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wakemeup
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by Straightarrow
Posted by wakemeup
I am in awe with some of these posts. Especially some written by women who have admittedly (in previous posts) lost their children long enough to not know where they were and only after the fact realized what a serious situation it could have been. I mean, I'm not naming names, but really... shame on you for having so little compassion.
That should say lost track of, not lost (it was late when I wrote it).
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by hopingforbaby
I just have to say that while I think its a tragic accident that could happen to anyone, I DO think some sort of punishment should be involved. I know if I god forbid did this, I would want to be punished for my mistake (assuming I didn't kill myself out of grief before trial). Should he be tried for murder? No. But neglect, probably. I just feel like there is a real slippery slope here. If we just say "oh its an accident, hes suffered enough" who is to stop people from INTENTIONALLY leaving their kids in the car? There are some sick ass people in this world and if they think they can get away with murder by doing this I wouldnt put it past someone to do it unfortunately.
We actually reported someone who Intentionally left their infant in a car. No windows open, and the car seat was covered with a blanket. It happened on Stony Brook campus in the Dental clinic.
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| Posted 6/23/14 10:37 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
An acquaintance of mine from college has a blog about her life in Israel, and I had to share one of her most recent posts:
Who leaves their baby in the car? Me.
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| Posted 6/23/14 11:13 AM |
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
See, here's the thing. I don't doubt this can happen. But that stomach dropping realization usually happens within minutes, like it did for her.
I am obsessed with brain research and the way the brain processes information, memory, etc. I've read a lot about the reptilian brain, but feel it only kicks in in times of severe stress or intense distractedness. Stress meaning a death, illness, possibly a job loss. I can understand in some level.
But I have a hard time forgiving being distracted. I might be flamed, but as soon as that baby is put in your arms, your number one job in life is to be connected to it and devoted to it's survival no matter what.
No phone call, no job, no petty crap should ever deter you from the fact that you have someone now in your life who will die if you are not always tuned in to it.
Of course accidents happen, as well as horrible miscommunications. I once heard of a baby dying in the car because both parents thought the other one brought her in while she was napping. Kids drown for the same reason.
I was at a farmhouse wedding when Cailen was 3, with trucks driving by a la pet cemetery on the road next to the house. During the first dance, I looked at my husband who I assumed has Cailen. And saw him empty handed.
My 3 year old crossed that road to get to our car parked across the street to look for a superhero in the backseat. I saw a couple walk him back across and nearly died.
Even worse, Cailen assured me he looked both ways and waited for all the trucks to pass as I have told him again and again. I don't even want to think about the what ifs in that one.
Accident, distractedness, whatever. I let my guard down as a parent and failed my child that time and it taught me how easy it can happen. And never, ever again did I ever assume that he was anywhere unless I literally hand him off or he's with me, and he's 7 now.
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
this was a good read and I'm glad she realized her mistake right away
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| Posted 6/23/14 11:47 AM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
It's an older article but it was just shared this morning in the Car Seats For The Littles group on FB.
Boy Invents Device To Remind Parents Of Kids In The Back
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| Posted 6/23/14 11:50 AM |
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gina409
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
For me the reason the word judge and judgement popped up is bc there is a big difference in "I cannot imagine" and " I would never"
The sentence "I would never" to me implies judgement
I am sure these parents thought they would never too
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| Posted 6/23/14 11:58 AM |
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by wakemeup
Posted by Straightarrow
Posted by wakemeup
I am in awe with some of these posts. Especially some written by women who have admittedly (in previous posts) lost their children long enough to not know where they were and only after the fact realized what a serious situation it could have been. I mean, I'm not naming names, but really... shame on you for having so little compassion.
That should say lost track of, not lost (it was late when I wrote it).
I hope and pray that no one on here (or their SOs) ever has their hands too full, their heads too cloudy, a change in routine, a distracted mind as a result…to make a mistake like this.
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| Posted 6/23/14 11:58 AM |
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gina409
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
Instead of the I would nevers, maybe we should all make it a point to look out for each other. When you are walking through a parking lot, be mindful and pay attention, look to see if anyone has left a child.
 
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| Posted 6/23/14 12:00 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by sfp0701
I don't even know why I am admitting it here but here goes. When ds was little, I arrived at work one day and got out of the car. By some miracle my ds made made some noise and I looked in my back seat before I closed my car door. There he was. He was rear facing and fit so nicely in his seat that it is a miracle I saw him. I drove straight to work and not to his day care. I can't remember why I was so distracted. Maybe it was a late day or he had me up all night. Who knows. All I know is that I was very very close to being one of those tragic stories. Flame away. I am not a bad Mom. I am well educated and have a respected job. I adore my son. I live and breathe for him. But it almost happened. And if it did I honestly can't even imagine how I would allow myself to live another day.
These parents, the one that it happens to by accident, are going to be living in a hell for the rest of their lives. I feel for them. I really do. Just like I feel for the mom whose child wandered away, the kid who was hit by a truck and the child who silently drowns. They are tragic, horrible, unthinkable accidents. No one could ever think it would happen to them and standing on soap boxes proclaiming how bad they are at parenting and how it could never happen to you doesn't make you a better mom. For the longest time I placed my purse in the backseat so that I knew I would see him when I grabbed it. I was terrified.
