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nyteacher13
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Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
I'm definitely going to opt for the vaginal birth (as a spinoff to my other post on c-sections), and I was wondering: after dh witnessed the vaginal birth of your baby, did he get "grossed out" by the whole process?
I have a feeling that dh will be totally grossed out and never look at "me" the same way ever again. Has anyone experienced this? In order to mentally get him ready for the bloodbath (lol), I told him that he can't look past my knees when I deliver. He was VERY happy that I said that. He gets so queasy with everything, I can't imagine him getting through this without a tranquilizer!!! hahahhahaah
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Ok, I am going to be brutally honest here, but how did your DH think the baby is going to get outta there? This is a totally natural thing.
My DH didn't have a problem watching the birth at all, it isn't anything related to sex or sexual at all, it is a totally different function.
I had a second degree tear and we didn't have any problems getting back into a normal sex life...or as normal as it is going to be with a baby.
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| Posted 7/1/08 10:21 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
my  is not here yet, but DH will have to stay up "north" when I give birth 
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| Posted 7/1/08 10:22 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
DH witnessed it all and I don't think he was grossed out at all. It hasn't changed our intimacy at all.
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| Posted 7/1/08 10:27 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
If I am lucky enough to have a vaginal birth I think my DH would be so impressed with my bravery that he would find me MORE attractive.
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| Posted 7/1/08 10:28 PM |
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
I think it's a wise idea to check some birthing videos out from the library prior to  Seriously though, unless he has the maturity level of a 12 year old, he shouldn't be "grossed" out by seeing his kid born. My sister, the dry heave by looking at raw meat kinda girl with no children, helped deliver DD and cut her cord and she wasn't grossed out 
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Faithx2
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Posted by monkeybride
DH witnessed it all and I don't think he was grossed out at all. It hasn't changed our intimacy at all.
Same here
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| Posted 7/1/08 10:30 PM |
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nickipa
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Posted by BlessedMommy
Posted by monkeybride
DH witnessed it all and I don't think he was grossed out at all. It hasn't changed our intimacy at all.
Same here
same here as well....he was so impressed by the whole process, not grossed out at all (and he is one to get lightheaded with blood taken)
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| Posted 7/1/08 10:33 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
why would DH be grossed out at the birth of his child? where would he think the baby would come from? 
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| Posted 7/1/08 10:46 PM |
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Karebaby
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
My DH was grossed out, but only because that kind of stuff makes him lightheaded anyways. He had to sit down for the birth of our DD, and he stayed near my head for our 2nd. But it didn;t change our sex lives afterwards. If anything it's better now than before!
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| Posted 7/1/08 11:09 PM |
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Aga
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
dh wanted to see everything, he was fascinated by it, nothing changed between us
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Karebaby
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Posted by melijane
If I am lucky enough to have a vaginal birth I think my DH would be so impressed with my bravery that he would find me MORE attractive.
Thats kind of how my DH was. When he called everyone to tell them the baby was here, he kept bragging that I did it all natural and he kept saying, "I can't believe she just did that without drugs!"
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| Posted 7/1/08 11:11 PM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
My DH said watching our children be born was the most amazing thing he's ever seen. Our intimacy has not changed at all, and he reacts no differently than pre-baby..
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| Posted 7/1/08 11:16 PM |
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Superkat
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
We have not resumed "activities" yet because I have to wait until my 6 week checkup. Initially, I didn't want my husband watching the birth process. I wanted him to hold my hand, stand near my head, etc. During the birthing process, I didn't give a darn who was standing where. 
My husband was holding my leg during the delivery amd actually watched our son being born. The look of joy and astonishment on his face was worth it all!! He is a very scientific person and was asking the doctor all kinds of questions. She was awesome and answered everything for him. He was so proud of me (as a woman) and when we have our next child, he will be right there watching again.
Oh and he can't WAIT to resume activities once the doctor gives us the all clear.
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| Posted 7/2/08 12:57 AM |
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nyteacher13
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Thanks for your comments and thoughts!
