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Funkybutt
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Dating questions
I don't want to start a new thread for each of my dating questions so I thought I'd create a general thread. I already asked about "meeting for drinks" so here's another.
There's a really cute manager at a grocery store I used to visit. I've talked to him in passing while checking out but nothing that would stand out to him. I moved 2 months ago and don't go there anymore but today I was in the area and thought I'd go there (partially to see if he was working). For some reason I got it in my head to ask him out (which is SO out of character for me bc I'm shy and embarrass easily - plus I've been down on myself lately being 50 pounds overweight and not having luck with meeting guys). I told myself it would be crazy to ask him out (he's super attractive and probably 10 years younger - and I had my 8 yo DS with me). But when I got there, he was right by the entrance and I told myself I didn't have anything to lose since I don't shop there anymore. I wrote my name and number on a piece of paper and had no idea what I'd say but I didn't want to see a negative reaction from him or it'd shatter what little confidence I have.
I finally got up the nerve to go up to him and I said - "This is super embarrassing but I've talked to you a few times and you seem nice. I'm wondering if you'd like to go out sometime?" And I have him my number then said something about being embarrassed and that I was going to run away now. As I turned away he said "Have a nice day!" And I said "You too" and scurried away like a chicken.
Ok - flattering or goofy?
He never had a yuck look on his face - mostly pleasant and slightly shocked since the whole encounter was less than a minute.
I don't honestly think he'll call but I'm just proud of myself for putting myself out there since it's out of character for me. I also don't have to wonder "what if" bc now I'll know!
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klingklang77
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Re: Dating questions
Oh that’s cute! I think it’s fine. And like you said, you have nothing to lose? See if he calls or texts. 
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| Posted 10/15/17 4:07 PM |
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jlm2008
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Dating questions
Good for you! That takes guts! You have nothing to lose and he may surprise you, and if not, be proud that you took initiative!
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| Posted 10/15/17 4:37 PM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: Dating questions
I think that is awesome!! you are super brave for doing that and if nothing comes out of it, so what? Like you said you had nothing to lose
By the way, I don’t think it’s goofy at all. I think it’s adorable!
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| Posted 10/15/17 5:41 PM |
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pumpkinmom
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Dating questions
I think he's probably flattered, but I wouldn't ask out someone at their job unless you really feel like you made some kind of connection.
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| Posted 10/15/17 5:51 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Dating questions
Good for you!
If he calls great.
If he doesnt thats fine too. At leaat now you know you can take the 1st step. Theres something exciting about doing that!
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| Posted 10/15/17 5:58 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Dating questions
You go girl!! That took guts. Good for you!
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| Posted 10/15/17 6:43 PM |
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Funkybutt
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by pumpkinmom
I think he's probably flattered, but I wouldn't ask out someone at their job unless you really feel like you made some kind of connection.
I can see that. I guess I felt it was ok since I never shop there, and I told him that so he doesn't feel weird about running into me again.
Thanks all for making me feel a little better about it. I don't really think I'll hear from him but I feel pretty good about finally having some courage. :)
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| Posted 10/15/17 7:16 PM |
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mommy2be716
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Dating questions
i think that whether or not he calls you is not too important here, but the fact that you had the courage to ask someone out was! Good for you. If he calls, great. If he doesn't, you should still feel good that you had the courage to do that
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| Posted 10/15/17 7:44 PM |
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Adri
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Re: Dating questions
 Good for you! I would never be able to do something like that, but I wish I was.
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| Posted 10/15/17 9:22 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Dating questions
Um, you're awesome and if I ever get divorced I want you to be my wing woman.
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| Posted 10/15/17 9:39 PM |
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klsnyc805
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by mommy2be716
i think that whether or not he calls you is not too important here, but the fact that you had the courage to ask someone out was! Good for you. If he calls, great. If he doesn't, you should still feel good that you had the courage to do that
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| Posted 10/16/17 11:57 AM |
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Tulips915
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by mommy2be716
i think that whether or not he calls you is not too important here, but the fact that you had the courage to ask someone out was! Good for you. If he calls, great. If he doesn't, you should still feel good that you had the courage to do that
Exactly!!
