. The only way I see that happening is if the child was retained at some point during their school years and that would be educational issue not a parental choice.



My ds will be 4 when he starts kindy. Your DD would be a FULL year older than him and other children in the class. How does that help her? When these kids are 12 and your DD is turning 13 , how is that helping her? I'm just not understanding why you would want your DD to be the oldest/ biggest girl/ most physically mature girl in the class?

Posted 1/2/13 8:54 PM
 

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OMG, after reading this thread, I'm picturing these 6 foot girls with double D's. Are you serious? Being a couple months older doesn't mean you look like a freak and that you stand out in the crowd. How about thinking about their intellect instead of how they will look? Although, reading some comments, like the one just stated above me, I'm envisioning what type of person is writing these words behind their computer.
Honey, I'm not insane. I'm thinking the majority of the parents who choose to wait a year are not insane. I think they made a choice for their child. I'm sorry, but I don't really care if it's detrimental to your child. , I know that sounds harsh, but I look after my own children. My children will not look like they are teenagers in a kindergarten classroom. And, btw, I am not lazy as a parent. I bring home many material that I use in my classroom to give to my daughter. She will be ready for kindergarten, and I truly don't care who she gets compared to.

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Posted 1/2/13 9:40 PM
 

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WOW! As a mom of a late october child who turned 5 in class I can say he STRUGGLES and I wish I had held him back that extra year for maturity! I don't give a flying hoot about sports or competing! If that is the reason to hold a child back a year (for sport or competition) then you are NOT doing the right thing for your child. However watching my child struggle because socially he is not a mature as the others is awful. Having him cry over homework and coming home performing below the social line is probably the most heartbreaking thing I could ever see him go through!

Posted 1/3/13 11:33 AM
 

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Posted 1/3/13 1:00 PM
 

Merf99
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Posted by CookieMomster

WOW! As a mom of a late october child who turned 5 in class I can say he STRUGGLES and I wish I had held him back that extra year for maturity! I don't give a flying hoot about sports or competing! If that is the reason to hold a child back a year (for sport or competition) then you are NOT doing the right thing for your child. However watching my child struggle because socially he is not a mature as the others is awful. Having him cry over homework and coming home performing below the social line is probably the most heartbreaking thing I could ever see him go through!



Agree with you. This is why we had DD try kindergarten and saw that she did need extra time. Academically, she was "on par" but i saw she struggled. It was hard for her. Would I have held her back just because she has a late birthday? Absoloutely not - but I don't think that's what any of us are saying we did.

Posted 1/3/13 1:50 PM
 

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Posted by jaclyn78

OMG, after reading this thread, I'm picturing these 6 foot girls with double D's. Are you serious? Being a couple months older doesn't mean you look like a freak and that you stand out in the crowd. How about thinking about their intellect instead of how they will look? Although, reading some comments, like the one just stated above me, I'm envisioning what type of person is writing these words behind their computer.
Honey, I'm not insane. I'm thinking the majority of the parents who choose to wait a year are not insane. I think they made a choice for their child. I'm sorry, but I don't really care if it's detrimental to your child. , I know that sounds harsh, but I look after my own children. My children will not look like they are teenagers in a kindergarten classroom. And, btw, I am not lazy as a parent. I bring home many material that I use in my classroom to give to my daughter. She will be ready for kindergarten, and I truly don't care who she gets compared to.



Once again you having taken a logical argument to the point of absolute absurdity to fit your own agenda. Bravo!

And yes, you have made it abundantly clear time & time again you did not care if red shirting your child is detrimental to others.

Posted 1/3/13 2:00 PM
 

computergirl
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Posted by Karen

And yes, you have made it abundantly clear time & time again you did not care if red shirting your child is detrimental to others.



I just wanted to ask-- do we, as a rule, make parenting decisions based on what's "best for others"? I know I don't. I do what is best for my child. If the system is broken and there is too wide an age range in the classroom-- I fault the school system for allowing it.

As for redshirting, I would do it in a heartbeat. Both my kids have early in the year birthdays and I can see how much easier things were for them, being on the older end. The kids in the class with behavior charts, who are pulled for help with reading-- among the youngest in the class.

Posted 1/3/13 2:12 PM
 

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Posted by computergirl

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And yes, you have made it abundantly clear time & time again you did not care if red shirting your child is detrimental to others.



I just wanted to ask-- do we, as a rule, make parenting decisions based on what's "best for others"? I know I don't. I do what is best for my child. If the system is broken and there is too wide an age range in the classroom-- I fault the school system for allowing it.

