silly ?'s for mommas of 2

dh and i are considering TTC i'd like to get the real lo down though from you honest mamas on what its like with 2 under 2 how did you handle the early weeks? did lo's nap together? did your older lo play well with your younger lo? what was the most difficult part of having 2? how did you make both lo's both feel equally loved? how does love for the younger lo differ? thanks so much for any momma willing to share!

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I had my kids 19 months apart. They are truly best friends and play wonderfully together. Of course they bicker, but usually they are fine together. DS was a great help to me in the early weeks because he thought he was so special for helping mommy all day. Both of my kids are equally loved and I enjoy seeing them interact with one another. They tell each other they love one another and that they are best friends.

If I had it to do over all over again, I would have them exactly the same. We had a great experience.

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Seriously though- it isn't that bad.

Mine are 20 months apart and it was actually easier in the beginning than now (the younger one just turned 1 last week). DD1 gets a bit more jealous now that DD2 can get into her things.

But- DD1 is fiercely protective of her little sister and I know they will be great friends.

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Mine are 10.5 months apart, now at 3 & almost 2.5, they are best friends. In the beginning it was extremely rough. They were on completely different schedules, did not nap together, one would finish eating, the other looked to eat. Also bc my oldest was not even 1, he was not walking & required a lot of my attention. As time went on, it got easier but it wasn't until.closer to when the baby was 6 months.

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I have 3. My 1st was 2 years 2 months when #s 2 & 3 were born :)


The early weeks were especially rough around here because of NICU time. Hudson was in there from 2/14-3/1 and Stella from 2/14-3/10. Since one came home first, we had time to adjust to that change first which was good.

They did sometimes nap at the same time.

My oldest loves the babies SO SO MUCH. He just doesn't necessarily know how to be "gentle" with them. He used to do what we'd call a "drive-by smacking" where he'd just randomly go up to one of them and smack them on the head... but that has stopped hahah. Now he just tries to pick them up which he obviously can't really do. He is super helpful though and always goes to them if they are crying... when we used pacifiers, he'd always be the first to run over and give it to them. Now that they're eating table foods, he puts the tiny pieces in their mouths or hands to help them. He is awesome!

The hardest part for me is just managing my time. I work FT, have a direct sales business on the side, cook dinner every night, etc. It's a lot! But somehow it all works and I can't imagine it any other way.

I make sure to spend extra special time with my oldest. Every Thursday we have a "date" where I pick him up early from daycare and take him somewhere special. Lately it's been to an open play place and we just play together one on one, eat a snack together and just be with each other! My husband switched his schedule so he could have wednesday off (and work saturday instead) and he takes our oldest out for a special day then. the babies are 10 months now, but as they get older we hope to give them each their own special, individual time. We also have Friday appetizer night where we all sit in the livign room and eat appetizers together. We make sure to do a lot together so each child feels loved & included.

My oldest is my best buddy. He always has been. I was so scared to ruin or change that bond, but it really hasn't changed since the babies came along. It has grown stronger and special in it's own way. I love each of the babies for their own personalities and it's really incredible just how much love you can have! As they say, love doesn't divide... it multiplies. Your heart GROWS and you love each child in their own way for their own multitude of reasons.

Plus, seeing the 3 together is the highlight of my LIFE!!

If all else fails... 3 babies in a box. Endless entertainment for all! hahaha

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It was hard!!!!!!! DS#1 was 21 months when DS#2 arrived! For a while it was crazy but we made it through!!!! Now I'm wandering how I'm gonna handle 3!!!!!!!!! lol

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Mine are exactly 2 years apart. I found it very hard in the beginning. My baby was very fussy, contstantly needed to be held and soothed and as you can imagine that is hard with a 2 yr old. I spent a lot of days crying. I found it got easier when the girls were big enough that they could be put down and interact together. I guess starting around the time when the youngest could walk.

Now its great. They are best friends and play together.

I do feel like my older DD was forced to mature and be more independent just beacause of how needy the newborn was. I think if I had an easy baby I would probably have felt differently. I did want to have them relatively close and if I could I would probably would have waited 1 more year and had them 3 years apart.

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I had 3 in 13 months...

Very very hard at the beginning. Mine were all good sleepers but it was still hard.

Now they are 4 and 3 and I finally see the light.

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Posted by maybeamommy

I have 3. My 1st was 2 years 2 months when #s 2 & 3 were born :)


The early weeks were especially rough around here because of NICU time. Hudson was in there from 2/14-3/1 and Stella from 2/14-3/10. Since one came home first, we had time to adjust to that change first which was good.

They did sometimes nap at the same time.

My oldest loves the babies SO SO MUCH. He just doesn't necessarily know how to be "gentle" with them. He used to do what we'd call a "drive-by smacking" where he'd just randomly go up to one of them and smack them on the head... but that has stopped hahah. Now he just tries to pick them up which he obviously can't really do. He is super helpful though and always goes to them if they are crying... when we used pacifiers, he'd always be the first to run over and give it to them. Now that they're eating table foods, he puts the tiny pieces in their mouths or hands to help them. He is awesome!

The hardest part for me is just managing my time. I work FT, have a direct sales business on the side, cook dinner every night, etc. It's a lot! But somehow it all works and I can't imagine it any other way.

I make sure to spend extra special time with my oldest. Every Thursday we have a "date" where I pick him up early from daycare and take him somewhere special. Lately it's been to an open play place and we just play together one on one, eat a snack together and just be with each other! My husband switched his schedule so he could have wednesday off (and work saturday instead) and he takes our oldest out for a special day then. the babies are 10 months now, but as they get older we hope to give them each their own special, individual time. We also have Friday appetizer night where we all sit in the livign room and eat appetizers together. We make sure to do a lot together so each child feels loved & included.

My oldest is my best buddy. He always has been. I was so scared to ruin or change that bond, but it really hasn't changed since the babies came along. It has grown stronger and special in it's own way. I love each of the babies for their own personalities and it's really incredible just how much love you can have! As they say, love doesn't divide... it multiplies. Your heart GROWS and you love each child in their own way for their own multitude of reasons.

Plus, seeing the 3 together is the highlight of my LIFE!!

If all else fails... 3 babies in a box. Endless entertainment for all! hahaha

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Posted by babyberry

dh and i are considering TTC i'd like to get the real lo down though from you honest mamas on what its like with 2 under 2 how did you handle the early weeks?
did lo's nap together? did your older lo play well with your younger lo? what was the most difficult part of having 2? how did you make both lo's both feel equally loved? how does love for the younger lo differ? thanks so much for any momma willing to share!

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It's really hard.

We will probably be having a third... But only when the little one is 3 years old. I would not plan having 2 so close together. I hear this a LOT from my friends who have 2 under 2.

DS was 17 months when DD was born. He thought she was a cat. He realized she was human months later. He loves her, but tries to poke out her eyes daily.

She definitely gets less attention because DS is needy at 2.

The love is there.... It's a new love for a new baby.

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thank you mommas for sharing!! i guess it isn't ever going to be "easy" but it sounds like #2 is definitely worth it will definitely think about this!!

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