This never happened to me, but I also have a scary what if type of story. Last year we had a pool in a house we were living in. My Mom and sister was over and all the kids were in the pool. My kids wore puddle jumpers, but my son needed his off to go in and go to the bathroom. We were all sitting within 4 feet of the pool.
My son came back out, forgot his puddle jumper and got back in the pool. No one noticed. All of a sudden something caught my eye. My 4 year old had gotten in water over his head and looked at me with terror in his eyes. I jumped in the pool and grabbed him and pulled him out. Thank God he was fine, but he literally was drowning in front of 3 adults. We were not drinking or anything. It was so silent, all I saw were those wide terrified eyes. I am an extremely cautious Mom. Some might even view me as "overprotective." Judge not.
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| Posted 6/23/14 12:20 PM |
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hopingforbaby
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by Diane
We actually reported someone who Intentionally left their infant in a car. No windows open, and the car seat was covered with a blanket. It happened on Stony Brook campus in the Dental clinic.
That makes me sick to my stomach.. 
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| Posted 6/23/14 12:21 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by StaceyWill
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I don't think it should be the daycare's responsibility to check up on YOUR children.
You are the parent, the responsibility is totally yours. I am really not sympathetic to this. Its 10000% unfathomable to me. I can barely go a second without thinking of my son.
I don't think it should only be the daycare's responsibility either, but let's face it. If a law, or rule was put into practice at daycare centers, then these horrible deaths could be avoided. I'm not saying ALL of them would be avoided, but I'm sure some would be. I know it sounds corny but, it takes a village...
I agree. But I also think its wise for families to have some sort of plan in place, just like you make disaster plans, fire drills, etc. Maybe whomever is responsible to drop baby off calls the other parent when they do it, or texts. These stories should start that type of dialogue.
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| Posted 6/23/14 12:23 PM |
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SecretlyTTC14
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
One of the articles posted earlier in the thread mentions that they sell devices that prevent this. The article says
"There are a few aftermarket products that alert a parent if a child remains in a car that has been turned off. These products are not huge sellers." "The problem is this simple: People think this could never happen to them."
Judging by this thread alone you can see why these devices aren't big sellers.
The article also explains a theory why so many mothers are quick to say "I would never":
In hyperthermia cases, he believes, the parents are demonized for much the same reasons. “We are vulnerable, but we don’t want to be reminded of that. We want to believe that the world is understandable and controllable and unthreatening, that if we follow the rules, we’ll be okay. So, when this kind of thing happens to other people, we need to put them in a different category from us. We don’t want to resemble them, and the fact that we might is too terrifying to deal with. So, they have to be monsters.”
I think the devices should be built into car seats. Seems like a good solution and everyone would have the device whether they think they need it or not.
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| Posted 6/23/14 12:27 PM |
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ohbaby08
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PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Just read this...
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/21/us/toddler-car-death-probe/index.html?hpt=us_c2
Makes this story even more disturbing.
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| Posted 6/23/14 12:34 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by ohbaby08
Just read this...
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/21/us/toddler-car-death-probe/index.html?hpt=us_c2
Makes this story even more disturbing.
This article is making it seem as if that child did not die in that car. And that the story the father gave of forgetting him in the car was a cover up for something else.
Oh Lord....
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| Posted 6/23/14 12:44 PM |
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MrsA1012
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
this was a good read and I'm glad she realized her mistake right away
. She realized within 3 minutes, so this is quite different than the other stories on here.
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| Posted 6/23/14 1:03 PM |
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maymama
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by ohbaby08
Just read this...
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/21/us/toddler-car-death-probe/index.html?hpt=us_c2
Makes this story even more disturbing.
This article is making it seem as if that child did not die in that car. And that the story the father gave of forgetting him in the car was a cover up for something else.
Oh Lord....
seems this is about to get REAL interesting.   
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| Posted 6/23/14 1:06 PM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by ohbaby08
Just read this...
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/21/us/toddler-car-death-probe/index.html?hpt=us_c2
Makes this story even more disturbing.
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| Posted 6/23/14 1:07 PM |
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ohbaby08
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PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Yep.. The autopsy will hopefully be able to tell how this poor baby died. But, it's looking like this wasn't a horrible accident.
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| Posted 6/23/14 1:19 PM |
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by ohbaby08
Just read this...
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/21/us/toddler-car-death-probe/index.html?hpt=us_c2
Makes this story even more disturbing.
This article is making it seem as if that child did not die in that car. And that the story the father gave of forgetting him in the car was a cover up for something else.
Oh Lord....
I would like to think that since there are questions raised, the media is speculating and spinning the story to be sensationalized, I HOPE this is the case, but in my gut I don't think so.
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| Posted 6/23/14 1:21 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by gina409
For me the reason the word judge and judgement popped up is bc there is a big difference in "I cannot imagine" and " I would never"
The sentence "I would never" to me implies judgement
I am sure these parents thought they would never too
good point
when I first read it I DID feel I could not imagine it happening, reading more I realized it is quite possible..but "I would never" is judgey. I do feel like we all judge, some are harsher critics of course but we all past judgement about various things, its human nature
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RainaK
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PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Saw this update:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2666381/Was-toddler-died-father-forgot-hot-car-actually-murdered-Harrowing-possibility-raised-police-say-story-riddled-inconsistencies-case-shocks-conscience.html
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