As for redshirting, I would do it in a heartbeat. Both my kids have early in the year birthdays and I can see how much easier things were for them, being on the older end. The kids in the class with behavior charts, who are pulled for help with reading-- among the youngest in the class.



I totally get what you are saying regarding parenting decisions. However, when a person says time and time again that they are red shirting their child born many months before the cutoff simply because "they can", it gets a little old. And then to deny that there is any effect on the overall classroom experience - it does bother those of us who do follow the rules.

I also agree the burden is on the districts to crack down on this. I do wonder how common place it is, would love to see some statistics.

Posted 1/3/13 2:18 PM
 

computergirl
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And yes, you have made it abundantly clear time & time again you did not care if red shirting your child is detrimental to others.



I just wanted to ask-- do we, as a rule, make parenting decisions based on what's "best for others"? I know I don't. I do what is best for my child. If the system is broken and there is too wide an age range in the classroom-- I fault the school system for allowing it.

As for redshirting, I would do it in a heartbeat. Both my kids have early in the year birthdays and I can see how much easier things were for them, being on the older end. The kids in the class with behavior charts, who are pulled for help with reading-- among the youngest in the class.



I totally get what you are saying regarding parenting decisions. However, when a person says time and time again that they are red shirting their child born many months before the cutoff simply because "they can", it gets a little old. And then to deny that there is any effect on the overall classroom experience - it does bother those of us who do follow the rules.

I also agree the burden is on the districts to crack down on this. I do wonder how common place it is, would love to see some statistics.



I also would theorize that maybe the curriculum and expectations for today's kindergarteners are too demanding, if so many appropriately-aged kids are being held back for fear of struggling with the work.

Posted 1/3/13 2:21 PM
 

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Posted by computergirl

Posted by Karen

Posted by computergirl

Posted by Karen

And yes, you have made it abundantly clear time & time again you did not care if red shirting your child is detrimental to others.



I just wanted to ask-- do we, as a rule, make parenting decisions based on what's "best for others"? I know I don't. I do what is best for my child. If the system is broken and there is too wide an age range in the classroom-- I fault the school system for allowing it.

As for redshirting, I would do it in a heartbeat. Both my kids have early in the year birthdays and I can see how much easier things were for them, being on the older end. The kids in the class with behavior charts, who are pulled for help with reading-- among the youngest in the class.



I totally get what you are saying regarding parenting decisions. However, when a person says time and time again that they are red shirting their child born many months before the cutoff simply because "they can", it gets a little old. And then to deny that there is any effect on the overall classroom experience - it does bother those of us who do follow the rules.

I also agree the burden is on the districts to crack down on this. I do wonder how common place it is, would love to see some statistics.



I also would theorize that maybe the curriculum and expectations for today's kindergarteners are too demanding, if so many appropriately-aged kids are being held back for fear of struggling with the work.



Are "so many" kids being held back? Or is it just a very vocal minority? I honestly have no idea - based solely on birthday invites, I know there is 1 child in DD's class.

Regardless, DD has a super-late birthday and is at the top of her class in all areas. I would never have dreamed of holding her back based on some date on the calendar.

Posted 1/3/13 2:27 PM
 

Annie91606
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Re: Holding Child Back

Posted by Karen

Posted by computergirl

Posted by Karen

Posted by computergirl

Posted by Karen

And yes, you have made it abundantly clear time & time again you did not care if red shirting your child is detrimental to others.



I just wanted to ask-- do we, as a rule, make parenting decisions based on what's "best for others"? I know I don't. I do what is best for my child. If the system is broken and there is too wide an age range in the classroom-- I fault the school system for allowing it.

As for redshirting, I would do it in a heartbeat. Both my kids have early in the year birthdays and I can see how much easier things were for them, being on the older end.






The kids in the class with behavior charts, who are pulled for help with reading-- among the youngest in the class.



I totally get what you are saying regarding parenting decisions. However, when a person says time and time again that they are red shirting their child born many months before the cutoff simply because "they can", it gets a little old. And then to deny that there is any effect on the overall classroom experience - it does bother those of us who do follow the rules.

I also agree the burden is on the districts to crack down on this. I do wonder how common place it is, would love to see some statistics.



I also would theorize that maybe the curriculum and expectations for today's kindergarteners are too demanding, if so many appropriately-aged kids are being held back for fear of struggling with the work.



Are "so many" kids being held back? Or is it just a very vocal minority? I honestly have no idea - based solely on birthday invites, I know there is 1 child in DD's class.

