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luvsbob4603
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
I would def report him no boss should give you a Kiss on your lips for a good god its not work etiquite. also I myself had a experience at a job with sexual harrament i had a co-worker old enough to be my grandfather think he can put his hands on me and i was so ipset everyday i would come to work and i would be afraid to tell i hated my job so much they let me go after a while i was so happy but a year after i left my boss got fired for sexual harrassment the one that got rid of me.I use to work for the airlines it was called Dobbs international. i love the job I am at now because they are so nice and i feel like i belong there. goodluck please tell someone dont let him get away with this.
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DjPiLL
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Does he know your married?
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| Posted 3/31/06 6:32 PM |
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Lisa
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Posted by DjPiLL
Does he know your married?
Married or not....it was inappropriate for him to kiss her!! 
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| Posted 3/31/06 6:58 PM |
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Pumpkin
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
wow that is very strange to say the least. you are obvisously not friendly with him at all. Not that it would be right then, but I am just thinking what the heck could he have been thinking to do that.
Talk to someone for sure.
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:03 PM |
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My2Boys
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Posted by Lisa
Posted by DjPiLL
Does he know your married?
Married or not....it was inappropriate for him to kiss her!!
Exactly!!
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:04 PM |
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dandj
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
I would absolutely report that!!
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:06 PM |
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julz33
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
I would report him.
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:08 PM |
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Maathy317
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
After I slapped the sh!t out of him and kicked him in the b@!!s, I would have gone straight to Human Resources and filed a sexual harrassment complaint, and, if he had the nerve to say anything to me, I would then let him know that my next stop would be to the local District Attorney's Office to file an assault complaint and then to my attorney to file a civil suit. Don't take this cr@p from anyone. If he did this to once, you have to know he has done this and, maybe, worse things before. Take a stand and don't be afraid. He's just lucky it wasn't me. Arrogant SOB!
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:23 PM |
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anon
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Message edited 2/12/2007 9:13:48 AM.
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:37 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
I would report him immediately...that's crossing a big line.
If you don't feel you are ready for that step, document everything that happened even though there's video because if you know there's video, so does he and that video could "dissappear". Then I would either tell him writing or in person, (preferably in front of that camera also) in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that what he did was unwelcome, unwanted, and completely wrong and that must never do anything like that again. You need to do this. Document when you tell him and be ready to report him if he so much as looks at you wrong after that.
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:46 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
So inappropriate...you don't want him to think that kind of thing is ok...Please report him ASAP!
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| Posted 3/31/06 8:15 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
I know it may be hard, but, definitley report him before he goes further or gets someone else.
So sorry you had to go through this
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| Posted 3/31/06 8:44 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
I would definitely speak to someone in your HR department. Explain that you are not a litigious person, but that they need to be aware that this happened. If it's true that he's going to be fired in a few months, this may be just the nail in the coffin they're looking for to fire him.
Also being kissed by your boss doesn't make the company liable for harassment charges. If the company does nothing about it once you've made a complaint or if the company was aware that your boss has a history of sexual advances, then the company would be negligent.
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| Posted 3/31/06 9:11 PM |
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Mushpot
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
totally inappropriate!!!! You need to tell the big bosses!! You have totally been violated! 
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| Posted 3/31/06 9:35 PM |
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PiyoPika566
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
there is no question, report the basta*d!
Message edited 3/31/2006 9:37:49 PM.
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| Posted 3/31/06 9:37 PM |
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DjPiLL
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Posted by My2Boys
Posted by Lisa
Posted by DjPiLL
Does he know your married?
Married or not....it was inappropriate for him to kiss her!!
Exactly!!
Yeah but relationships in the workplace happen all the time. More often than you think.
If people are going to date people in the workplace... it has to start somewhere (somebody hitting on someone else).
But i can see this as being inapropriate for two reasons. #1 you shouldnt date people that you work for. And #2... if you are married... thats an obvious no.
I was curious about number 2.
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| Posted 3/31/06 11:09 PM |
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MsG
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Report it asap! Don't make excuses for him - he was WRONG.
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Faithx2
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Report the jerk!
