How would you feel ?

Or should I say how mad would you be?

We were at my nephew's christening party today and I was talking to my mom and grandma. My Ds (almost 5) came over to me and was asking if he could have Hershey kisses (they were in his hand). He interrupted me and I said he needed to wait. Of course he continued to tap me saying "mom" over and over again. I ignored him because I told him he needed to wait until I was doing talking. He was relentless and kept trying to interrupt. With that my uncle slapped my DS's hand (enough for the hershey kisses to go flying) I was shocked!!! Everyone gasped and my cousin (his daughter) yelled at my uncle.

I'm so angry! I honestly don't even want to see him at Christmas!

Am i overreacting?

Message edited 11/22/2015 11:04:58 PM.

How would you feel ?

Not at all! That's terrible. I'd be pissed!!!!

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That's crazy!!!! I'd be pi$$ed........did you say anything??? I would've gone off.

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You are not overreacting at all.

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Not overreacting at all. Sorry he did that to your boy.

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No! There 's a lot I see on this board that really wouldn't bother me. I don't mind if people verbally correct my child, but slapping his hand, hell no! DH and I have never even spanked DS and I don't think he would handle it well if someone slapped his hand. It would take every ounce of my being to not punch my uncle in the face. I wouldn't want to make the situation worse in front of my DS, but I would have been livid.

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I would NOT be happy. Like PP said... I'm easy going with a lot and usually never respond to some of these posts, but for this one I agree.
First I thought you were going to say someone gave him the Hersheys even though you said No and I was going to say that's no big deal, but him slapping is sooo wrong.
At least everyone saw and agreed with you so hopefully the holidays won't be too bad and someone spoke with him. Just let him know he owes you a big apology never to lay a hand on your DS again.

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I'd be pissed!! Before I allowed him near my kid again, he would be apologizing to him. If you want to slap your own kids hand, fine, I've certainly done it, but if someone else did, I would go crazy on their ass. I don't even like other people correcting my kid in front of me, bc I'm perfectly capable of speaking to my kid.

Hopefully he just wasn't thinking and came to his senses and apologized, but if he doesn't think he did anything wrong, I wouldn't want him around my kids.

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Holy shit. I would have lost it!! No one, even family, should ever lay a hand on your child. What did your uncle say when he was yelled at?? Im fuming mad for you.

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Honestly I would have lost my sh*t... I would have told him to keep his hands to himself and to NEVER touch my child again... And Id be FUMING! Im glad his daughter put him in his place but I would have too. I totally get why your mad and you have every right to be.

At least like I said, his daughter put him in his place and when you see him on Xmas tell him he owes you and your son an apology.

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I would have said something to him right there and then and let him know its not ok to do that to my son and I would discipline him as I see fit.

not sure I would still be mad at him after that and I would probably see him for xmas and move on from it.

of course I cant def. be sure till it actually happens to me.

though if it was any of my ILs (I guess my family too) I didn't like on a normal basis I would use it as an excuse to never have to see them again

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NO, id be pretty pissed... and obviously everyone else there felt the same way

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I'm not one to drag things out and hold a grudge - but he was 100% wrong and I would have told him right then and there if he ever put his hands on my child again it would be the last time he ever saw him.

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I would have said something right then and there. He should apologize to your son.

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Glad he was yelled at by his daughter. I would have been in shock for sure, he was way out of line. So sorry this happened :(

Next time your DS has candy in his hand you better just answer him JK

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Was your son upset after he hit him? I feel like if it were one of my DD's they would have cried. I'm sorry that happened.

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Crazy

What happened when she yelled at him ? What did he say??

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I would have lost my shit. No one hits my kid.

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Thanks everyone I'm kind of "over it" today
He had no clue it was wrong and just laughed

Luckily Ds didn't care he just wanted to pick up the kisses lol

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How did your son respond?? My DD would have cried if somebody did that. She's very sensitive and we don't hit her as is, so that would be inexcusable for a random family member to think THEY can. DD has done that to me as well (it's typical for that age). It's very difficult for them to wait their turn and not disrupt. What you did (in telling him to wait and then ignoring him) is what I do as well in those situations. I would have been VERY upset if somebody slapped my child's hand or was physical AT ALL with her. Whatever if somebody tries to verbally correct my kid, but to do that really is not okay. So I think your response is completely justified. At least the others sitting around seem to have agreed with you in that. I can see why you might not have said something if his daughter had already yelled at him. I'm kind of outspoken so I might have flipped, but I can understand why you might not have. At this point, I wouldn't even bother saying anything to him though since he was already yelled at for it. lol.

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I would have been sooooo mad! I am mad for you right now. I think I actually kinda gasped when I got to the part where you said he slapped his hand. I don't blame you. I wouldn't want to see him.

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i would of been pissed.

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I guess I'm in the minority, but I wouldn't be furious. I would be mad, yes, because he was definitely out of line. But I also don't see a slap on the hand as the same thing is a slap in the face or something like that.