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katie629
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Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I have a 13 month old DD... My parents watch her 3 days a week while I am at work. They want a car seat so they can take her out during the day. I understand that they should have one, they are doing me a favor by watching her... I shouldnt have them trapped all day with her...
BUT... she is horrible in the car right now. Hates the car seat, screams to holy you know what... It makes it hard to drive at times.
Plus, I don't think they understand that it is not so easy going out with her....
Anyway... deep down I know I should get them one, but Im a nervous wreck about her going with anyone in a car other than me and DH... and I even get nervous when he is with her alone...
Am I normal for feeling this way? How did you get over this fear?
Message edited 12/8/2011 7:38:37 PM.
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Teachergal
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
Personally, I totally trust DS with his grandparents in the car. I know that they are good drivers (probably better than me!). I want them to be able to take him fun places and make memories together.
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| Posted 12/8/11 7:23 PM |
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ReiRei13
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I would NEVER NOT allow them! My parents also watch my DS while I work, and I couldn't imagine asking them to stay home all day M-F.
They did an amazing job raising me, they were always careful with me in the car, and I know they'll do the same with my child.
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| Posted 12/8/11 7:31 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I don't think you're being ridiculous in feeling how you do. I don't think this question has a general yes or no answer either. It all depends on how good of drivers they are, if they're quick enough to catch a LO who might dart away in a parking lot, how LO behaves, etc. I'll say I'm not comfortable with anyone driving DD, although my parents took her out once when they watched her over the weekend. My mom watches her one day a month and she's already bringing up needing a car seat (DD is 8 mo). I don't know entirely how I feel about it either at this point. . . Of course I want DD to have outings with her grandparents but I kind of feel like there isn't a need until she's able to actually remember them and know what's going on. No need to drag a baby around and just risk an accident. I can argue both sides of this, haha. Basically, I can totally relate to how your feeling and don't have a good answer. 
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| Posted 12/8/11 7:39 PM |
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wanttobeamom
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
Yes, I let my parents drive DS around.
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| Posted 12/8/11 7:51 PM |
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janedoe
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
Yes, I let both sets of grandparents and siblings drive with DD. I can not imagine telling someone they can not get out of the house while they are doing me a favor and watching DD for me so I can go to work. I go crazy when I watch DD in the house all day so I cant imagine asking someone else to do it.
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| Posted 12/8/11 7:54 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
No, nobody has ever driven our DD.......she is 3. My Dad is a horrible, horrible driver........I would never consider it. My mom is fine but I am a SAHM and I am always with my DD so I do not see the need for anyone to drive her around.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:06 PM |
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I would never tell my parents to not drive DC. Especially if they watched him three days a week.
I don't think it is fair to make your parents stay in when they are helping you with childcare.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:09 PM |
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Christine2
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I let both sets of grandparents take her out and bought each a carseat for them last Christmas (DD was 6 mths). Not just for the fact that they shouldn't be stuck in the house all day, if there were to be an emergency and they needed to take DD to the doctor or hospital, I wanted them to be able to.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:12 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
Posted by katie629
I understand that they should have one, they are doing me a favor by watching her... I shouldnt have them trapped all day with her...
Plus, I don't think they understand that it is not so easy going out with her....
Anyway... deep down I know I should get them one, but Im a nervous wreck about her going with anyone in a car other than me and DH... and I even get nervous when he is with her alone...
Am I normal for feeling this way? How did you get over this fear?
My parents watched my DS his 1st year while I worked and I had a car seat for them from day 1.
You are absolutely right, they are doing you a favor and they should NOT be trapped all day with her. They had lives before watching her and while of course things changed once they started watching her, things need to be done. Shopping, supermarket and just getting out. They can take her new places and show her new things. It is SOOOO difficult to be home with them all day, I know, I'm a SAHM now, that it is unfair of you to force them to be home.
They don't need to understand that it's not easy to go out with her. They will see for themselves. And actually, maybe it will be easy for them. They may handle it better or she may behave differently for them, who knows.
