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my coworker is pregnant (no, im not annoyed about that )

she doesnt seem to know what she's not supposed to eat while pregnant. she told me that she didnt know that hot chocolate had caffeine in it. and totay she's eating a ham and cheese sandwich. i mean, its not such a big deal, but i would assume that someone who is educated and has access to the internet would have researched this already... all i said to her was "i dont think you're supposed to eat cold cuts." i'd love to tell her more, but ill keep my mouth shut. ok vent over thanks for listening


UPDATE: she dyed her hair last night. is she trying to do everything on the DO NOT list?

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well it deneds what her doc told her... lots of docs say you can eat everything in moderation...

if shes eating ham sandwiches every single day then i might be like... what are you doing?!!!

and the same with caffiene... she can have caffiene just not a crazy amount every day

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it all depends..every preggo woman i know has a diff set of rules they follow..some eat cold cuts some no..some eat tuna some no..my sister craved hot dogs throughout her whole pregnacy and people say not to eat those

maybe she is just following the no alcohol nofish thing

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bump for updated vent

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how far along is she?

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honestly... every doctor has their own set of rules, my doctors went by everything in moderation... which ment i could have turkey cold cuts 1 time a day, with a diet coke same for hot dogs and tuna... that didnt mean i ate them everyday but i was allowed. some doctors say NOT AT ALL. so i think it all depends

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I am pregnant and have the occasional caffeine and coldcuts. and you can die your hair in the 2nd trimester

its all about the persons comfort level i have done everything "your not supposed to do"

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Wow is she clueless?! Does she not read books?!?!?! Or search the internet?!?!?

At least we will all be prepared right?!

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My Dr said I can do all the things your Co worker is doing.

Really i could care less What others do its their pregnancy......I wouldn't want people to judge my pregnancy

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& for you!


I'd cut her some slack, she sounds new to this. Also not every dr. will tell you to cut everything including coldcuts out. When I had dc#1 my dr. said everything in moderation while other dr's will say cut out/avoid certain things. To each their own

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I was a terrible preggo too! I did everything I wasn't supposed to Ds turned out just fine!

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It's all about personal preference -- every doc has different rules and everyone has different comfort levels.

I waited until 14 wks to dye my hair --but I did highlights and was told I could have done it earlier if I wanted to...because it doesn't go to the root.

Cold cuts? I eat them all the time, so I guess I'm a bad preggo. lol In reality the chance of listeria from cold cuts is so low, you have a better chance of getting e. coli from cooked chicken.

The "do not" lists are not the be all, end all.

ETA: Not everyone believes you need to 'google' everything under the sun about pregnancy. There are those who have the mentality of "well my mom and her mom before her did it without google and baby books...so can I."

So I wouldn't judge her about not being very informed, every pregnancy and person is different.

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I am like you, I read every book, research every little detail and want to know the do's and don'ts. So I like you would be kind of surprised that an educated person does not know what nutrition is good/bad for their baby.

Some people are not "worriers" or researchers like us. For me, I like to be in the know, do what I feel is best for my baby.

But many will tell you "my mom smoked and drank and Im fine, a turkey sandwich won't hurt my baby" if that thinking works for them, so be it

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I actually hope I am like that.....I tend to over think and over worry sometimes.

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yeah i dont think this should annoy you. it really has nothing to do with you at all.

im 18w and had a ham and cheese sandwich today, and I KNOW it's bad. isnt it worse to KNOW something is bad and do it anyway than to be ignorant of it??

i went through a lot of c@p to get pregnant. my friend is also pregnant now, 10 weeks behind me. she didnt do much to get her BFP. she used OPKs but she had no idea when to test or when AF was due. she got her BFP. it was ENLIGHTENING to me how little she knew about TTC and early pregnancy. she has a uterine condition and although she was nervous early on, she didnt really know how nervous she needed to be although I did. it was eye-opening to me how she could just be so cautiously optimistic. for many people, ignorance is bliss, and part of me wishes i could have enjoyed that as well instead of knowing all too much about what was going on inside of me.

so dont be too hard on your friend, some people need ignorance!!

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has she gone to a doctor yet?

the amount of caffeine in one drink of hot chocolate is definitely less than the daily intake you are allowed.... so all in all she is fine having hot chocolate. I think swiss miss is like 2-5 mg of caffeine and the daily limit is 200. So she is more than safe with the hot chocolate.

the dying hair... that's not usually OK in the first trimester. but I'm sure there are some people who have done it before and all is well.

as far as researching on the internet... some people just don't do those things. there are a lot of people who get into things blindly and don't do research like you might. she might not even be aware there are any restrictions at all.

i think she needs to go to a dr and see what the dr instructs. doctors give different advice on the topics you posted about. some doctors even say cold cuts are fine so long as they are from a reputable place where they aren't sitting there for a long period of time.

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I would honestly hate to think that my co-workers were sitting there being that concerned over what i was eating when they eventually know that i'm pregnant (i'm only 6w now)
I'll be following my dr's advice, not my co-workers


Maybe her dr told her that it's ok, maybe he didn't and she chose to ignore his advice, maybe she knows all the info and chooses to do these things anyway. You don't really know, and it's really not any of your business.
She's educated and has access to the internet.. so what? maybe she's not super psycho about being pregnant and is just taking things in moderation on the advice of her dr.

Let her be