I don't think I could have ever done that! Good for you!
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| Posted 10/16/17 12:07 PM |
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SusiBee
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Re: Dating questions
Good for you !
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| Posted 10/16/17 12:14 PM |
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Laraaidan
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Re: Dating questions
No wayyyy I could have done that!!! I give you tons of credit. And I really hope he calls
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| Posted 10/16/17 12:20 PM |
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hmm
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Dating questions
It is hard, I've asked people out. Nothing lost by asking only gained !! nothing to feel embarrassed about either even if you do shop there
good for you
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| Posted 10/16/17 12:39 PM |
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Funkybutt
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Dating questions
In case anyone's curious - he didn't call. I'm not too surprised - I found his FB page and the only photos were of him and other attractive men. No one looked to be a significant other, so I don't know if he's gay, but that's what I'm telling myself. :D
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| Posted 10/21/17 3:04 PM |
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hmm
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by Funkybutt
In case anyone's curious - he didn't call. I'm not too surprised - I found his FB page and the only photos were of him and other attractive men. No one looked to be a significant other, so I don't know if he's gay, but that's what I'm telling myself. :D
ok, but now YOU know you have the courage to ask someone out, it wasn't so bad.
The next man you're attracted to ask :)
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| Posted 10/21/17 3:15 PM |
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Funkybutt
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by hmm
ok, but now YOU know you have the courage to ask someone out, it wasn't so bad.
The next man you're attracted to ask :)
Exactly. :) Sometimes I think about what I did and I feel like it wasn't me b.c it was so out of character. But it was and I had the guts to do it, so I know I'll be able to do it again. :)
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| Posted 10/21/17 3:56 PM |
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nycbuslady
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Dating questions
When I was single, I read a lot of "self help" books. One of them said that women shouldn't directly ask a man out. They should tell them that they want to be asked out. Basically, a woman should give a man her number or email or other way of contacting her so that HE can actually ask her out.
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| Posted 10/21/17 6:25 PM |
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hmm
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Posted by nycbuslady
When I was single, I read a lot of "self help" books. One of them said that women shouldn't directly ask a man out. They should tell them that they want to be asked out. Basically, a woman should give a man her number or email or other way of contacting her so that HE can actually ask her out.
just wondering, when was the last time you were single?
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| Posted 10/22/17 8:13 PM |
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Disneygirl17
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Re: Dating questions
But you did it! That’s a step ahead in my book!!
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| Posted 10/22/17 8:38 PM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Dating questions
You go girl! I’m giving you an internet fist bump.
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| Posted 10/22/17 8:58 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by nycbuslady
When I was single, I read a lot of "self help" books. One of them said that women shouldn't directly ask a man out. They should tell them that they want to be asked out. Basically, a woman should give a man her number or email or other way of contacting her so that HE can actually ask her out.
I hate advice like this. First of all, it's not 1956. Second, if you are the type of woman that wants to ask a guy out, you want to be with a man who wants to be with a woman who is willing to ask the guy out. Basically, I think the best way to find the right person for yourself is to be yourself. I hate these things that are basically teaching you how to play games in order to land the right guy. If you can't be yourself from day one, it's not the right guy for you.
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| Posted 10/22/17 9:40 PM |
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nycbuslady
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Re: Dating questions
Posted by hmm
Posted by nycbuslady
When I was single, I read a lot of "self help" books. One of them said that women shouldn't directly ask a man out. They should tell them that they want to be asked out. Basically, a woman should give a man her number or email or other way of contacting her so that HE can actually ask her out.
just wondering, when was the last time you were single?
I've been married for 11 years. But, I got married at age 40, so I was single a long time -- LOL!
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