Regardless, DD has a super-late birthday and is at the top of her class in all areas. I would never have dreamed of holding her back based on some date on the calendar.





It is quite common to hold kids back based on birthday alone, where I live (Richmond, VA). In fact, I have a friend who actually had to defend her decision to send her son, who turned 5 in August, to kindergarten! She had several friends and family members try to talk her into keeping him in preschool for another year.

There are plenty of kids who are born later in the year who are more mature and perform just as well if not better than their peers who have birthdays earlier in the year.

Posted 1/3/13 2:49 PM
 

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I held my DD back. It has nothing to do with following the rules or not following the rules. For me, having a child in K who is 4 yo for almost for full months s ridiculous! I do not think kids should be starting K at 4.5. My DD is a mid-late Dec birthday. Our district is one of the only with a cutoff of Dec 31st. Academically, my DD was is very advanced but maturity wise she was just not there. Now that he started K this year I feel absolutely confident in my decision. I actually feel like kindergarteners can be quite vicious and my DD would not have been able to handle the meanness last year. Also, my DD is quite petite - not only would she have been the very youngest but she old have looked it too.

I worried about her being the last to develop physically etc. and the teasing that would ensue. I am not terribly worried about the opposite as we are all quite petite are unlikely to be voluptuous anyway. Furthermore, I was concerned about her leaving for college at 17 and being 17 for her entire 1st semester and considering that most of te U.S. has cutoff date of September it is very likely that most of her peers would have been older by quite a bit.

I am very happy with my decision and would do it again in a heartbeat. Bottom line for me - it is one thing to be 4 for he first month or two of K but it is another to be 4 for the entire first semester.

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Posted 1/3/13 3:18 PM
 

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You know, despite being against red-shirting I DO get what everyone that has late in the year bday children is saying! But, I think the argument is the same! Why do you think an October child is SO FAR behind socially and maturity wise - in reality there should be kids younger than that child, the same age and slightly older - I mean, all kids aren't born in Jan, Feb, March! The REASON this is happening is BECAUSE of redshirting! Because now an october child that starts on time is a rare thing! Now there are June and july babies of the same school year that were HELD back and are 16 months older than the october children and 1.5 older than the december children. The problem with this issue is that the more people that do it the more people that feel they HAVE to do it! It shouldn't have to be a parental choice - it should be a hard fast rule. JMO.

Posted 1/3/13 3:27 PM
 

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Posted by itsbabytime

It shouldn't have to be a parental choice - it should be a hard fast rule. JMO.



I disagree because it seems to be an arbitrary date with no rhyme or reason behind it. Obviously, there has to be a cut off date somewhere and obviously someone will be the youngest and someone the oldest. However, there is no uniformity in the cutoff dates; some use Dec 1st, some Dec 31st, some Sept 1st etc.

If we had moved to the next town over DD would not have been eligible for K. I feel that our school district is misguided - I think that, as I said above, being 4 years old for such a large portion of the school year is too long and requires much more of our 4 year olds than I feel is developmentally appropriate. I know she couldn't have handled it last year. The school district is not in a position to know that and I believe it would have been a detriment to my DD.

Posted 1/3/13 3:42 PM
 

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Holding Child Back

This is so common in charlotte-they actually have a TK program-transitional kindergarten.
It isn't cheap. It is for kids who should be heading to K but parents are holding them back.
Packed with boys. And our cutoff is 8/31.
My friend was cheap-sent her kid to K knowing the whole time she as going to retain him but she did not want to pay for TK.
The teacher fought her, but eventually the principal allowed it.

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Posted 1/3/13 4:59 PM
 

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I think every kid is different and it isn't the date of birth, but individual factors that need to be considered for the parents and teachers.

The cutoff at DS' school is 12/31. His birthday is on October 31 and he started K when he was 4. He is on 2nd grade now and has always been on the top of the class. Emotionally, I was able to see more mature kids on K, specially girls, but nothing that was too much for him to handle... In fact, a lot he was able to learn from. On first grade some kids were told that they might needed to have to repeat 1st grade again, some of them (that I know) were girls with birthdays on april and may. They caught up and, at the end, there are only 3 kids repeating first grade, based on their individual needs (2 of them are girls that came to this country in the middle of the year and whose english is their second language).

I wouldn't hold DS back, specially since I know him and his teachers have always reassured us he is doing great. But other kids are different and it is better to hold them back in K and not on later grades, IMO.

