what is a fair amount

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Hofstra26
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Re: what is a fair amount

Posted by blu6385

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OP..........you're asking this woman to watch your TWO kids for FIFTY HOURS a week!!! 50 hours!!!! That's a FULL TIME job!!..........MORE than a full time job because even people who go to work average 40 hrs a week! It's not like she's just helping you out with a day or two here or there or just a few hours a day. This is for TEN hours a day, FIVE days a week and it's a big commitment one her end. She's adding two kids to her responsibilities and having your kids with her all day also hinders her day and her ability to get things done, go to appts, etc. If she's okay with that, awesome, but I think it's going to cost you. It's a lot of time that she's going to put into your children.

Regardless of the fact that it's her house and she is already home with her own kids, she's still giving you her time............50 hrs of time.........and IMO, you want to make sure you're compensating her adequately for her time and commitment to you. It should be less than a day care center but I think you're kidding yourself if $40/day is enough money to make it worth it for her. As someone who does in home care, it wouldn't be enough money for me for that kind of commitment..............friend or not.

Honestly, I think based off your comments and what (in your head) is a fair price, you should just put the kids in camp. I get the sense that this situation with your friend is probably not sitting right with you so maybe you need to just find alternative care. No matter where your kids are........in home care, camps, day care...........it's costly. It's not cheap finding good care for your child(ren). Good luck!

I wouldn't pay $40 for two kids that's not what I am expecting and I know daycare cost a lot I am paying for it now.

yes its a full time job but if we want to make it a real full time job then her kids should not be there they should be somewhere else baby sitter camp etc. which of course would be costing money. so you don't think pay should encounter for the fact that she doesn't have to pay someone to watch her kids while she is working? and I am just generally curious I am not saying you are wrong or ganging up on you .

because if this was a full time job she would have to find child care for her kids. another thing 100% should be consider when giving a price.

Whether her kids are there or not, she is watching YOUR children for FIFTY HOURS a week. As I've said many times, it's a huge commitment on her end and while she should definitely charge less than a day care I still think she should be paid a fairly significant amount for her time. I think having someone watch your child in their home is a bit of a luxury, while not one on one it's definitely a better ratio than in a day care and in this situation where it's a friend, you won't have the stress or worry that comes along with leaving your child with strangers.

Look, you obviously have an amount that YOU feel comfortable with already in your head so just run it by her. Maybe she's thinking lower than you expect, maybe not. But unless you start somewhere with her you'll never know. Estimate what you would pay for camp, deduct some percentage from that and let that number be your starting offer. See what she says and go from there. It doesn't matter what any of us say, ultimately this is between you and your friend and she might have very different expectations from what any of us on here have. KWIM?

Posted 2/5/16 5:37 PM