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aliwnec10
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would you be mad if in laws...
missed your kids birthday?
my son is turning 1 january 23rd. My in laws are going to FL jan 5th for 4 months. Last year they went in february.
I imagine they'll do this every year.
Would you be mad if your inlaws missed your kids birthday?
No reason behind it. They just want to go to sooner.
Keep in mind my sons have no other grandparents. Just them.
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Kate
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
No that would not make me mad. The grandparents have a life too.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:28 PM |
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
I would be hurt  My mom goes for a month in Oct but this year and going forward she is going to wait until after DS's birthday on the 6th
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:29 PM |
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aliwnec10
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Posted by Kate
No that would not make me mad. The grandparents have a life too.
so you wouldn't be mad if they missed your sons birthday every year? really?
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:31 PM |
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aliwnec10
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Posted by Kate
No that would not make me mad. The grandparents have a life too.
let me just say that i get they have a life. We know that. They go to FL oct 9-nov 16th. Then back for 4 more months jan-april 15th.
But i don't understand how they can't wait 2 more weeks in january to go? for what... golf?
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:33 PM |
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Posted by aliwnec10
Posted by Kate
No that would not make me mad. The grandparents have a life too.
so you wouldn't be mad if they missed your sons birthday every year? really?
I wouldn't be mad at all. Their life does not revolve around me and my kids.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:33 PM |
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
I would be mad.
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Posted by aliwnec10
Posted by Kate
No that would not make me mad. The grandparents have a life too.
let me just say that i get they have a life. We know that. They go to FL oct 9-nov 16th. Then back for 4 more months jan-april 15th.
But i don't understand how they can't wait 2 more weeks in january to go? for what... golf?
Seems like you have deeper issues with your in-laws.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:34 PM |
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drwifettc
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
I'd be hurt if it was an every year thing. Would it make you feel better if you did his party a little earlier? Have they booked their tickets yet, could you tell them it would mean so much to have you here for his birthday?
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:34 PM |
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Kate
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Posted by aliwnec10
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No that would not make me mad. The grandparents have a life too.
so you wouldn't be mad if they missed your sons birthday every year? really?
My MIL lives OOS and hasn't seen my children in years.
When is his birthday? Is it right before they leave, and they just choose to leave earlier? Or is it in the middle of their 4 month trip?
I guess we don't make a huge deal about birthdays in my family. We have a party, yes, but that's it. If the grandparents were a big part of my DS' life otherwise, and just miss that one day, I don't see the big deal.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:35 PM |
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Yep, that would bother me.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:37 PM |
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Kate
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Posted by aliwnec10
Posted by Kate
No that would not make me mad. The grandparents have a life too.
let me just say that i get they have a life. We know that. They go to FL oct 9-nov 16th. Then back for 4 more months jan-april 15th.
But i don't understand how they can't wait 2 more weeks in january to go? for what... golf?
That's different then. If they could postpone for just two weeks in order to be here, then I would be a little annoyed. But I wouldn't expect them to change their trip every year.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:37 PM |
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Yes, I'd be mad.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:42 PM |
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would you be mad if in laws...
I think for the first birthday I would be a little hurt. It's a milestone birthday even if the child doesn't remember it...you and your DH will remember.
But in reality I don't expect anyone to change their plans just for us, so I would have my DH speak our peace and then if they continue to always not be around for DC's birthday, so be it. I wouldn't bend over backwards to accommodate them after that but I wouldn't force the issue.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:42 PM |
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jam11308
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would you be mad if in laws...
It wouldn't bother me at all, but in my family we're always celebrating events/holidays on "off" dates...either early or late.
My ILs live OOS & haven't come to town for ds' birthdays since he was born, but we always have another get together with them either before or after the date. DS loves that he gets to have a second birthday (and a 2nd cake) with them.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:45 PM |
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would you be mad if in laws...
Nope I wouldnt be mad. But thats jmo.
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
I don't think this sounds like deeper issues, I think it sounds insensitive and selfish of them to not postpone their 4 month long trip by 2 weeks for their grandson's birthday. I would be hurt and insulted, both for myself and my son. Some grandparents seem to be like this though and there's not much you can do about it.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:46 PM |
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JenMarie
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Yep! Mine didn't come to my DDs 1st birthday. Something I personally can not forgive.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:47 PM |
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PurpleC
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would you be mad if in laws...
Yep I would be mad. My parents changed there dates to Florida in October so they could be here for his first holloween. Birthdays are important and your only asking to postpone it for a few weeks not month's.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:49 PM |
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Lillykat
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
My parents missed my DD's birthday. They said either we miss one child's bday or the other pre k graduation. We just celebrated it another day. I guess unless you and everyone plan on taking the day off of work or pulling them from school there will be many bdays that will be missed. So I guess it would not really bother me. But I would be upset if they didn't celebrate at all. In our family we celebrate the weekend before or after a birthday when the day falls on a weekday. Are they willing to celebrate before they go or when they come home?
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donegal419
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
No, I wouldn't. It looks like they spend almost half the year down there, so they are bound to miss things on a regular basis.
This is coming from someone whose parents are very involved in their grandchildren's lives (they only have two - mine ). HOWEVER, I grew up with my grandparents living in Ireland and I can count on one hand the number of times I saw them as a child. I did not have the experience of having my grandparents in my life on a regular basis at all, let alone my birthday.
yeah, i might be upset about it, but i get it. if it looks like they'll miss it every year, maybe you could set up a fun tradition of celebrating his 1/2 birthday with them every year, or coming up with some other way to do something special with them.
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Bearcat
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
I'm probably not the best person to answer this... I'd be thrilled.
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:57 PM |
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Posted by Bearcat
I'm probably not the best person to answer this... I'd be thrilled.
Sorry but LMAO
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| Posted 9/13/12 1:59 PM |
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
Mad...no
Upset...yes
But I think I would just buy them a ticket to fly up for the weekend, and tell them that you would really like for them to be there.
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| Posted 9/13/12 2:00 PM |
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srella22
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Re: would you be mad if in laws...
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I'm probably not the best person to answer this... I'd be thrilled.
Sorry but LMAO
In all honesty I would be upset, especially if it was my child's only g'parents.
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