I totally understand being overprotective and being nervous. I am extremely protective of my DS and downright anal about how I want things to be done for him and with him. But still, there are limits, and when your own parents are choosing to put their lives on hold to watch your child, you have to let go and know that they have your child's best interest at heart, that they love this child, and will care for this child as their own. And, they raised you. And if you can wholeheartedly say they did an amazing job with you (i'm assuming you think this otherwise they wouldn't be watching your DD), then you owe it to them to trust them taking your DD out.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:13 PM |
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LulaBell
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I trust my parents and inlaws completely and they both have their own car seats for her. Each watches her one day a week and I am very happy that they drive her around, take her places and do things w her. I couldn't imagine them not doing that.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:15 PM |
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BeachGal
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I would and have let my mom drive my DC.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:23 PM |
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clmj2
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
my parents pick DD up from daycare everyday so yep they drive her around daily.
they also watch her whenever i have things going on on weekends. so they dont stop their lives because they are doing me a favour
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:28 PM |
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A3CM
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
My in-laws take my DD at least 2-3 times a month overnight (she's 2) and they have a cars eat for her in their car. They also have a booster seat for DS when they have him when he's not in school.
My aunt & uncle drive the kids around. My aunt takes my DD ever Friday night for a sleepover so I could not imagine them not having a car seat. Even my 23 & 25 year old cousins drive my kids around when they take them.
I cannot imagine watching a child for 3 days and not taking them out.
But your child your rules.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:33 PM |
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carlowlou
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I am a SAHM but my parents have carseats for both my children in their cars. I trust them completely. I even let my sister drive DD around. I know they are as careful with my kids in the car as I am. I understand feeling nervous about it though.
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:42 PM |
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jam11308
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
My parents have been watching ds 3 days a week since he was 3 months old (he's over 2 now) & they've been driving him around since then. Like the pp's I cannot imagine forcing them to stay home all day with him - they'd go crazy. They take him to a playgroup that he belongs to (that's run by my town), programs at our library, to playdates w/their friend's grandkids & to the store/on errands all the time & he lovessss the socialization & change of scenery too. FWIW, if both of your parents are there your dc is apt to act a lot differently with them than w/you...my parents outtings w/my son are a lot easier than mine lol
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| Posted 12/8/11 8:52 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
personally I wouldn't trust my parents to drive my dc, and I wouldn't let them watch him either......
my IL's I trust to watch him....... It took alot for me but I let FIL drive him..... its not very often that he'd need to, but I know FIL is a very safe driver(he's handled alot of auto claims at work).......
considering they watch you ds and assuming you know they are safe drivers then yes they should really have a car seat...... It will expand the things they can do and your kid will love being able to go places.
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| Posted 12/8/11 9:53 PM |
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ChrisDee
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
Yes, my parents take my kids in the car. From the very beginning. I think it is very unfair to ask them to watch my kids and tell them to sit in the house all day. I think it is 1,000 times harder to be couped up all day then to take them out.
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| Posted 12/8/11 10:01 PM |
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allIwant
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
yes I let them drive the babies around. My dad picks them up 2 days a week at my job and takes them to their house. My dad is probably a better driver and even more careful than me. With that being said I can understand your fears especially if your dd is screaming and yelling in the car
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| Posted 12/8/11 10:15 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
When my ILs watched DS while I worked I bought them a car seat to drive DS around. They always drove him with both of them and my MIL would sit in the back with him.
I am a SAHM now but I Have no issues with either set of parents driving my DSs
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| Posted 12/8/11 10:23 PM |
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tara73
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
Have a tech teach them how to use the seat and check the install.
I've found at checks that grandparents are very willing to learn from me. I'm a neutral third party. They're fascinated by the new technology. They pay attention more than the parents do. They do best when mom/dad aren't hovering around them.
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| Posted 12/8/11 11:24 PM |
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Alli06
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
I trust both sets of parents to drive my DS around.
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| Posted 12/8/11 11:36 PM |
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Myababy
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
i couldnt imagine if they didn't it makes my life so much easier. (and i totally trust them)
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| Posted 12/8/11 11:39 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
Neither set of parents watch our DD since I am a SAHM so this never comes up. However, i would NEVER allow it. My mom, MIL and FIL are nervous drivers and dont drive often enough so NO!! My mom doesnt even wear a seatbelt, is stubborn and refuses to. So NO! My dad is the best driver of them all but still, NO thank you.
I have a friend whose mom would watch her DD but she never allowed it either.
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| Posted 12/8/11 11:49 PM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Do you let your parents drive your DC around?
My parents watch 3 month old DS. They take him out all the time. It doesn't phase me in the least.
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