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| Posted 4/1/06 7:18 AM |
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dandr10199
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Posted by dottiemchugh
I would immediately report him. That is completely inappropriate behavior and should not be tolerated. I can't believe that! I hope his a$$ is $hitcanned!!
I agree. Please do not wait to report this.
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| Posted 4/1/06 8:04 AM |
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ExpectingJoy
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
I know this is not PC, but I honestly don't know if I would report it. I don't think it is so cut and dry.
If this is something that will happen more than once or he was hitting on you deliberately, I probably would.... but I might just let it go if I thought he was socially awkward and was doing it as a friend. I would not want to ruin his life, professionally or otherwise.
My personality is not one for making waves and I hate being the whistle blower. But, you need to decide what his intentions were...
Can say something to him....Bring it up to him.
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| Posted 4/1/06 8:39 AM |
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Boobobunny
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
report this....you should not have to feel this way at work.
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| Posted 4/1/06 9:04 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
If this guy truly is socially inept, or crazy, as you seem to indicate, you really need to report this right away. Yes, he may not realize the complete inappropriateness of his behavior, but what if next time he takes it to the next level? It places you in a very dangerous situation, and if you keep your mouth shut this time, he'll just assume it's ok to take it further and you own't do a damn thing about it. What he did is completely illegal. I know you feel bad, and awkard because it is a small office, but HE is the one that stepped over the line, whether or not he understands that, that's not your responsibility. At some point in his life he has to understand what is and is not socially acceptable in the workplace, and if not now, it could be under much, MUCH worse circumstances in the future. And, under the sexual discrimination laws, your employer is not allowed to fire you as a result of your complaint. If they do, you can sue for sexual harassment and for retaliation. They would have to be complete and utter morons to let it get to that point.
First thing you should do is document everything in a journal. Next step is find out if your employer has a "policy" on sexual harassment in the workplace. If so, follow the policy to a "T". ANd what you should ALWAYS do is make your complaint and any follow-up communications in writing, so you have everything documented. If you complain and nothing is done, follow-up with a letter to HR describing how nothing was done.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
  OMG!!!!  I would be SO freaked out!! good luck making this very hard decision.
but if that were me, my butt would have been in HR ASAP!
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| Posted 4/1/06 10:29 AM |
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NeedGuidance
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Posted by luvsbob4603
I would def report him no boss should give you a Kiss on your lips for a good god its not work etiquite. also I myself had a experience at a job with sexual harrament i had a co-worker old enough to be my grandfather think he can put his hands on me and i was so ipset everyday i would come to work and i would be afraid to tell i hated my job so much they let me go after a while i was so happy but a year after i left my boss got fired for sexual harrassment the one that got rid of me.I use to work for the airlines it was called Dobbs international. i love the job I am at now because they are so nice and i feel like i belong there. goodluck please tell someone dont let him get away with this.
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| Posted 4/1/06 12:14 PM |
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NeedGuidance
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Re: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADVISE
Posted by ExpectingJoy
I know this is not PC, but I honestly don't know if I would report it. I don't think it is so cut and dry.
If this is something that will happen more than once or he was hitting on you deliberately, I probably would.... but I might just let it go if I thought he was socially awkward and was doing it as a friend. I would not want to ruin his life, professionally or otherwise.
My personality is not one for making waves and I hate being the whistle blower. But, you need to decide what his intentions were...
Can say something to him....Bring it up to him.
these were my thoughts as well.
yes, he does know that i am married and he is married as well. not sure his exact age, would say late 40's early 50's.
the frames were saved in case they need to be viewed. upon viweing them yesterday i felt sick to my stomach and disgusted. forgot to mention that he also put his arm around me before he kissed me. didn't remember that right after the fact.
if he would have said, "oh my god, i am so sorry, i don't know what i was thinking" it would have been 1 thing. after he kissed me though he was so nochalent as if it were common practice and not a big deal.
i have decided to tell the "big bosses". i will approach it in such a way to indicate that i feel violated and offended and want to forget about the incident but will no longer have contact with as long as he still works there.
spoke with another friend and he said that the big boss will most likely ask me how to proceed.
thanks again for all your support.
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