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Rycois
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I don't think it's tacky to have a sprinkle in SOME instances (different sex a few years later, struggle, etc.)
Think of it this way, would you think it's tacky to have a 2nd wedding shower if you were married in the past? I don't know - obviously it's a new marriage, new celebration, but IMO, I view the showers as a party organized to get you started on your marriage or parenthood.
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sperminated
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by Bridex100
I don't plan to have a second one for myself.
I would not mind attending a shower or sprinkle for a second child. I enjoy giving gifts and believe every child should be celebrated.
A lot of other people seem to view a second shower as greedy though.
ita!!!
i personally do not want a sprinkle..
i just dont think it is necessary to register again. the first time around you get all your big ticket items plus a lot of other little things..
i think the 2nd time around, clothes for the new baby is sufficient and all i would need/want.
i think a sprinkle is def a good idea for moms having twins .
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| Posted 8/5/10 4:24 PM |
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sperminated
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by SweetCaroline
IIMO, I view the showers as a party organized to get you started on your marriage or parenthood.
this is perfectly said! this is how i view showers as well.. its a party to get you started..
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| Posted 8/5/10 4:25 PM |
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IheartF&M
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by Hofstra26
Sorry but I think a full blown shower is a one time deal. A sprinkle is cute is someone if willing to do that you for you but it should be small and not as big of a deal as your shower was. If I were invited to a second shower for someone I would think it's pretty tacky and greedy and it would annoy me.
ITA!!!
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| Posted 8/5/10 4:34 PM |
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meli722
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
some people think its tacky, some dont..
this is going to be my 2nd and i kind of want one  ...i really enjoyed my first baby shower, and i got EVERYTHING i needed
but to each his own, but yes some people do think its tacky
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| Posted 8/5/10 4:40 PM |
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Ali1
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I personally think a full shower is tacky for a 2+ baby. I don't have any issues with a sprinkle as long as they are kept small and agreed to by a small group of people with no invitations sent out. For my sister-in-law her mother took immediate family and one best friend out to a brunch. This was the first girl for my sister and we all brought cute outfits for her. I thought that was really nice and well done. However, I think sending out invitations to a larger group or people who are not "in" on the idea of the sprinkle is tacky. I would hesitate going to them unless it was a close family member.
Trust me I celebrate each child when they are born with a nice gift for the baby.
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| Posted 8/5/10 4:50 PM |
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missa
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I am always up for a party I think a Sprinkel is fine! with close friends and family especially if you are having another sex baby! But not a full out shower!
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| Posted 8/5/10 4:58 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by SweetCaroline
I don't think it's tacky to have a sprinkle in SOME instances (different sex a few years later, struggle, etc.)
Think of it this way, would you think it's tacky to have a 2nd wedding shower if you were married in the past? I don't know - obviously it's a new marriage, new celebration, but IMO, I view the showers as a party organized to get you started on your marriage or parenthood.
Yes, I agree that a sprinkle (self-organized or suggested) is in poor taste. I also feel the same about a 2nd bridal shower, especially if you are already established in a home.
If someone were to throw a surprise little sprinkle (baby or bridal) with just the closest family and friends, people who are going to buy things anyway, then I don't see the harm in everyone getting together to celebrate it as one.....KWIM?
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| Posted 8/5/10 5:16 PM |
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Irishgrl13
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Personally, I chose "other" because I would say MAYBE have a "sprinkle" if you knew this one was a girl...and have a boy stuff....
However, I don't think I would have another full blown shower just because a lot of the stuff you get at a shower, you would most likely have already...
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| Posted 8/5/10 8:24 PM |
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Salason
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by SweetCaroline
To each their own. I didn't have a 2nd shower, or sprinkle and wouldn't have expected anything like it.
I voted tacky.
ETS: People will flame me and say every baby should be celebrated. I don't disagree with that, but honestly think the purpose of a shower is to get what you need for the baby.
I agree with this!
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| Posted 8/5/10 8:26 PM |
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babyonthebrain
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I think a sprinkle would be appropriate.
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| Posted 8/5/10 8:37 PM |
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Aristotelina
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I agree that there are definitely exceptions to the rule. If a certain time has elapsed and/or you are having a different gender baby then SURE have a sprinkle or a shower!!!
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| Posted 8/5/10 9:20 PM |
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Mom2010
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I would put "other". My situation was a little different because my child is six, a female and this is a 2nd marriage. My current husband has no babies in the family and there was really no celebration (outside of the wedding; no shower, engagement party, etc.) to our union. While I felt a little weird w/a shower, I really appreciate the generousity of everyone who was there and I believe everyone had a good time.
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| Posted 8/5/10 9:27 PM |
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Jmo depends on how far apart they are and if the sex of the baby is different then your first dc. Also not a full blown shower just a sprinkle.
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| Posted 8/5/10 10:53 PM |
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fakie-name
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I'm not a fan. And honestly, what is the difference between a shower and a sprinkle? Aren't guests expected to bring gifts to both?
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| Posted 8/5/10 11:08 PM |
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DomesticDeeva
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I had a sprinkle, and I do not think it was tacky at all. I have a DS and am now having a DD. So we need clothes, because most of the stuff I have is very boyish. Great for around the house, but not when we go out...it's bad enough that when I had DS in HEAD TO TOE blue, people still thought he was a she.   Imagine if I take DD out in his boyish clothes???
