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Bearcat
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JoesWife628
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
 the good news is that being that it's on your mil's mind, she will most likely be extra cautious going down the stairs while holding her. Does she have any physical impairments? If not, I wouldn't be too worried.
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| Posted 2/24/12 9:09 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
What a Stupid thing to say?! Who does that?
I'd just reply... DON'T
Do you have a PnP?
We have a PnP downstairs to nap DS when we're home.
I'm sure you have a railing. Tell her to use it and walk slow?
Does she have hip issues or something that would make her say that? Maybe buy her none slip socks or tell her to wear sneakers.
Some people  
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| Posted 2/24/12 9:09 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
ugggh sorry you have to worry about that. Maybe she can just nap in a PNP downstairs and sleep in the crib at night?
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| Posted 2/24/12 9:11 AM |
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onehappyday12
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
That statement would make me nervous too. Could it be that she doesn't want the extra work trucking up the stairs with the baby? Is she capable of it ? The other thing is, if she is nervous, that would make her extra careful when it's time to go up, which would be a good thing. Not to make you more nervous, but if it were me, I would tell her to keep her cellphone in her pocket in case she needs to make a call.
On the more serious other hand, if she cannot carry your DC and climb the stairs safely you need to figure out an alternative. I know exactly what you mean, because I just just got the twins to finally sleep and nap in their cribs. GL.
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Bearcat
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
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GioiaMia
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
DD slept in the PNP every day for naptime and slept in the crib every night.
my mom felt the same way about bringing DD up and down the stairs and honestly, so did I. It was something I thought about a lot (but thank God nothing happened)
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
You could try the PNP. Honestly though, do you think your MIL might just be feeling a little uneasy and nervous about this whole arrangement? It might be in your best interest to find a sitter or a daycare.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
I think she was thinking out loud.
Maybe try the PNP in another room..
My mom has a knee problem so she told me before DS even got here she would never carry him up and down the stairs. At her house she has a porta crib in the living room for when she babysits.
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EricaAlt
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
Posted by Bearcat
she says her knee bothers her when it rains but beyond that there's nothing I know of in terms of physical impediments.
yes we have a PNP in the living room - is that going to totally destroy the crib transition that we worked so hard on?
MIL watches TV in the living room when the baby naps... I can move the PNP to a different room if need be.
how the hell am i supposed to get anything done today, ugh!!
I don't think at that age. DS2 is 7 months and naps in PnP on Fridays and weekends, naps in a crib at daycare Mon - Thurs and and sleeps in his crib every night
At that age they'll be fine
If she's worried about her knees then tell her to nap her in the PnP. SHe shouldn't of said that to you, but I see now I guess she was worried herself.
Don't worry about it. Call every once in a while to check in
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Bearcat
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
For peace of mind for you, I would use the PNP for naps & the crib for bedtime. Then on the weekends, do all the naps in the crib. We use our PNP for naptime & never had issues with the crib for bedtime.
Not to freak you out, but I have slipped down the steps at least twice with the boys in my arms.
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Bearcat
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
I agree with a PP she may have been thinking out loud, esp if you have a steep flight of stairs, I may be nervous going up and down if I wasn't used to them.
I am sure she will be extra cautious, and she will feel more confident once she goes up and down a couple times.
I would still have her put DD in the crib at least until DD gets used to sleeping in there.
I am sure you will call anyway, but Just call a little more than you would through out the day to check in.
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Bearcat
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
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maymama
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
i think its a normal fear - when DS was very young, i always got freaked out by the idea of tripping or missing a step while carrying him and  fall on him!
i think its a normal fear and a good one - makes her aware and she will likely be more careful because of it
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
Is there any way you can move the crib downstairs until your dc is old enough to climb the stairs with her help? This is what we did because my mother had the same fear. We put the crib in her den on the 1st floor & then when ds was old enough to crawl up/scootch down the stairs on his bottom we moved the crib upstairs into her spare bedroom
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GioiaMia
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
I wont ever say you are overreacting, bc there is no such thing for a working mom, who has to be away from her baby.
I used to have nightmares that DH would leave DD in teh car when he took her places, I would call him to ask stupid questions just so I could make sure he had the baby with him 
But I dont think her saying that means she can't handle watching the baby. I think it is really really common and she didn't mean anything by it and I am sure she didn't mean to upset you.
Sometimes we say things without thinking, and that is definitely something I would say without giving it a second thought.
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
Posted by blu6385
ugggh sorry you have to worry about that. Maybe she can just nap in a PNP downstairs and sleep in the crib at night?
I agree. My kids nap in the pack n play 4 days a week at my moms and sleep fine in their crib at night!
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SummerMom
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
If you're worried about it and want her in the PNP for naps, it would be fine. My DD did the opposite: she slept in her PNP at night (in our bedroom) and in her crib for naps for 5 months. Nighttime was never a problem.
As for what your MIL said... she seems to suffer from "Foot in Mouth" disease. She just says whatever is on her mind. If you're carrying a baby down the stairs, thinking the worst (even once, fleetingly) is something that crosses everyone's mind. You just don't normally say it out loud to the baby's mother. No one would accuse your MIL of being "normal," though... 
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Katareen
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
I agree with everyone...I'd use the PNP for naps. The stairs in my house are VERY slippery and I would never put my mom (or any sitter) in a position where they may fall and hurt themselves or DC.
IMO its always good to have a little flexibility with your child bc you won't always be home for them to nap in their crib.
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Bearcat
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
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Katareen
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
Posted by Bearcat
thanks everyone. thinking about it more, we will do what we have to in order to accomodate her and so we all are comfortable. i just REALLY wish she had said something sooner and not when I was walking out the door this morning. she was at the house every day this week for an hour when DH went to workout, so it's not like this totally caught her off guard this morning.
If she didn't catch you off guard and make you crazy, she wouldn't be a MIL 
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mamabear
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
As some others have said, I think she was thinking out loud. It's a normal fear. I think the good news is, if she's aware of the danger, she's likely to be more cautious.
My DH fell down our outside stairs when DD was 9-10 mths old. He dropped her at the end onto the hard street. Luckily she was wearing a big puffy coat and there were leaves on the ground. But she had a big goose egg on her head. He was going too fast and not being careful.
My cousin's baby broke her leg when somebody fell carrying her down a flight of stairs.
My aunt fell just walking when she was carrying my baby (5mths old at the time). She didn't drop the baby, but she hurt her own knee.
I'm not saying these things to freak you out, just to say that they are unfortunately reasonable fears. If MIL is aware of the danger, she'll be careful. If she is not confident that she can be careful, use the PNP.
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Re: advice needed - MIL said something this morning that completely freaked me out
Posted by JoesWife628
the good news is that being that it's on your mil's mind, she will most likely be extra cautious going down the stairs while holding her. Does she have any physical impairments? If not, I wouldn't be too worried.
I agree with this. Its everyone's fear. She just voiced it. Bad judgement, probably. I wouldn't have been bothered about it.
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