Posted 1/3/13 5:36 PM
 

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Question. Those of u who had or will hold your child back are saying that u don't think ur child is ready emotionally or not mature. Could u please give me am example because I think most kindergarteners are immature. That comes with being 4 and 5. And those of you who are saying tha kindergarteners are mean. So are some 4 year olds. And 6 year olds. It is up to you as a parent to teach how to respond to social situations. We were at a play date this weekend with my ds and 2 friends dd. They are all 4. The 2 girls were snubbing my ds. He got upset but I used it as a teachable moment and as did my friend. They don't teach that in k anymore!!! So then where do u expect them to mature??

Posted 1/3/13 6:20 PM
 

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I'm starting to think this thread could go back and forth forever without any middle ground whatsoever. That said - for those of you that believe this "redshirting" should be completely up to a parent's discretion regardless of the birthday of the child - What are your feelings on this "hypothetical" situation.

Mom has her DS (September birthday) enrolled to the gills in everything - from sports, to music lessons to kumon. Yet, that child is just average in everything. And, to boot, the child is physically on the small side for their age group and their fine and gross motor skills are just average so their size affects their perfomance in most sports. So, what does "mom" do - she holds her child back - they start K a year later than they should - when they are 6 instead of 5. Now her DS is one of the best at everything - why, because he is a year older than everyone and even more than a year older than some. He is now the biggest and the strongest and the most coordinated. Since he already was average academically now he is a superstar. Not to mention - developmentally he is now able to get a "jump start" on sports and instruments that his peers won't be developmentally able to handle for another year. Mission accomplished for Mom.

Do you feel this should be allowed? Do you feel parents should be allowed to arbitrarily do this? Because let me tell you - this is a true story and it happens ALL.THE.TIME. Please explain to me how this is fair?

Posted 1/3/13 6:28 PM
 

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I think parents are looking out for their own child, without worrying about other children in the classroom. Let's face it, you want the absolute best for them. You want to start them on the right foot. You don't want them to be frustrated because they might have a hard time "catching up". I see it all the time, and it's sad. Yes, there are definitely 4 year olds ready for kindergarten. But, then there aren't. For some of you who are so against this and thinks that it's the parent's initiative to have their child excel, have a solo in their concert, be the quarterback of a football team, I can honestly say that is not me. I want my daughter to have a positive experience and have a LOVE for learning. Yes, I want her to be challenged. And, there are programs in the school to help her with that. If she doesn't want to do sports, so be it. I truly don't care. What matters most is what is best for my children and to have an amazing experience in her schooling. Can I guarantee that? No, but I can sure try to start her on a good foot to get there. I'm not pushing her in because she's "of age". I'm putting her in her first year of grade school when I feel she is ready to handle a full day kindergarten. I don't know about other districts. However, I feel that there isn't a heck of a lot of playtime. Our classrooms certainly do not have play kitchens, dress up, or dolls. Last year in preschool, she barely talked to anyone. This year, she is raising her hand, made some great friends, and loves to tell her teacher about EVERYTHING!!!! That's what I was waiting for. For her to come out of her shell and be her independent person.

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Posted 1/3/13 6:50 PM
 

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Re: Holding Child Back

Posted by jaclyn78

I think parents are looking out for their own child, without worrying about other children in the classroom. Let's face it, you want the absolute best for them. You want to start them on the right foot. You don't want them to be frustrated because they might have a hard time "catching up". I see it all the time, and it's sad. Yes, there are definitely 4 year olds ready for kindergarten. But, then there aren't. For some of you who are so against this and thinks that it's the parent's initiative to have their child excel, have a solo in their concert, be the quarterback of a football team, I can honestly say that is not me. I want my daughter to have a positive experience and have a LOVE for learning. Yes, I want her to be challenged. And, there are programs in the school to help her with that. If she doesn't want to do sports, so be it. I truly don't care. What matters most is what is best for my children and to have an amazing experience in her schooling. Can I guarantee that? No, but I can sure try to start her on a good foot to get there. I'm not pushing her in because she's "of age". I'm putting her in her first year of grade school when I feel she is ready to handle a full day kindergarten. I don't know about other districts. However, I feel that there isn't a heck of a lot of playtime. Our classrooms certainly do not have play kitchens, dress up, or dolls. Last year in preschool, she barely talked to anyone. This year, she is raising her hand, made some great friends, and loves to tell her teacher about EVERYTHING!!!! That's what I was waiting for. For her to come out of her shell and be her independent person.

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I've said it a thousand plus times to my DH we should've held him back another year it would've made it so MUCH easier on him. But alas he will finish it out and move up to 1st grade next year.

Posted 1/3/13 8:00 PM
 
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