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JandJ1224
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I would be put off by that
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I have NEVER been envited to a Christening without my kids and never been to one without other kids there. I probably just would not go. I totally get weddings without kids, but a Christening seems weird.
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traceyd
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I don't think it would be a good idea not to invite children to the christening. I would be highly offended if I received an invitation to a christening that my DD was not welcome at. JMHO
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carlowlou
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Definitely think kids should be invited because it is a party for a baby! But funny story, we did my DD's christening in Ireland where DH is from and had a party afterwards at a hotel restaurant in the evening. Now DH is one of 8 brothers so add in all nieces and nephews, it would have been about 20 children. I invited them all, but not one adult brought their child! They all wanted a night out without the kids! so hey, it worked out that way in Ireland even though I never expected (or really wanted) it to!
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| Posted 3/26/10 7:42 PM |
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by dilb712
I sware this crap aggravates me. I am having the same issue with my DD first bday not the exact thing but no dads for my friends with kids... .. I think not having children at your party is fine.. Who the heck is anyone to be "offended" If they LOVE YOU and KNOW YOU then they should be there with BELLS on.. They will probably have a better time anyway.. Its not the END OF THE WORLD!!!!!!! There are plenty of parties for them to bring there entire families too .. Just not yours .. WTH this really Bugs the heck out of me to no end I am spitting fire on my computer right now .. I see dead rats!
You are too funny! My husabd just got home and still wants to have an adult party. I really have to think it over...these situations drive me crazy too He says that if people take offense then they do not have to attend ect ect!
We are also the type of people that would not care if just him and I were invited to a christening without our son (so maybe that is why we are okay with it)....we would still go and not be put off...that's just us!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by Tine73
I have been invited both ways, with DD and without. I thought the invite for just DH and I was a little weird since it was from a close friend who had her baby 3 weeks after mine, but I wasn't put off by it. It was actually easier to attend without her.
I would do what you want, but I would say no kids or kids - no in between. I don't think it's right that babies are ok and toddlers are not.
Valid point...no inbetween!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by TripletMom
We had an adult only Christening for the triplet back in Oct and everyone invited had no issues with not being able to bring their kids. We only invited family and close friends and had to cutout kids bc it was already 75 adults and with the kids it would have been well over 120 and I was NOT having that for a Christening. My attitude was if you are offended by this dont come. Sorry I am a real biotch at times  You have to do what you are comfortable with and not worry about other people. My thing was I wasnt going into debt for a Christening.
Good Luck
Tell me about it..it really adds up. If we do have children we have about 25-30. At over $30 a head per child(that's is half price) we are talking a lot f money
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4PsInaPod
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
we invited all children. If I was invited to a christening I would expect my DS to be able to come. 
ETA: I did not have entertainment. Parents seem to bring everything themselves for entertainment. Plus they play with eachother, they'll be good with no entertainment. Also, kids for us were half price and free under 3 (i think it was 3)
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Tell me about it..it really adds up. If we do have children we have about 25-30. At over $30 a head per child(half price) we are talking a lot f money
Just curious. Did you check with the hall on the price. Sometimes they offer 1/2 price for the kids.
Just a thought.
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Posted by Mssissy
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Tell me about it..it really adds up. If we do have children we have about 25-30. At over $30 a head per child(half price) we are talking a lot f money
Just curious. Did you check with the hall on the price. Sometimes they offer 1/2 price for the kids.
Just a thought.
Yes, 30 is half the price and that does not include tax and gratuity(sp?). Reg price is around 55-60 a head (we still have to finalize the menu
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4PsInaPod
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Posted by Mssissy
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Tell me about it..it really adds up. If we do have children we have about 25-30. At over $30 a head per child(half price) we are talking a lot f money
Just curious. Did you check with the hall on the price. Sometimes they offer 1/2 price for the kids.
Just a thought.
Yes, 30 is half the price and that does not include tax and gratuity(sp?). Reg price is around 55-60 a head (we still have to finalize the menu
is it a dinner? maybe switch to a luncheon? (just throwing around ideas) we did a luncheon for Joey
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MsSissy
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Posted by Mssissy
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Tell me about it..it really adds up. If we do have children we have about 25-30. At over $30 a head per child(half price) we are talking a lot f money
Just curious. Did you check with the hall on the price. Sometimes they offer 1/2 price for the kids.
