Do you ask your parents for money?

I'm not asking because you are desperate (you or your SO lost a job or anything like that). Two guys I work with (both in their mid-20s) still ask their parents for money. (These two live pretty good lifestyles too.) I'm not judging them or anyone that does this, I'm just curious to see if there are a lot of people that do this.

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i would never,
but i have a friend who is the parent and her 30ish daughters have no problem asking and putting their hands out for money from their parents when the daughters make more than the parents,
i think it has a lot to do with how you are raised,

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No.

I work in the family business with my father -- but I earn my paycheck.

IMO I could not imagine living on my own and still coming back to mommy & daddy for spending money for the weekend or something. I wouldn't feel like an adult. But that's just me.

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No way-I mean I would if things got tight and we had to to make ends meet and had no other option, but never just to have more.

I think I stopped asking for money when I first started working a job after school.

Our families are generous, but we do not ask.

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No.

My SILs, however, are a different story. And they are all older than me.

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No, I feel very uncomfortable doing this.

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Sometimes....but I always pay her back (or at least ATTEMPT to but sometimes she doesn't take it). We are close like that though. I don't think DH would ever borrow from his parents.

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No, never ever. DH's parents do give us money from time to time but he never asks either.

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No, never. Both DH and I were very financially independant since high school age. I think we are each the only one out of our siblings that don't ask for money though.
I gladly welcome money as a birthday gift though!

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DH and I do not. I don't even like to borrow money when I desperately need it!

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Parents fault.

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No - anything I have received since I was a student was a gift (and I never asked for it either, usually a birthday gift or something). I would literally have to be at the point of eviction and starvation to ask them for money.

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Since my mom gets her money from me, the obvious answer is No

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no I would never ask for it- but my parents are very generous with us which is much appreciated

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never ever

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No, but DH has no problem asking his parents. He's gotten better, but his mother insists on giving him money for things.

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I never ask for money, but my parents are very generous. Whenever we go to their house (they live in NJ) my dad gives me $ for gas and tolls. It's ridiculous I feel like they are always giving us a little money here and there. I spent years trying to fight it, but my parents' line is always that they would rather see us enjoy their $$ now than just leave it to us when they pass, so I don't really argue with them about it anymore.

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I have never asked my dad for money. Although he has offered to buy stuff for us as a gift when needed occasionally (new washer, money towards a used car) but we have never ever blatantly asked for money and could never do that. I would feel so awkward...

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Posted by jerseychick

I never ask for money, but my parents are very generous. Whenever we go to their house (they live in NJ) my dad gives me $ for gas and tolls. It's ridiculous I feel like they are always giving us a little money here and there. I spent years trying to fight it, but my parents' line is always that they would rather see us enjoy their $$ now than just leave it to us when they pass, so I don't really argue with them about it anymore.

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Even if I was in a REAL serious bind... I couldn't because it's just not an option. I have never had that "luxury".

It would be more likely for me to give money to my mother than her give me money.

I have worked since I was 13 years old... and for the most part supported myself.

Message edited 7/13/2010 12:49:49 PM.

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No, and we've been to the point where we were seriously struggling. My parents are very very generous though, and buy us things pretty often. If my mom sees clothes she'd think I'd like and it's on sale or she catches a sale on food items..I always try to offer the money back to them, but they don't take it. I still have yet to buy DD any clothes, because my mom ALWAYS wants to come shopping with us and then wants to pay.
If, we use her ezpass or credit card (we don't have any) then I always pay her back.
Dh wouldn't ask his dad because we make more than him.

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Absolutely not--I'm an adult. If I want something, I work, save, and sacrifice for it like a responsible human being.

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My parents are deceased, but before they passed, I never asked. They may have offered, but I never asked.

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we have a family member on DH's side who is married, in their own home, and their parents (primarily the mother) still pays this person's bills... a lot of them. it doesn't stop this person from going on vacas, getting fancy window treatments, and even putting in an expensive paver patio. it is amazing to me (and even moreso to DH) but at the same time, since they raised this person that way they know no different - and it is a shame b/c they will never be able to get out from under that cycle of dependency. they have been through several jobs and cannot keep one - and is currently unemployed b/c i think they have no 'fear' of 'what am i going to do if i lose this?'...

i, personally, have never asked my parents for money - and i have worked since i was like fifteen - always supported myself, even bought my own clothing and such in HS. my parents paid for part of my first car as my belated sweet 16 present - the car was a total of $1,700 or something like that. they paid for it and then I paid them back 700 dollars -- the $1k was instead of my sweet 16 party. i was given a choice - they would throw me a party for it or i would get the car. and i chose the car. it was funny and ironic b/c girls in my HS had these lavish sweet 16's at places like flowerfield -- which is where i got married

when i got married my parents offered to pay for their guests, my wedding gown, and my mom hosted my shower. i thought this was awesome! for me, i felt so appreciative and i thought it was very generous. we paid for the vendors and our HM as well as obviously our wedding bands. IL's paid for their guests, the RD, and their gift to us was the band which was great.

i'm so glad my parents raised me the way they did - i worked, i paid for my own things, it was a nice balance and i never felt really deprived - instead i really felt grateful for what i had and anything 'nice' that was given as gifts was really cherished. i hope i can do the same with my kids!

*oh and recently we ended up short for our closing costs - we didn't ask but my parents were nice enough to see the tough spot we were in and offer to lend it to us. we accepted only b/c we know we can take our tax credit and immediately pay them back.

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Never.

They have given money as Christmas, birthday but we'd have to be in dire straits to ask for it.