Is it tacky to register for a housewarming party?

Here is some background: DH's friend and his wife (and 3 yr old) live with her mother. They somehow got her to buy a new house last January and they are having a housewarming party on Saturday and they registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond!

Now, DH and I think this is out of control. They registered for really expensive stuff! They have been married for 3 years and had a shower before the wedding.

We can't go, do I have to really buy these people a housewarming gift for a house in which they live with a parent??

Message edited 9/23/2006 12:05:18 AM.

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I agree with you and your DH, it sounds really tacky. They aren't having a housewarming party they are basically having a jack and jill shower.

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This is coming from someone that had an engagement party and a bridal shower. But I think that's going a bit too far. I think that people will probably bring a gift or a bottle as a gift but registering is a bit much.

Did they have a bridal shower? Not that that makes alot of difference but maybey that's why they registered

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Yes, I think it's pretty tacky to register for a housewarming party...what are they thinking?

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We had a friend who did this and we all talked about how totally tacky it was. I say you definitely dont' have to get a gift. How did they let people know they were registered?

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I think that's really weird. i mean I guess it's no different than a shower...and it shouldn;t be bad becuase you just want to make sure people buy things you can use, but between a shower a wedding and nonw this, how many times can you ask people to furnish your house for you?
Usually for a hosuewarming, es if you're already married I would not think of registering.

ETA: I just re-read...so they're not moving out from the mom, they're still staying with the mom and ahving a housewarming party?

They seem like first class moochers to me

Message edited 9/23/2006 1:57:11 AM.

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Wait, they registered for a housewarming for a house HER MOTHER BOUGHT?! Yeah, that's way out of control. If I were you, I'd bring a plant

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Posted by Bxgell2

Wait, they registered for a housewarming for a house HER MOTHER BOUGHT?! Yeah, that's way out of control. If I were you, I'd bring a plant

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Screams tacky

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a friend of mine did it. i thought it was strange.

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registering for anything but a shower is tacky imho
so this is VERY VERY tacky and rude

id be appalled

Message edited 9/23/2006 8:37:45 AM.

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TACKY TACKY TACKY

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I do not think registering is appropriate. As far as I'm concerned, housewarming parties went out the window with the 1970s. I can see inviting people over for dinner to your new house, but not a party where gifts are expected and especially not a party that you registered for. If you cannot afford to accessorize your house on your own, don't expect others to do it for you. This is just a pet peeve of mine.

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I think hosuewarming partiesin general are tacky, if someone wants to bring you a presnet for your new home they will do it if the WANT to rather than forced into it.

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IMO TACKY

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I beleive in housewarming parties but not registering. If I go to one I will bring a bottle of wine or flowers or a frame or something like that.

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I said to DH that if we were going, I would have brought a bottle of wine.

They had a wedding shower, a baby shower (she was 7 months preggo when they got married) and then a wedding.

Plus I think I am still annoyed that they left my wedding after 1/2 hour (He was in the wedding and she CALLED him during the ceremony. I heard his CELL PHONE while I was at the alter)

Man. At least they are entertaining!

ETA: Yeah, they still live with the mother, and recently, DH's friend told him that their wedding gifts/shower gifts are all in a storage space. So why register for more

Message edited 9/23/2006 9:26:13 AM.

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I had a housewarming party. The thought to register is just plain tacky and ridiculous. I didnt even expect gifts.

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i had a housewarming party and would never think to register...I was surprised that every single person brought a gift

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Message edited 10/4/2006 8:38:44 PM.

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Super TACKY. If someone WANTS to give a gift, they will more than likely ask "is there something you need?", at which point they can share. Other than that, I thinks it's really inappropriate. IMO, if they're moving into a home, they shouldn't expect others to furnish it for them - if they don't have the $$ for what they want right now - they need to take their time doing it.
If I go to a housewarming, I bring wine or a plant - not an appliance off the registry!

ETS: I think I just repeated what Rachel said, oops

Message edited 9/23/2006 10:03:19 AM.

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For me a housewarming party is a party where you invite people to come to celebrate you moving into a new place. It's more of a hostess/host situation. You want people to come to your house so you can host them not get gifts from them.