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HaileysMom
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
Oh Lisa  My entire family will be praying for you and K tomorrow. I know alittle about custody battles because I watched my sister go through one. She had PPD and he tried using it against her. This all happened in NY (staten island to be exact). Now it didnt stick because he had already given up his parental rights prior to the hearing starting (he had signed a letter). He can use it against you but he will have nothing to prove you're unfit because frankly you are not...no where close to it. Unless he has some evidence you dont even know about. Which he doesnt cause he wasnt around that much. But you have to make sure the courts know you have seen a doctor regarding your PPD and that you're being treated for it. That will help your case SO much (my sister did this). You are a great mother. I've seen how you are with K. And how she looks at you so fondly. I'll be praying for your VICTORY tomorrow. I love you and K so much. And I miss you two alot. Keep your head held high sunshine. If God brings you to it, he'll bring you through it.
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
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Chances are he won't get your DD. He may be awareded joint custody though, which is very common these days. If that happens, make sure you tell them you want joint custody with you having physical custody. Are you taking a lawyer with you ?
Summer , how does that work if hes in Vegas and shes in NY? I mean i would NEVER ship my baby to someone in Vegas and I DEFINITELY wouldnt want to go back to Vegas with him there? I am assuming he would have to come to NY with supervised visits?
Joint Custody with her having physical custody (or vice versa) just means that they have to jointly make decisions regarding the child. Joint custody with shared custody means they split the time. They are two separate things. I didn't realize that they were in separate states. Did the OP just take the baby and leave? Where is court, here or there? If she just up and left with the baby, that could be an issue. He wouldn't be required to have supervised visits unless he didn't something wrong same for her.
Disclaimer: I'm not a lawyer..just know all this from my own personal experience, a lot of research and working in a law firm 
Ya know...I didnt even think of that. I dont think shes on right now to verify but I think she did just leave. Maybe the court will factor in the fact that she felt threatened to have to leave a bad situation. Not sure. I asked you bc I knew you kinda see these cases and are good for info I see the CPS cases from the SW standpoint so i dont see Kristina going anywhere anytime soon. Id be shocked!
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Theresa05
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
She didn't pick up and leave.. i called her parents to go and get her..
not sure if that can be used in court or not.. and all judges are different...
I know from my friend at work you can't just say you felt threatened, if there is no valid reports of abuse regarding the father you can't just claim he was abusive, every single person would say he was.. you know?
This is why these cases become messy bc its a he said she said ordeal..
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
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She didn't pick up and leave.. i called her parents to go and get her..
not sure if that can be used in court or not.. and all judges are different...
I know from my friend at work you can't just say you felt threatened, if there is no valid reports of abuse regarding the father you can't just claim he was abusive, every single person would say he was.. you know?
This is why these cases become messy bc its a he said she said ordeal..
Picked up and left meaning left without his consent.
What exactly is she going to court for tomorrow if she was just served with the custody papers today? Did she file a petition for child support?
ETA, being that she has PDD, her family all lives here (I assume) and I assume her DH works in Vegas..she can just say she left the state because she needed the support of her family and help caring for DD during the day while her DH was at work. I think that's a very valid reason.
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Theresa05
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
Posted by Summerrluvv
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She didn't pick up and leave.. i called her parents to go and get her..
not sure if that can be used in court or not.. and all judges are different...
I know from my friend at work you can't just say you felt threatened, if there is no valid reports of abuse regarding the father you can't just claim he was abusive, every single person would say he was.. you know?
This is why these cases become messy bc its a he said she said ordeal..
Picked up and left meaning left without his consent.
What exactly is she going to court for tomorrow if she was just served with the custody papers today? Did she file a petition for child support?
ETA, being that she has PDD, her family all lives here (I assume) and I assume her DH works in Vegas..she can just say she left the state because she needed the support of her family. I think that's a very valid reason.
yes, she left without his consent.. I think for custody of Kristina, I am not really even sure what court is for.. I thought for child support but I guess not just support and he is countersuiting with his own papers..
Its a long battle she just started..
I think you need to be diagnosed with PPD to use it correct?
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KristinasMama
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
Posted by Theresa05
Picked up and left meaning left without his consent.
What exactly is she going to court for tomorrow if she was just served with the custody papers today? Did she file a petition for child support?
ETA, being that she has PDD, her family all lives here (I assume) and I assume her DH works in Vegas..she can just say she left the state because she needed the support of her family. I think that's a very valid reason.
yes, she left without his consent.. I think for custody of Kristina, I am not really even sure what court is for.. I thought for child support but I guess not just support and he is countersuiting with his own papers..
Its a long battle she just started..
I think you need to be diagnosed with PPD to use it correct?
i didn't leave w/o his consent.... he picked up my clothes and her clothes and told me take the s*it and get the F outta the house, and then followed me around saying u will never come back here, and then when we left took K in his arms and said I will never forget you. Watched us leave... all in the presence of my sister and father. They heard everything.
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
Posted by Theresa05
Posted by Summerrluvv
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She didn't pick up and leave.. i called her parents to go and get her..
not sure if that can be used in court or not.. and all judges are different...
I know from my friend at work you can't just say you felt threatened, if there is no valid reports of abuse regarding the father you can't just claim he was abusive, every single person would say he was.. you know?
