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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?

To each their own. I didn't have a 2nd shower, or sprinkle and wouldn't have expected anything like it.
I voted tacky.

ETS: People will flame me and say every baby should be celebrated. I don't disagree with that, but honestly think the purpose of a shower is to get what you need for the baby.

Message edited 8/5/2010 1:32:19 PM.

Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?

I wouldn't have a full out shower and would only do a sprinkle if baby #2 was a

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I don't really care one way or the other, but in my family they are seriously frowned upon. Someone is just out of her first trimester with their 2nd and I'm already hearing "Do you think they'll have another shower? I'm not going if they are" blah, blah, blah.

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I voted other.

I didn't want a sprinkle/shower and told everyone that.

The girls at work insisted on throwing me one and insisted that since they were going to buy me a present anyway, it might as well be things I needed or wanted.

Since I didn't expect one, I had already purchased everything I needed myself (double stroller, new nursery bedding, clothes, etc). I ended up registering for little things like diapers, wipes, new bottles, burp clothes, pacis, infant medicines, lotions, bath stuff, etc.

So, the bottom line is, if someone really wants to do it for you, I wouldn't stop them, but I would never expect one or ask for one.

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Sprinkle...not tacky at all IMO. 3 years is enough of a difference that inevitably you will need some things especially if your baby is a different sex then your first. Even if you have a baby the same sex as your first you will still need new things.

IMO...I wouldn't do a full shower for the second unless there was a big age gap but thats just me.

My friend is pregnant with her second a girl...her DS is 19 months old. Her mother is throwing her a sprinkle at home. She did register again which I don't find tacky. What made me is that she registered for a new swing, playpen (big ticket items) all things I know she got for her first shower and things that can be considered gender netural so IMO thats maybe a little much but to each his own.

I don't see the big deal honestly. I think every baby should be celebrated so I will buy you a gift regardless or whether you have a shower/sprinkle or not.

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hmm..a welcome baby shower...never thought of that

I guess I gotta figure out what I should do

one part of me doesn't want to even register, but just have a celebration or something

the other part of me says, well, people who get married a second time have repeat showers and stuff

hmm.. I definitely have time to think more about it!!

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I voted other...I am all for a small sprinkle, especially if the 2nd DC is a different gender, but a full blown-out shower, tacky IMO. I've heard of worse things though....one of my coworkers friends was having a baby shower for her FOURTH child! She was having a and what made it even worse is that her 3rd child was also a girl and only 18 months old!

Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?

a small sprinkle is more appropriate than a full out shower but I would be fine with either honestly

my frinds and family would never bat an eyelash

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I don't think it's tacky at all. I think it's fine to have a party to celebrate your pregnancy. I wouldn't put where you are registered on the invites, though. Then they won't feel like you're only having them over so they'll give you things.

I'd also pay for it myself or host it myself for the same reasons.

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Everyone is different - I think it's tacky and presumptious.

Part of the reason I feel this way is b/c in my circle of friends and family you could have 20 kids and we would ALWAYS buy you a little something in anticipation of the baby's arrival, and then bring a gift for the baby when we meet him/her -
No kid ever gets jipped with me !!

Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?

Everyone is different and to each its own. I voted Tacky! But I think so because big baby showers are for ppl waiting for big ticket items or things they are just to lazy to buy. They should know what they need since its a second child.

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I do think a second full-blown shower is tacky. I don't see anything wrong with a sprinkle, but a shower or registry would be too much, in my opinion.

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I was so against a second shower when I had DD#2 even though they were 7 1/2 years apart. I felt funny about it. I received a few calls from immediate family telling me that they wanted to have a small get together to celebrate this baby. They all knew how much of a struggle it was to have #2(lots of drugs and four m/c's ) They really wanted to celebrate. So I agreed to lunch with 10 people at my mom's house and it was perfect.

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I think a shower is tacky...if anything a sprinkle..I'm not having anything this time around..had a shower with DD.

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My friends threw me an amazing surprise sprinkle. I didn't expect anything with DC#2.

I would do a sprinkle, but not a full shower. Something small and nice. It's totally up to you though.

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I never expected a shower the first time around because Jewish families typically do not have them. I will not plan a sprinkle. I pretty much just have to get clothing and bedding - very little else even though the genders are different.

However, I do not think it is tacky to have a second shower or sprinkle. There are ways to do it. You can have a diaper/onesie/book sprinkle. It doesn't have to be over the top.

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Sorry but I think a full blown shower is a one time deal. A sprinkle is cute is someone if willing to do that you for you but it should be small and not as big of a deal as your shower was. If I were invited to a second shower for someone I would think it's pretty tacky and greedy and it would annoy me.

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I don't plan to have a second one for myself.

I would not mind attending a shower or sprinkle for a second child. I enjoy giving gifts and believe every child should be celebrated.

A lot of other people seem to view a second shower as greedy though.

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i honestly don't think it's tacky at all. i love to have parties. people don't have to come if they feel it's tacky, but it doesn't mean you can't throw one.

i threw my best friend a baby shower for her third baby bc i wanted to do something nice for her. i honestly never thought twice about it possibly being tacky. plus, everyone who came had a great time and brought beautiful gifts and it was just so nice. i say go for it!

ETA: most of the gifts were onsies and bath accessories, etc. obviously no one got huge big gifts bc my friend already had them. but, she got adorable new clothes for her new daughter!

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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?

I think past 4 years, yes I can see a second baby shower.

Seriously, we are not supposed to use a carseat that is 5 years or more. Same for crib. So why are people thinking we should reuse what what used for baby #1?

So you would have to rebuy all of this. Which is most of where the expense is.

If DC is still young, you will have to buy another carseat anyway. For your car and/or DH.

And what about the stroller. If you had a girl mostly people would buy a pinkish girly stroller. I am sorry. but I would not use that for a baby boy.

So yes, it depends on age diffence and sex.