Just a thought.
Yes, 30 is half the price and that does not include tax and gratuity(sp?). Reg price is around 55-60 a head (we still have to finalize the menu
DUH! 
Do what's best for you. Only you know how much you can spend
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by DPerotti
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
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Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Tell me about it..it really adds up. If we do have children we have about 25-30. At over $30 a head per child(half price) we are talking a lot f money
Just curious. Did you check with the hall on the price. Sometimes they offer 1/2 price for the kids.
Just a thought.
Yes, 30 is half the price and that does not include tax and gratuity(sp?). Reg price is around 55-60 a head (we still have to finalize the menu
is it a dinner? maybe switch to a luncheon? (just throwing around ideas) we did a luncheon for Joey
Thanks for the suggestions Dev! With our big huge ITalian fam we end up doing the whole 9 for everything (cocktail, salad, pasta, main course, desert ect) I know it sounds crazy but this is kind of like a "tradition" in our fam (more my husbands). Every party always ends up costing us a small fortune and sometimes it drives me nuts
On another note I would love to see Joeys christening outfirt..I need ideas!
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4PsInaPod
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Thanks for the suggestions Dev! With our big huge ITalian fam we end up doing the whole 9 for everything (cocktail, salad, pasta, main course, desert ect) I know it sounds crazy but this is kind of like a "tradition" in our fam (more my husbands). Every party always ends up costing us a small fortune and sometimes it drives me nuts
On another note I would love to see Joeys christening outfirt..I need ideas!
oye, I'm sorry
If you go on FB, you can look at his christening album. It was my nephews. It was a pant suit but it had the gown jacket, so this way it looked like he was still in a gown without being IN a gown, kwim?
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by DPerotti
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Thanks for the suggestions Dev! With our big huge ITalian fam we end up doing the whole 9 for everything (cocktail, salad, pasta, main course, desert ect) I know it sounds crazy but this is kind of like a "tradition" in our fam (more my husbands). Every party always ends up costing us a small fortune and sometimes it drives me nuts
On another note I would love to see Joeys christening outfirt..I need ideas!
oye, I'm sorry
If you go on FB, you can look at his christening album. It was my nephews. It was a pant suit but it had the gown jacket, so this way it looked like he was still in a gown without being IN a gown, kwim?
will do! Can't wait to see that little cutie..thx dev
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jes81276
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I absolutely understand where you're coming from, but to be honest, if just DH and I were invited w/o DS, we more than likely wouldn't attend. I get it, but I feel like a christening is for a child so children should be invited. this is just my opinion, but like I said, I do understand where you are coming from.
I guess I would think of it like, you have alot of people that you are inviting that have kids, you should invite them with kids, bc that's expecting alot of people to get babysitters.
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Diana712
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
This is my last comment on this....
The ONLY way I would not show up at your party is if I truly could not find a sitter... BUT NEVER EVER EVER would I be "put off" of "offended that you chose to have an adult party for your DS Christening .. Thats it
Peace out
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MsSissy
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Thanks for the suggestions Dev! With our big huge ITalian fam we end up doing the whole 9 for everything (cocktail, salad, pasta, main course, desert ect) I know it sounds crazy but this is kind of like a "tradition" in our fam (more my husbands). Every party always ends up costing us a small fortune and sometimes it drives me nuts
Maybe start a new tradition and start having luncheons.
Who knows maybe everyone is just waiting for someone else to make the change
Curious..how does the rest of the family do christenings? Do they invite all the kids?
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ChilisWife
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I did an adults only Christening for my son. There were just too many kids otherwise and it would have been too expensive. I just wanted a nice relaxing day without screaming and yelling and running around.
A bunch of people couldn't come because they couldn't find babysitters (or so they said). Other people just brought their kids regardless and we had to scramble to find room for them. If I had to do it all over again then I'd just invite the kids because people are very sensitive about this issue and it ended up being more of a headache for me.