Plus, I feel that even if there isn't much of an age gap, there is inevitably going to be stuff you need. Double stroller, new bedding, diapers, replacements for things that broke or that you might have sold, not knowing you would need them again. I know some people think it's tacky, and if they feel that way, they don't have to come. That's JMO.
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| Posted 8/5/10 11:11 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I would say to register for things you need at the very least...
It was tough to get gifts for my SIL, who had kids only 2 years apart ( then ).
It would have been nice to see what she really NEEDED (we were going to get a gift anyway)... instead, we got the new an outfit and money....
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| Posted 8/6/10 7:45 AM |
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jes81276
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
funny you posted this....I have always thought showers for the 2nd child were tacky...my thoughts were that people were so incredibly generous the first time, how could one possibly ask them to purchase more stuff! However, now that I am pregnant with #2, I guess I could see why a sprinkle would be nice if the sex of the 2nd child were different....I still have mixed feelings about it.
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| Posted 8/6/10 7:48 AM |
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Rycois
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by curliegirl
If someone were to throw a surprise little sprinkle (baby or bridal) with just the closest family and friends, people who are going to buy things anyway, then I don't see the harm in everyone getting together to celebrate it as one.....KWIM?
No harm at all, of course not! I think if your friends want to throw you a little sprinkle to celebrate - it's sweet, and why not!
Shower with registry for big gear twice - that's a little tacky IMO
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| Posted 8/6/10 8:08 AM |
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julz33
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by SweetCaroline
Posted by curliegirl
If someone were to throw a surprise little sprinkle (baby or bridal) with just the closest family and friends, people who are going to buy things anyway, then I don't see the harm in everyone getting together to celebrate it as one.....KWIM?
No harm at all, of course not! I think if your friends want to throw you a little sprinkle to celebrate - it's sweet, and why not!
Shower with registry for big gear twice - that's a little tacky IMO
ITA - little sprinkle is fine but big shower with registry is a no-no IMO.
I was going to have a sprinkle for the twins but then my uncle had an accident so we cancelled it. I honestly wish we had it, because even though the same people are givng me the same gifts as they visit the babies, it would have been nice to have a lot of the stuff already when the babies came home.
(I have a 2 year old DS and 1-week old BG twins)
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| Posted 8/6/10 8:59 AM |
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Eireann
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Posted by curliegirl
If someone were to throw a surprise little sprinkle (baby or bridal) with just the closest family and friends, people who are going to buy things anyway, then I don't see the harm in everyone getting together to celebrate it as one.....KWIM?
I think I mostly agree with this. However...
I have never attended a sprinkle.
Nor have I ever been invited to a sprinkle.
Beyond that, I have never even heard of a sprinkle outside of this website.
My DC are 20 mos. apart. My BFF happened to be pregnant at the exact same time with her 2nd DC--who would be 4 years younger. We were both Team  . We made lists of what we needed for #2, took a day off of work, went to BRU and bought the stuff OURSELVES. Then we had a nice lunch. When the babies were born two months later, we ended up each with the same gender we already had, and still received TONS of clothes, etc. #3 for me will be 3.5 years younger than my 2nd and I plan to do the same thing!
Can't stand the argument..."Every baby deserves to be celebrated." Yeah, because all those pink 0-3 month clothes were for ME in the hospital...and so was the big christening celebration. So it was really evident that people cared a lot more about my first DD. 
ETA...I didn't vote in the poll. I don't think a sprinkle is tacky...
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| Posted 8/6/10 9:24 AM |
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pig22seal
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
I went to my first sprinkle last year...I didn't think it was tacky. It was more of a backyard BBQ. She was having another girl and her first was 2 years old. There weren't a lot of people there.....it was actually very nice. She recieved clothes, diapers, rattles, blankets, and gift cards.
My DS is 16 months and I am due with #2 in December. With my 1st pregnancy and baby shower I registered for all neutral thinks because I knew I wouldn't have another shower, nor would I ask for one. But a sprinkle is not tacky....it should be fun! I am not expecting anything!
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| Posted 8/6/10 9:51 AM |
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
tacky....
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| Posted 8/6/10 11:21 AM |
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Samira0407
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Nope not tacky at all. I'm throwing my sister a "Sprinkle" this weekend for her new 4 week old baby-it's a sprinkle/welcome baby party at my house. Everyone is so excited to come and get to see him. Plus her 1st child is almost 4 and a girl; so she needed a few small boy specific things. She already got a new stroller; reusing the high chair; crib; bouncy. (all the big ticket items). So her registry just has things you'd need again-bottles; diapers; little boy stuff etc.
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| Posted 8/9/10 11:22 AM |
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quasi3
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Re: A poll..tacky? Sprinkle or a shower for the 2nd baby?
Crashing
I am invited to a sprinkle for someone who is having baby number 2, 2 years apart. I declined the initiation.
I will bring a gift to the house after the baby is born.
I voted tacky. I never really understood why someone would have a second shower or sprinkle - no matter how far apart their children are.
Some of the responses make me
If you are pregnant then you should be ready to purchase all the items that your child would need and not depend on the generosity of others.
I believe it is very nervy to expect people to purchase you a double stroller or other items including clothing YOUR child.
If someone wants to come to your house with gifts that is one thing but throwing or having a "shower/sprinkle" for gifts is very nervy.
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| Posted 8/9/10 11:45 AM |
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