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First, I am so sorry to hear of you loss..

Secondly the best thing I ever did after my sister passed away was seek counselling. You can check with your church, some offer group counselling sessions.. You can check with your insurance company, they were most helpful for us. They told us who and where we could find the counselling we needed group or individual. Also the Hospital is very resourceful. Different people handle grief differently. Just cause you are a social worker, don't feel that you need to be super woman and handle the way everyone else is feeling. Take care of yourself, and I really hope I helped. If you need to vent or talk, My FM box is always open!

My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

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im so sorry for your loss....

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FM

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FM me....I am a funeral director on LI & could get you some info.

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I don't have any additional advice but I wanted to offer my condolences....

I am so sorry for you and your family.

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I am so so sorry to you, and all of you who have lost parents and close loved ones.

I'm sure that as a social worker, you have resources for both private counseling and/or group counseling.

Where do you live? I may have some names for you (I'm a guidance counselor)

Again, I am so so sorry!!!

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Hi there. I ust wanted to personally let you know that it is totally normal to feel everything you are feeling. I lost my father when I was 13 from lung cancer and my sister in a car accident ewhen I was 19. I am now 30. I would be more than happy to speak to you anytime!! Keep your head up. I don't know how religious you are, but that really helped me along with a group when it first happened. I feel I need to go talk about my issues still and its so many years later!! I have healed from the pain, but there are times when I still feel sad. I have been told thats normal. Its really amazing how as time goes by, you feel better. Take every day as another day to feel better. Then, you always go backwards a little then get back on track. The holidays will be hard, but do realize they go by fast and you WILL be ok- I promise!!!! Don't feel guilty if someone brings it up to you and you don't want to talk about it becasue it makes you sad. Its ok. I do want to encourage you to talk about it everyday to try to speed up the greiving process. The mmore you get out, the faster you will accept this and not bottle things up. I will pray for you and please forum mail me ANYTIME!!!!

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I'm so sorry for your loss!!

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Im so sorry for your loss

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Just wanted to thank everyone for their kind words and FMS. Its been tough and I guess a little shocking to watch your dad die in such a miserable unexpected way. Like some of you that had prior losses, I also had a great parent and he was loved in so many ways. As many people mentioned, I dont feel the need for group bereavement but I think maybe talking to a counselor a few times might make us feel better as a family. My moms jobs we just found out offers this. I have ups and I have downs. I hope it gets better. I also like some of you just got married in july. At least the last memories were happy ones and everyone was together. Again, thank you for all the kind words. It doesnt feel so lonely when u know other people are in the same boat.
Paulette

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I am terribly sorry for your loss. It is perfectly ok to feel sad, lost and upset. Talk with your friends, cry, sleep, hug people and come here to let it all out. Your dad will always be with you and proud of you for who you are, for every success and every bump along the road.

I don't have any recomendations for psychologists, but perhaps someone you know does.

Lisa

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I am so sorry for your loss

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I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I can do to help

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I am so sorry for your loss.
I will pray for you and your family!

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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

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I am so sorry

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Just wanted to say I am very sorry for your loss

Does your employer have any type of EAP (Employee Assistance Program) - they are normally free and confidential and can refer you to a counselor.

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Thanks everyone for all your help and kind words. My moms job has some bereavement counseling she will be looking into. I think I am doing better then I expected. I am taking it one day at a time. Unfortunately my wedding video came this past monday. What timing. At least we have good memories.

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I am so sorry!

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I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers

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I just lost my father as well this past summer. I am truly sorry for your loss. There are no words to describe the feeling but I am sure your family will stick together and support each other. That is the most important thing.

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I completely understand what you are going through. I was also 29 when my mom passed away. She was 54. I still find it hard to deal with. Yesterday was her 3 year anninversary but it could have happened 3 minutes ago. Everyone says it will get easier but for me I haven't felt that way yet. Unfortunately my mother went in for elective surgury, had some complications, spent 11 months in the hospital before she passed away. She died due to poor aftercare. (Very long story) I think thats why it is so hard for me to accept. She would still be here if the hospital hadn't screwed up so many times.

Feel free to FM me if want to talk.

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I am so sorry.

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I am so sorry for your loss

My father died at 49 when I was 19 years old. The grieveing process can take longer than you expect sometimes. If you ever need anything, please FM

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Honey, I am right there with you. My Dad who was 53 died last year of a massive heart attack and it was the week before I turned 28. It was also before my wedding to make matters worse. I've always been someone who likes to grieve on my own truthfully so I don't know how well I'm going to be able to "help" but I do want you to know that you're not by yourself. I help myself by remembering all the good things - I am a Daddy's girl and always have been. I also went back to work immmediately to keep myself busy. If I stayed home I'd think about it constantly. I also worried more about my Mom and my brother. My DH (my FI at the time) was great. He just let me cry and do what I needed to do. I guess I pretty much just went day by day. Some days I was weepy and others I was fine. I'm so sorry for you and your family but everything will be fine. You all need each other. Try to remember the good things. Please write if you ever need to talk.

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