Let me clarify: dh never verbalized that he would be grossed out; I'm projecting how I think he'd react. Even if he were about to pass out, he would never verbalize anything negative about the process - just knowing how he reacts with other things (getting blood drawn, surgery scenes in movies), I'm imagining how he'd be with birth. Maybe this is something that he'll surprise me with, and maybe men just "step up to the plate" when it's time to see the birth of their child. Oh, and he's very aware about where "babies come from" and doesn't have a maturity level of a 12 year old. He can goof around with the best of them, but I wouldn't be with the man if he were an immature moron.
Let's be realistic though. There has to be some change in perception after witnessing something as extraordinary as this. If I were on the other side of the table, this would be a life-changing experience for me and I'd look at intimacy differently afterwards I think. Let's just be glad I'll be on the pushing end and not the receiving end! 
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Rycois
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
My DH said there was absolutely nothing sexual about it and was so thrilled to witness the birth of our son. Now he forgot to move and witness the birth of the placenta too - that he said was 
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Porrruss
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Posted by nyteacher13
Let's be realistic though. There has to be some change in perception after witnessing something as extraordinary as this. If I were on the other side of the table, this would be a life-changing experience for me and I'd look at intimacy differently afterwards I think. Let's just be glad I'll be on the pushing end and not the receiving end!
Yes- the change in perception is that he was in awe of what my body can actually do.
And you're right- it IS life changing. 8 weeks before I gave birth to DD, I was blessed to be able to watch my SIL give birth to my nephew. Let me tell you- WATCHING how hard we work to push that baby into our lives is truly life altering. I literally floated home from that experience.
My DH was nervous that he'd pass out or be afraid watching me be in pain. He even asked if it would be OK if he just stayed up by my head so as to avoid the carnage . I didn't care- as long as he was supportive, I was cool with whatever he looked at.
He watched the entire thing. Hearing his excitement while DD was actually entering this world is actually what I remember the most- and is what was possibly my most precious memory of that day (well- beside seeing Maddie for the first time).
Since her birth, our sex life is exactly the same. Granted, it occurs less spontaneously due to having a baby, but his view of me as a sexual person hasn't changed at all. In fact- the big boobs from BFing has actually enhanced it for both of us .
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| Posted 7/2/08 6:29 AM |
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pickles16
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Posted by krissy888
my is not here yet, but DH will have to stay up "north" when I give birth
My DH is beyond queasy, I swear it looks like he may cry before they take blood from him...so I told him he'll stay by my head the entire time, no need to go down there....I understand....
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MrsR
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
I was concerned about this - so I asked Dh to stay "up north" and he did it without protest. It made us both happy to have it that way.
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| Posted 7/2/08 7:39 AM |
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DanaRenee
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
My DH was fine after!!
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| Posted 7/2/08 7:53 AM |
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Disneygirl
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Watching the birth of DD did not change DH's horny ways at all! He even watched the Dr cut my episiotomy and I recall him asking about 2 wks later if I was all healed up yet!
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yankinmanc
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
OMG If men as a whole were turned off by seeing women having babies the human race would have died out millions of years ago!!!
If he has a problem after you squeeze his baby out of your vagina, you should probably get rid of him anyway!
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| Posted 7/2/08 8:16 AM |
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2BEANS
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
My dh watched the entire birth of my dd.. and he saw EVERYTHING!! including the placenta. He didnt get grossed out at all, if anything i think he learned to appreciate more how wonderful and amazing the female body truley is.
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| Posted 7/2/08 8:37 AM |
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vegalady
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
I told DH not to watch but he saw the whoel thing. It hasnt stopped him from being intimate in any way. He is not even disgusted by it at all.
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| Posted 7/2/08 8:57 AM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: Vaginal Births - Dh's experience and post-baby intimacy
Posted by melijane
If I am lucky enough to have a vaginal birth I think my DH would be so impressed with my bravery that he would find me MORE attractive.
ditto!!
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