What have you learned???? QOTD

How about a little self-reflection? What is something you have learned about yourself as you got older that you needed to change?

For me it's a tie between stop letting people take advantage of me and stop trying to ram my opinions down other's throats (I am still working on that one).

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To not be so stubborn - When I'm not stubborn, I've learned a lot.

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That people are only capable of doing so much, and no amount of tears or arguing or anything else will ever change a person unless they want to change

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To own up to mistakes I make, instead of getting defensive, and to stop playing mind games with DH. If something is upsetting me, or bothers me, to just tell him, instead of bottling it up and expect him to just know what's wrong.

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I've learned two things:

1. Jealousy is ugly and often unnecessary. I had to learn to get over it.

2. I've learned to compromise with my DH rather than be stubborn and just do what I want. It has made our relationship a million times better.

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don't worry about things you can't control.

Message edited 6/1/2007 8:03:09 AM.

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Life only happens once. Every day is a treasure that you can never get back once it is gone.

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for me I have learned that its really not worth it to hold grudges and that its important to let go feelings of anger

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I finally stopped walking around with a chip on my shoulder and feeling people "owed" me because of my childhood.
It helped me to let things go and be happier.

Also...don't sweat the small stuff, there are enough BIG things to worry about.

Message edited 6/1/2007 8:31:34 AM.

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Not to be judgemental of others.

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1) to make sure you always say what is on your mind because you might not get a chance to say it

2) be better at compromising

3) how important communication can be

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i have to learn how to stop letting people get to me. i was never pessimistic, but over the years I've changed and i want to go back to the optimistic side of myself!!

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I've learned a whole lot! The older I get, the more I learn. I can go on & on, but one of the biggest things I learned is that things in life happen for a reason. Maybe Im being really spiritual on this one, but I live my life by that. Things happen, and even though I have absolutely no contol over the reasoning or what becomes of it, I know that I am only one person, capable of only so much. I try to let things be (it is what it is) and accept that, in hopes that in thr future I will understand why & look back and learn from it.

Did that make any sense?

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That's it's okay not to be the best at everything as long as you are happy where you are.

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Forgiveness is for yourself and not for the other person. It is for your own peace of mind and to let you move forward. It is, also, much easier to do than you would think.

I, also, refuse to let ANYONE speak to me as if I was less of a human being than they are. Speak to me as you would wish to be spoken to or don't speak to me at all.

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To stop being so judgemental of my friends and family.

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to let things go. some things are not worth holding onto.

and to not compare my life to others.

and to not ruch to judgement. you just never know what someone is going through.

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Message edited 6/29/2009 10:35:46 AM.

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for me, its learning to talk about things when they are bothering me... i just never really did when i was younger- used to just hold it all in, but then i learned that it eventually hits a point where it all comes out anyway, so you might as well talk about it when its happening....

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1. accept my family for who they are, they are never going to change and i should just be thankful that i have them and they love me

2. stop getting angry at DH over things that seem huge at the time but in the overall scheme of life, are really very small. will i care about this next week, month or year?

and most importantly

3. stop doing things for others that i feel obligated to do but know that it really won't be appreciated and it will upset me.

Learning all of these have made me SO much happier!

I am still wokring on:

4. accept my body for what it is. it will never be perfect so i need to enjoy it now before i get older, have children, etc.

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Don't tell lies, it makes life easier.

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I have learned to stand up more for myself and for what I believe.

To live my life the best way that I see it fit and not rely so much on other people's opinions.

Life is too short to live it unhappy and that's what I'm trying to do.

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not to be so angry all the time. i was very angry in my late teens-early 20's and looking back on it i dont know why. i've realized that life's too short to get upset over little things and to choose my battles.

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