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A3CM
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
who you and your DH invite is your business, but to pick and choose the kids to invite is kind of wrong.. to say ok, 1st cousins and babies are allowed but NO toddlers.
its either NO children or ALL children.
as a mother with a toddler and an infant i would def not go.
no children means NO children, including other family members children and babies
EDIT: will there be a NO KIDS ALLOWED printed on the invitation? if not even if its addressed to mr & mrs most will bring their children regardless
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Karen
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Honestly, I would find it odd to be invited to a Christening and not have children invited. After all, it is a party for a child. Finding a sitter could also present a huge issue if my usual sitters are also invited to the party.
And like someone else said - even if you put Mr. & Mrs. XXXX on the invites - I bet that a ton of people bring their kids anyway, and you're going to find yourself scrambling the day of for seats.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I feel your pain as I also have a big Italian family and I know how expensive these events get.
That said, I would find it really strange to be invited to a baptism without kids. I wouldn't be offended but, I would find it annoying. If I did something like that I think my family would be horrified honestly. Also, if it were a family members party either DH or I would then end up not going b/c I don't feel comfortable leaving my toddler and newborn with anyone but family and I would assume that they would all have to attend the party leaving no one to watch my DC. If it were a close friend I would go and leave the kids with my mom and would be less annoyed overall.
Honestly, I think a little kiddie gift bag for the kids with stuff to play with at the table is all you need to do. I think it would be worse not inviting them then to have no children's entertainment in the mind's of your guests.
Good luck!
I agree 100% and this is coming from a fellow italian with a big family that likes to throw parties  I don't think you can say babies are ok but please leave your toddlers/preschooler/teens home either...
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itsbabytime
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I feel your pain as I also have a big Italian family and I know how expensive these events get.
That said, I would find it really strange to be invited to a baptism without kids. I wouldn't be offended but, I would find it annoying. If I did something like that I think my family would be horrified honestly. Also, if it were a family members party either DH or I would then end up not going b/c I don't feel comfortable leaving my toddler and newborn with anyone but family and I would assume that they would all have to attend the party leaving no one to watch my DC. If it were a close friend I would go and leave the kids with my mom and would be less annoyed overall.
Honestly, I think a little kiddie gift bag for the kids with stuff to play with at the table is all you need to do. I think it would be worse not inviting them then to have no children's entertainment in the mind's of your guests.
Good luck!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by itsbabytime
I feel your pain as I also have a big Italian family and I know how expensive these events get.
That said, I would find it really strange to be invited to a baptism without kids. I wouldn't be offended but, I would find it annoying. If I did something like that I think my family would be horrified honestly. Also, if it were a family members party either DH or I would then end up not going b/c I don't feel comfortable leaving my toddler and newborn with anyone but family and I would assume that they would all have to attend the party leaving no one to watch my DC. If it were a close friend I would go and leave the kids with my mom and would be less annoyed overall.
Honestly, I think a little kiddie gift bag for the kids with stuff to play with at the table is all you need to do. I think it would be worse not inviting them then to have no children's entertainment in the mind's of your guests.
Good luck!
I could have written every bit of this (down the the Italian family). 
What I did for our DDs christening was buy those crayola paint free/mess free painting books/coloring books and give them to each child. Sure it added up but it still cost less than entertainment would have. And the kids stayed quiet and had a great time just getting a special present.
ETA - Also I think you are setting yourself up for trouble to invite people with babies but not with toddlers/older kids. What if someone has a baby and a toddler? What category do they fall in? I really don't think you can get away with it, without major complaints and backlash from family.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by AJandCJsMommy
who you and your DH invite is your business, but to pick and choose the kids to invite is kind of wrong.. to say ok, 1st cousins and babies are allowed but NO toddlers.
its either NO children or ALL children.
as a mother with a toddler and an infant i would def not go.
no children means NO children, including other family members children and babies
EDIT: will there be a NO KIDS ALLOWED printed on the invitation? if not even if its addressed to mr & mrs most will bring their children regardless
I would not put "no kids allowed" but more likely mr. and mrs. and then if someone asked I would tell them adult party ect ect. I guess that could leave some room for confusion and people showing up with kids anyway.
I agree with everyone that you can't do an inbetween and I guesss I would def stick to either ALL children or NO children.
Thanks for all of the responses, still not sure waht I'm gong to do.
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