Random Thought about LIF and privacy

I was thinking - and being a mom to be - I get a little concerned with when the time comes that I want to post pics of my son. I feel that we are all very open on this site and that's what I like about it - I just get nervous about the crazies out there who are reading this.

I was then thinking maybe the Parenting board should be like the Relationship Board - where you have to be signed in - to see it.

Am I nuts and really overthinking things? I know that we all put personal things on here - and it just makes me think about who else is reading and looking at what we post.

I don't care if these crazies read about my pregnancy mood swings - or my dogs biting issues - but I do worry about posting about my baby (when he does get here) and I worry because I see all the cute pics of all your kids - and it just makes me nervous.

Sorry to ramble - just wanted to throw it out there - if I am being nutty then just tell me to shut it!

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I have the same thoughts. For that reason I haven't posted pics of DD in a very very long time. I only have the one in my avatar.

You never know who's reading these posts!

But that's just me, i am just cautious about the internet, which to me is a good thing-not nutty!

We def plan on when our kids get bigger to get spyware and key stroke recorder so we know exactly where they have been and who they are chatting with. It's the world we live in now! I should prob stop watching "To catch a predator" on Dateline!

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this is why my MIL hates to send pics through email, or got really mad at me when I showed her pics of my boys from our GTG.

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I do not plan to!! I am very nervous about all the crazies out there.

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You have every right to feel that way! It is your baby and you can feel whichever way you want. I hardly ever post pictures of Michael here because of the same reasons you stated. I have one pic of him in my profile and one in my avatar.

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I go back and forth with it...but I don't live in LI, so I think it makes me feel more secure

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It's not even so much about the posting pics - but the stuff that these internet people can put together. If I happen to say that my DH is out for the night - or I am taking my son someplace for the day.

I know it sounds crazy but there are predators out there - and many I feel know that we are extremely vunerable with little ones.

I was just thinking that maybe making parenting a private board also would be something that LIF could do (of course not if I'm the only one that felt that way)

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I have never posted pics of my kids and i never will. just to be on the safe side, thats all.

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The only problem with that is that even the "crazies" can still see them whether it's private or not.

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i agree..we should have to sign in like the relationship board!

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I worry about that too. That's why I only post pictures a few times a year.

But then I sat down and thought about it. What is my fear? How will looking a few pics of my daughter put her in harm's way?

Even if some crazy person is reading this, what is the crazy going to do? Find me in Manhattan? There are enough crazies who actually *see* me with my baby that I figure I should worry about more

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I do not post pics of my DD for this reason. It was honestly my DH that said absolutely no pics on a public website. We are all entitled to our personal beliefs on this subject(as with the stork post from lastweek).

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That's why I no longer post pictures (and a few other reasons why). Plus, when the girls get older do they really want to find their baby pictures on the Internet? I'd be pizzed at my mom! I also never say where we're going - only after we've been there.

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I am not worried at all. What is so crazy that could happen?

I never understood this.

Do you ever leave your baby unattended?

Do you think someone will steal your baby?

Plus, how many people have your address?

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Posted by Shelly

I worry about that too. That's why I only post pictures a few times a year.

But then I sat down and thought about it. What is my fear? How will looking a few pics of my daughter put her in harm's way?

Even if some crazy person is reading this, what is the crazy going to do? Find me in Manhattan? There are enough crazies who actually *see* me with my baby that I figure I should worry about more

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I do think it's a good idea to make it a registered only view. I'm not sure how much more secure something like that would be. Couldn't those type of people register? I agree it's an extra step but if someone wants to find me they're going to do it.

I post pictures & don't worry about it too much now that I've taken steps to secure a few things. I admit to having done stupid things like given people an email address which includes my last name and about 4 people my address - and unfortunately paid the price for that. I do wish I had the foresight to be more anonymous.

I think like everything else, I need to make a judgment call as to who I share that information with & will be more wary. I know we do some self-regulating on this board. I recall a very new member approaching several people via FM to get together that made me very wary. I didnt respond to her fm. I didn't know she was fm'ing other people until a regular poster fm'd a group of us behind the scenes.

Anyway my long winded answer is ...yes. I think it's a good idea. Will it stop the crazy people from finding me? Probably not but they'll have to take an extra step to do it.

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Posted by SuzyQ

Posted by Shelly

I worry about that too. That's why I only post pictures a few times a year.

But then I sat down and thought about it. What is my fear? How will looking a few pics of my daughter put her in harm's way?

Even if some crazy person is reading this, what is the crazy going to do? Find me in Manhattan? There are enough crazies who actually *see* me with my baby that I figure I should worry about more

I completely agree. I guess I think that since I live out of state the crazies couldn't find me anyway. I know that makes no sense though.

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I think I would be more worried about posting the exact location and time of the GTG's than posting a pic of my child. People can't really find you based on a pic. They can find you based on a lot of other things you post though.

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The only thing I was thinking of about making it private - is that unless you are a member of the boards - you don't know that you are not seeing all of the different topics. So, someone may think they know everything we are talking about - but don't realize that they need to log in to read about Parenting and Relationships.

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I completely agree and I find I often don't post things like pictures or personal details, because you never know who is looking at these boards.

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I tend to share some info but I dont really post pics....scary times these days!

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Diana, I agree with you and I feel Ron should make the parenting board like the relationship board. I mean if someone wants to see it they can just make up a name, so I dont think it will help that much, I also can also understand what (5ofclubs) wrote too......


Hopefully he will read this and do something about it......

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If I had a child, I would never post his or her photo.

If you search on here, you can find out the following about so many ladies:

town they live
pic of their house
pic of their husbands & themselves
pic of their child
birthdays
where they work or what their occuapation is
their works hours
kind of cars they drive...............

all pretty scary if you ask me