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LSP2005
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Is it the same first middle and last name? If so, I would be really upset. I think you have a right to be annoyed. If you plan on having another child I would outright tell them another name because they are crazy. One time, fine it happens. Twice, what they want to live your life too. They are wrong but there is nothing you can do and they will forever look dumb to the entire family.
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by JME78
If its someone you don't see regularly, aren't close to, who cares?
You don't own the names, you obviously have similar tastes.
You are right, I don't see them regularly, but I do care. The rest of the family cares-but thinks they were rude for using the names (which I guess makes me feel slightly better.) Maybe it's the fact that they are claiming they didn't know-it ticks me off more, because they DID know, they were told multiple times.
I don't own the names, never said I did, it just makes me frustrated that the names I painstakingly picked out are being claimed as their 'great idea'.
If they use my third child's name, would those who say not to care, feel the same? I mean really, how far do you go? One kid I can see being like eh, ok. But two or three? Out of all the names in the world, you have to copy someone you grew up with?
I understand, they are just names, and my kids are what make their names unique.
Imitation is not a form a flattery in this case.
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by LSP2005
Is it the same first middle and last name? If so, I would be really upset. I think you have a right to be annoyed. If you plan on having another child I would outright tell them another name because they are crazy. One time, fine it happens. Twice, what they want to live your life too. They are wrong but there is nothing you can do and they will forever look dumb to the entire family.
NO, thank goodness. My son's middle name is my father's-that would have been even creepier if they used my dad's name. Although I did ask what the girl's middle name was, and was going to have a hissy fit right there if it was the same.
It's too bad the wife isn't pg again so they would have to pick a third name before me.
If they copy me a third time, I'll consider it stalking. 
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
yea that would bother me a lot too! we went to great lengths to pick our son's name- to be original (well in our group of friends/family) and it was painstaking to pick a name that we both loved.
and we found it.
then my sil picked a name 9 months later that rhymed with it
so now we have Braydon and she has Jayden
I think they look so dumb taking both your names though!
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lakadema
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
It would bother me in the sense that I think it's weird that they did it not once, but twice. It would creep me out a bit. Once, I get you like a name, two times though, is a little stalker-esque.
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| Posted 12/10/12 1:36 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by lakadema
It would bother me in the sense that I think it's weird that they did it not once, but twice. It would creep me out a bit. Once, I get you like a name, two times though, is a little stalker-esque.
We don't even tell people names until the kids are born. So they literally wait for us to name a kid, and take the same name 3 months later. And they do this right when they find out they are pregnant, so they have plenty of time to change the name during the pregnancy.
IDK, if I find out someone I know is pregnant and I hear the name, I take that name right off the list. It no longer becomes even a possibility of using it. My friend named a baby a name I've had on my list for years. It is now off the table bc I wouldn't want to rip her kid's name off.
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lynnd126
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Normally I would say they are idiots, and this is CERTAINLY something I would feel ridiculous doing, but when you said you found out this weekend from your mom "that they have two kids now" I thought to myself that you guys are so extremely not a part of one another's lives. I think that really makes it different.
My DH's family is ridiculously close. I really liked the name of a 12 year old "cousin" who is actually his father's cousin's son. I didn't do it, but we see each other a lot. Like maybe once a month. If it was a cousin who was so distant that I didn't even know they had another kid, I definitely would have used the name.
The both kids thing is silly though Does this woman have no sense of shame? I would be like omg everyone will talk about this.
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LotsaLuv
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Twist on using a name someone already has.
To be honest I wouldn't care. There are sooooo many people in this world with my name. If my brother wants to name his kid the same as my DD go ahead, it's a name. If my best friend wants to use a name I like or have plans on naming my kid, go ahead. I guess it comes down to the person, I have other things to worry about than someone using a name I like.
ETA: I just read a lot of the responses and I guess I should tell people to hide their names from me since I don't find it disrespectful, and would not think twice about using "someone elses name" LOL
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Waste06
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
I think it's really bizarre.
