Registering for Housewarming - still tacky under these circumstances?

I won't be offended by your honest opinion.

If a couple is having a HUGE housewarming, providing entertainment, such as DJ/etc...tons of food, etc..no parents helped out financially for the sale of the home (didn't ask/expect/& can't afford to)

AND...

got married with just their immediate family attending (parents and brothers and sisters)...about 6 people who attended

Had NO engagement party, no bridal shower, no rehearsal dinner, no bachelor/bachelortte party, no bridesmaids or groomsmen

(and didn't ever receive $$$ as gift)

AND....they register for stuff and send out invites & DO NOT state that they registered, but if someone asks, they'd mention casually that they registered, but don't expect to be getting stuff from it, (more for their parents)...

is this still deemed "tacky"?

Message edited 6/16/2010 8:36:48 PM.

Re: Registering for Housewarming - still tacky under these circumstances?

Not at all. Apparently I'm in the minority but I don't think registering for a housewarming is tacky unless you got married in the past few years and had a bridal shower. I always bring a gift anyway and prefer to know exactly what they would like as opposed to buying something that will be regifted or go unused.

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I think you should include on the invites that you registered! You deserve it!!

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AND....they register for stuff and send out invites & DO NOT state that they registered, but if someone asks, they'd mention casually that they registered, but don't expect to be getting stuff from it, (more for their parents)...

This makes it un-tacky!!!!!

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I don't find it tacky at all but I would not include the registry with the invite

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IMO only would be Tacky if they stated on invite for housewarming that they registered for gifts at such and such place.. But since they only tell if someone asks then I find that fine.

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Sorry but IMO the only events that warrant registries are weddings and baby showers.

Housewarming? Nope
Engagement? Nope

Just my two cents. If you choose to have an elaborate entertainment gig at your housewarming, that's your choice IMO. You got the cash... great. I wouldn't be setting up any registries though.

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I guess if you don't state that you are registered it's not tacky, but how would anyone know?? You won't get what you want...

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Go ahead and register if you want to. As long as you are not inserting registery cards or indicating it on your invites I think its fine.

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Yes, I find it tacky to register for a housewarming party

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I find it tacky but secretly i would love to do it for our family bbq and if people ask then direct them to it but i know its too much to ask since we got married 2 years ago and had a wedding shower 2.5 years ago.

To answer your question, NO i do not find it tacky. Your having a more inclusive family celebration that you didn't have for your wedding.

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I think it's not tacky at all. You didn't register for anything else and had a small wedding. I say go for the registry. As for the invite, I'm not sure about putting it on there.....probably not. But if someone asks, then def. tell them about it.

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Re: Registering for Housewarming - still tacky under these circumstances?

I see both sides on this one. While I wouldn't necessary register for a housewarming (BIL did this and it was not received well) I don't think that there is any harm in registering for what you want since you didn't have a big wedding - however, I wouldn't put housewarming as the "occaison" that is listed, I would still put wedding, this way if anyone asks, you can say there there are still items on your wedding registry available - if people want to buy off of it they can, if not their choice.

Most people don't register for an engagment but rather for the wedding. I definitely think that it is custom to buy off the registry for the engagement party and shower however and give $$ for the actual wedding gift.

As for the invite, I would leave it off of there - if people want to know, they will ask

A registry is also great for family members to buy birthday/holiday gifts in the future and most places will also give you a completion discount, so I would do it for that alone!

Either way, enjoy the party!

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I'm sorry but I feel that regardless of the circumstances, it's tacky.

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I dont think its tacky bc honestly I hate getting gifts that I dont want nor need. Yeah a random housewarming gift is nice...but its like what if you have whatever it is they bought you already?? Or if your wine lover and someone buys you a vodka set lol? It ends up sitting in your storage taking up space. Which I hate bc I see it as wasted money. So I would think registering would be good....but according to alot of people its tacky.

I was going to register for my housewarming party especially since we did not have an engagement party, a bridal shower, bachelor/ bachelorette parties and only had a wedding receptipn. But now Im second guessing it, or am going to register and keep my fingers crossed that people ask where Im registered LOL. I wish I knew it would be looked at as tacky beforehand and I woulda opted in for having a shower

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registering for a housewarming party is always tacky imho. You are having a party to invite them to your house to show it off, not to expect gifts.

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I also see both sides of the coin for you but personally I wouldn't register for a housewarming. I get that the gifts would go unwanted but then you should've registered for your wedding. Sorry. (this totally isn't meant to be mean either)

Any gift I give usually comes with a gift receipt anyway...and usually for a housewarming, I bring booze or a BBB gift card.

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Posted by blondiebabyZ

I dont think its tacky bc honestly I hate getting gifts that I dont want nor need. Yeah a random housewarming gift is nice...but its like what if you have whatever it is they bought you already?? Or if your wine lover and someone buys you a vodka set lol? It ends up sitting in your storage taking up space. Which I hate bc I see it as wasted money. So I would think registering would be good....but according to alot of people its tacky.

I was going to register for my housewarming party especially since we did not have an engagement party, a bridal shower, bachelor/ bachelorette parties and only had a wedding receptipn. But now Im second guessing it, or am going to register and keep my fingers crossed that people ask where Im registered LOL. I wish I knew it would be looked at as tacky beforehand and I woulda opted in for having a shower

Message edited 6/17/2010 12:07:00 PM.

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I'm not sure of the "registry" idea...but...I DO like the idea of "Wish Lists"....you can now make a Wish list on Amazon into which you can import items from other websites.

I do this for DD's birthday and for her at Christmas....People are ALWAYS asking "what does she need/want"...so I say, well, I did create a wish list on Amazon, if you want to get some ideas from that....

It would be the same for a housewarming - IF people asked, I would have a wish list set up and I'd direct them to that. They don't have to buy off of the list, but it will give them an idea of what we'd like / want....

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Posted by colette

AND....they register for stuff and send out invites & DO NOT state that they registered, but if someone asks, they'd mention casually that they registered, but don't expect to be getting stuff from it, (more for their parents)...

This makes it un-tacky!!!!!

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wow

Eye opening comments here. I thought registering just made it easier on guests if they wanted to buy something the hosts could use.

I really don't see how its tacky at all

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I don't think it's tacky.

When a couple has an e-party, larger wedding and shower- that's tacky. My wedding was on the smaller side (75 people, though lots of OOT people sent gifts) and we had more than what we needed.

So in the above situation, no, I don't think so.

Message edited 6/17/2010 9:21:12 PM.