This is why these cases become messy bc its a he said she said ordeal..
Picked up and left meaning left without his consent.
What exactly is she going to court for tomorrow if she was just served with the custody papers today? Did she file a petition for child support?
ETA, being that she has PDD, her family all lives here (I assume) and I assume her DH works in Vegas..she can just say she left the state because she needed the support of her family. I think that's a very valid reason.
yes, she left without his consent.. I think for custody of Kristina, I am not really even sure what court is for.. I thought for child support but I guess not just support and he is countersuiting with his own papers..
Its a long battle she just started..
I think you need to be diagnosed with PPD to use it correct?
I'm not sure about the PDD.
Is she married? If the summons she was served with was a divorce summons that seeks custody, then family court won't hear a case that is pending in Supreme Court so it would most likely get dismissed tomorrow. If that's not the case and it was just a custody petition she was served with and she already filed her own petition for child support and that's what court is for tomorrow, they will only hear the child support matter (before a support magistrate) and custody falls under another judge.
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
Posted by KristinasMama
Posted by Theresa05
Picked up and left meaning left without his consent.
What exactly is she going to court for tomorrow if she was just served with the custody papers today? Did she file a petition for child support?
ETA, being that she has PDD, her family all lives here (I assume) and I assume her DH works in Vegas..she can just say she left the state because she needed the support of her family. I think that's a very valid reason.
yes, she left without his consent.. I think for custody of Kristina, I am not really even sure what court is for.. I thought for child support but I guess not just support and he is countersuiting with his own papers..
Its a long battle she just started..
I think you need to be diagnosed with PPD to use it correct?
i didn't leave w/o his consent.... he picked up my clothes and her clothes and told me take the s*it and get the F outta the house, and then followed me around saying u will never come back here, and then when we left took K in his arms and said I will never forget you. Watched us leave... all in the presence of my sister and father. They heard everything.
Oh good, I'm glad they were there! Bring them with you to Court and good luck with everything!! 
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Blissful
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
My sister went through this....but she was not married to the father of the baby. We saw a bunch of lawyers adn they all said the same thing.
The courts goal is to keep a child with a mother rather than a father unless they are deemed to be unfit. In order to be deemed unfit they need to prove that you are not meeting the everyday needs of the child such as food, shelter, clothing and medical care if need be. I doubt this is a problem for you.
Also, it is very rare that a judge award joint custody of a child at such a young age. It is not in teh best interest of a baby to be bounced back and forth. Most likely if he is awarded any visitation it will be like 2 hours 2 times a week and most liekly supervised by an appointed member of the court.
If you are breastfeeding this may even be less.
Dont worry too much. the court wants to keep children with their mothers for the most part, especially when so young.
eta: My parents work in social services and we have alot of experience with this
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PrincessP
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by KristinasMama
Posted by Theresa05
Picked up and left meaning left without his consent.
What exactly is she going to court for tomorrow if she was just served with the custody papers today? Did she file a petition for child support?
ETA, being that she has PDD, her family all lives here (I assume) and I assume her DH works in Vegas..she can just say she left the state because she needed the support of her family. I think that's a very valid reason.
yes, she left without his consent.. I think for custody of Kristina, I am not really even sure what court is for.. I thought for child support but I guess not just support and he is countersuiting with his own papers..
Its a long battle she just started..
I think you need to be diagnosed with PPD to use it correct?
i didn't leave w/o his consent.... he picked up my clothes and her clothes and told me take the s*it and get the F outta the house, and then followed me around saying u will never come back here, and then when we left took K in his arms and said I will never forget you. Watched us leave... all in the presence of my sister and father. They heard everything.
Oh good, I'm glad they were there! Bring them with you to Court and good luck with everything!!
Even better! But on a side note...how did your father not CLOCK him...IMO...hes a lucky guy 
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partyof6
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
I give your dad aloooooooooot of credit...
he didn't beat him up and he didn'tget ****** when u couldn't tke any belongings!
geez..at least if he is going to hnd u your things he could have given u some baby things...weird guy he is..
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KristinasMama
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
My dad told me after the plane took off that the only reason why he didn't hit him was b/c if he took the first shot, then a$$hole could have pressed charges. He was waiting 4 him to throw a punch so that he could retaliate.
when he threw the stuff on the floor it was like 1 thing of mine and the rest belonged to Kristina.
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Katie111806
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dooodles
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nancy6485
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
so sorry you are going through this
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
Posted by Blissful
My sister went through this....but she was not married to the father of the baby. We saw a bunch of lawyers adn they all said the same thing.
The courts goal is to keep a child with a mother rather than a father unless they are deemed to be unfit. In order to be deemed unfit they need to prove that you are not meeting the everyday needs of the child such as food, shelter, clothing and medical care if need be. I doubt this is a problem for you.
Also, it is very rare that a judge award joint custody of a child at such a young age. It is not in teh best interest of a baby to be bounced back and forth. Most likely if he is awarded any visitation it will be like 2 hours 2 times a week and most liekly supervised by an appointed member of the court.
That is simply not true about the supervised visitation or the 2 hours 2 times a week. Every experience is different but that's certainly not the norm, especially in instances where the parents were living together with the child.
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
thinking of you
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Lillykat
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Re: If you could keep us in your prayers tonight....
You obviously care a great deal for your DD and you are a good mother
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