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shadows
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how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
I hate to raise this topic but i really don't know what's appropriate.
DH's co-worker is getting married in July. We cannot attend. This is not a close friend and not someone we've known for long at all. Sat. night wedding, pretty fancy place.
I have no idea. If we were going, we'd probably give $300.
Please don't say "whatever you're comfortable giving"... throw some numbers at me! 
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Posted 6/26/12 7:51 PM  |
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PrincessP
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
I would probably just give 200 bc thats what I think is a decent gift regardless of if you are going or not.
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| Posted 6/26/12 8:07 PM |
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JME78
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Hmm, if its someone you aren't close with at all I would probably get a registry gift, around 100 or so.
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| Posted 6/26/12 8:08 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
I usually send a place setting or something nice from the registry if I can't attend.
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| Posted 6/26/12 8:29 PM |
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LadyBug1209
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
I usually a check for $100-150 if I can't attend.
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| Posted 6/26/12 8:53 PM |
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shadows
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Thanks everyone. Unfortunately I have no idea where they registered (nothing was sent with the invite and i'm not aware of a wedding website or anything...) so it will need to be cash, or else a non-registry gift.
Any suggestions for a non-registry gift? Maybe i'm better off doing that than cash...
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| Posted 6/26/12 8:53 PM |
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
$100.
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| Posted 6/26/12 8:59 PM |
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ny55angel
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how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Check bed bath and beyond and macys. I would say those are the two most popular places I would think.
Cash/check I would probably do $100/$150
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:00 PM |
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labonnevie
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how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
there's a website where you can type in one of their names and it will tell you where they are registered. but i'm syre it's one of a few places that you can easily narrow down: macy's, BBB, williams and sonoma, crate & barrel.
i'd probably send $100 to $150. never thought of a registry gift, that's not a bad idea (for my future reference!)
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:05 PM |
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lululu
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Look for a wedding registry on Wedding Channel. Most stores link to that. I would then send a place setting or similar. If you can't find anything then I would send $100-150.
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:07 PM |
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WhatNow
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
I don't get it: you are NOT going but still planing on giving them a monetary gift even though they are not close friends and you haven't known them that long?
I would just politely decline and move on. Would never thought of actually giving them something.
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:08 PM |
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BeachGrl
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
If I wasn't going and I wasn't that close to them, I would send either $100 or $150
I agree with the above posters, if you can find where they're registered, you can send them a gift from there.
We got a few gifts from my bridal registry sent to us from guests that could not attend. I thought it was very nice of them
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:15 PM |
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shadows
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
thanks for the suggestions & opinions!
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:22 PM |
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Posted by WhatNow
I don't get it: you are NOT going but still planing on giving them a monetary gift even though they are not close friends and you haven't known them that long?
I would just politely decline and move on. Would never thought of actually giving them something.
me too.
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:22 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
It's nice of you to even gesture. People who declined my wedding did not give anything and I didn't expect them too. It's DH co-worker not family, I thinkits nice to just get something small off the registry. I would not do cash
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:30 PM |
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luvmyReese
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Posted by cncforever
Posted by WhatNow
I don't get it: you are NOT going but still planing on giving them a monetary gift even though they are not close friends and you haven't known them that long?
I would just politely decline and move on. Would never thought of actually giving them something.
me too.
Just did this. It was my neighbor's daughter whom I never exchanged more then a "hello" with or seen in at least a yr. I declined wedding invite and do no plan on sending a gift.
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:32 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Honestly, I wouldn't send anything. If there was a work-related shower, I would buy a gift for that.
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| Posted 6/26/12 9:48 PM |
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BunnyWife
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Posted by luvmyReese
Posted by cncforever
Posted by WhatNow
I don't get it: you are NOT going but still planing on giving them a monetary gift even though they are not close friends and you haven't known them that long?
I would just politely decline and move on. Would never thought of actually giving them something.
me too.
Just did this. It was my neighbor's daughter whom I never exchanged more then a "hello" with or seen in at least a yr. I declined wedding invite and do no plan on sending a gift.
I agree. Or maybe just send something little off their registry (if you can find it).
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| Posted 6/26/12 10:16 PM |
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jennandrob
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
we declined DHs coworker destination wedding and sent something off their registry. (i just googled their names, and it came up!)
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| Posted 6/26/12 10:24 PM |
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BabyLove08
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Posted by WhatNow
I don't get it: you are NOT going but still planing on giving them a monetary gift even though they are not close friends and you haven't known them that long?
I would just politely decline and move on. Wou
ld never thought of actually giving them something.
ITA
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| Posted 6/27/12 4:17 AM |
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Chai77
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Posted by WhatNow
I don't get it: you are NOT going but still planing on giving them a monetary gift even though they are not close friends and you haven't known them that long?
I would just politely decline and move on. Would never thought of actually giving them something.
Thank you for this, I thought I was the only one! This is what I would honestly do, but if your DH is friendly with her and you were so inclined, I could see buying her something small off the registry (like around $50- a nice frame for example).
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| Posted 6/27/12 5:09 AM |
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tink23
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Posted by WhatNow
I don't get it: you are NOT going but still planing on giving them a monetary gift even though they are not close friends and you haven't known them that long?
I would just politely decline and move on. Would never thought of actually giving them something.
Agreed. I would send something for a family member or friend, but not for DH's co-worker.
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| Posted 6/27/12 7:18 AM |
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BeachGal
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Nada
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ThePinkGoose
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Re: how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Posted by Mrs213
It's nice of you to even gesture. People who declined my wedding did not give anything and I didn't expect them too. It's DH co-worker not family, I thinkits nice to just get something small off the registry. I would not do cash
I agree......but if anything, aybe just send a small gift card to BBB ($50?) and a polite note.
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| Posted 6/27/12 8:17 AM |
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missfabulous
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how much would you give... (wedding we can't make)
Maybe something small off the registry or a gift card to BBB.
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