My son's name starts with the name J. My SIL named her daughter with a J name. I am pregnant with my 2nd, and I definitely did not want to use another J name. I didn't want to make it seem like we were all about J names in my husband's family (there are only 3 grandchildren on his side, and 2 have J names. A 3rd seen too much to me.) So picking the same name wouldn't even be a consideration.
Next time you see your cousins, tell them that you and your DH like to have sex on Tuesdays in case they want to steal that idea from you too! 
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headoverheels
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
It's not even a matter of being rude or not rude. It's just that these people are idiots. They look like stalkerish copycats and that's on them, not you
On a side note, you should DEFIITELY use the name Caden now 
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by StayForever
Next time you see your cousins, tell them that you and your DH like to have sex on Tuesdays in case they want to steal that idea from you too!
OMG you are going to make me pee my pants!
I think this might be the statement I use when I see them.
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by headoverheels
On a side note, you should DEFIITELY use the name Caden now
Different friend. LOL
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morbar
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Just out of curiousity .. what are your children's names?
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| Posted 12/10/12 2:08 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by morbar
Just out of curiousity .. what are your children's names?
Why, you aren't her are you?
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maybemommy10
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
I would tell them that baby #3 will be named %hithead.
Seriously, that is stalker creepy, what a weirdo
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morbar
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by neener1211
Posted by morbar
Just out of curiousity .. what are your children's names?
Why, you aren't her are you?
LOL! No ... I just wanted to know the names that are so amazing she had to steal them! BTW- I would be pissed too!
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summertime
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
When you say family, do you have the same last name? Is this a 3rd cousin or something?
At the end of the day it doesn't sound like you are remotely close since you didnt even know they were having a 2nd baby.
In any event, if it was just one name I wouldn't think anything of it but both kids is definitely suspect and wierd IMO.
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dlj97
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Twist on using a name someone already has.
As long as your kids were born before theirs, isn't it obvious who "stole" from who? I wouldn't care - especially if you aren't even close enough to know they had a second kid.
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| Posted 12/10/12 4:07 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by summertime
When you say family, do you have the same last name? Is this a 3rd cousin or something?
At the end of the day it doesn't sound like you are remotely close since you didnt even know they were having a 2nd baby.
In any event, if it was just one name I wouldn't think anything of it but both kids is definitely suspect and wierd IMO.
Not the same last name, I am cousins with the boy.
We are not close, however we were at a party together and they knew both of my kids names-because they were there too. I don't have FB that I would see it there either. They had already told the family they were pregnant and planned to use DD's name, but the family kept it from me because they thought it was wrong and were hoping they'd change it. I would never have known she was pg at that time, nor would I have asked when she was going to have another.
Like I said, I had (kind of) come to terms with the one name, but to use both, is just moronic.
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neener1211
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by dlj97
As long as your kids were born before theirs, isn't it obvious who "stole" from who?
I know, it's just annoying that I can't slap them upside their heads.
I just made sure the names weren't anywhere in our family, and then they go using them. Frustrating to me-I know some people don't care.
I guess I can be prepared when they use the third name too. 
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Bridex100
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Yes, that is super weird. If they are not close to you and you don't see one another often, it would bother me less.
You should feel flattered. They must really love your name choices.
I have a friend who named her girls my top two picks of girls. It is a moot point because I have 2 boys but I may still have chosen the 2 girl names even if that one friend had the same names. I would not have been copying them. I loved those names long before I ever met this friend.
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wingsofsong
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Twist on using a name someone already has.
I wouldn't think anything at all with the first one. After the second, I would think it's odd, but it wouldn't bother me. It's obviously not someone you are close with, being that you didn't even know she had a second child, so I don't really see the big deal.
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| Posted 12/10/12 4:59 PM |
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
I'd be annoyed at the person but I would also be annoyed at the people who kept it a secret. You were going to find out anyway and why are they protecting this person from whatever it is that you might feel about it?
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Teachergal
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
Posted by wingsofsong
I wouldn't think anything at all with the first one. After the second, I would think it's odd, but it wouldn't bother me. It's obviously not someone you are close with, being that you didn't even know she had a second child, so I don't really see the big deal.
I agree, it honestly wouldn't bother me. JMHO
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olive98
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Re: Twist on using a name someone already has.
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