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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Posted by AJandCJsMommy
who you and your DH invite is your business, but to pick and choose the kids to invite is kind of wrong.. to say ok, 1st cousins and babies are allowed but NO toddlers.
its either NO children or ALL children.
as a mother with a toddler and an infant i would def not go.
no children means NO children, including other family members children and babies
EDIT: will there be a NO KIDS ALLOWED printed on the invitation? if not even if its addressed to mr & mrs most will bring their children regardless
I would not put "no kids allowed" but more likely mr. and mrs. and then if someone asked I would tell them adult party ect ect. I guess that could leave some room for confusion and people showing up with kids anyway.
I agree with everyone that you can't do an inbetween and I guesss I would def stick to either ALL children or NO children.
Thanks for all of the responses, still not sure waht I'm gong to do. 
I do have to say that I would most likely assume that the kids were invited and not remember what the envelope said bc I would assume they were invited 
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by Mssissy
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Thanks for the suggestions Dev! With our big huge ITalian fam we end up doing the whole 9 for everything (cocktail, salad, pasta, main course, desert ect) I know it sounds crazy but this is kind of like a "tradition" in our fam (more my husbands). Every party always ends up costing us a small fortune and sometimes it drives me nuts
Maybe start a new tradition and start having luncheons.
Who knows maybe everyone is just waiting for someone else to make the change
Curious..how does the rest of the family do christenings? Do they invite all the kids?
The rest of the family has honestly done both. I have been to adult only with only the babiy's siblings and I have also been to ones with kids. The ones with kids always have tons of entertainment. THe most recent one I went to had tons of kids and stuff to do for the kids. Since this one is so fresh in my mind this is why I'm torn about what to do. I feel like bc the whole fam just went to this one they will expect the same from me. I should prob stop worrying so much about everyone and jsut do what is best for me and my baby but I dwell on everything.
Lastly, we will be doing my sons first bday party less then 3 months after his christening where all the kiddies will be attending.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
The rest of the family has honestly done both. I have been to adult only with only the babiy's siblings and I have also been to ones with kids. The ones with kids always have tons of entertainment. THe most recent one I went to had tons of kids and stuff to do for the kids. Since this one is so fresh in my mind this is why I'm torn about what to do. I feel like bc the whole fam just went to this one they will expect the same from me. I should prob stop worrying so much about everyone and jsut do what is best for me and my baby but I dwell on everything.
Lastly, we will be doing my sons first bday party less then 3 months after his christening where all the kiddies will be attending.
please don't think you HAVE to have entertainment b/c someone else did. Children entertain themselves SO easily, it is not necessary. Harbor Club has the outdoor area they can run around in (if it's nice of course) You have to do what you & DH want to do without breaking your bank,people won't compare, I bet they don't even remember the children entertainment.
I've never been to a christening that had entertainment, I find that very rare, very rare.
do what YOU want and what YOU can afford but don't dwell on what others HAVE done.
The christening of little Santino is most important.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
This is so true! SOmetimes I feel like when we throw a party it is like keeping up with the JOneses!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by Eireann
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We had an adult only Christening for the triplet back in Oct and everyone invited had no issues with not being able to bring their kids. We only invited family and close friends and had to cutout kids bc it was already 75 adults and with the kids it would have been well over 120 and I was NOT having that for a Christening. My attitude was if you are offended by this dont come. Sorry I am a real biotch at times  You have to do what you are comfortable with and not worry about other people. My thing was I wasnt going into debt for a Christening.
Good Luck
This was exactly my cousin's attitude for both of her kids' christenings.
Very few people declined as a result of the "no kids" request. Personally, I was a little taken aback at first, but you you know what...I went and had a great time kicking back without my kids.
I would feel the same. A party where I don't have to bring my kids....SWEET!
A christening isn't really a party for the baby. It's to celebrate a religious ceremony that most kids have no idea about so in reality it is an adult event, a religious one at that and I don't think children need to be invited.
I look forward to getting out without my kids.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
"A christening isn't really a party for the baby. It's to celebrate a religious ceremony that most kids have no idea about so in reality it is an adult event, a religious one at that and I don't think children need to be invited."
I really didn't want to respnd to this post again but... I could not have written this better myself. I completely agree with this being what a christening is about!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I didn't read the 80 responses to your thread lol, but just wanted to add my two cents to ur original post.
I just went to a fairly big christening and everyone was invited including kids. If it makes you feel any better, she did not do any entertainment, goody bags, etc for the kids. She also had quite a few children there and it didn't seem that bad to me or didn't phase me (we also left our kids at home so I was more intune to what was going on/my surroundings and not busy with my babies). So, my point is that, I wouldn't worry about accommodating the children. I had a few couples at my table with their children (one being a close friend of mine) and no one made comments or even cared about them being entertained, etc.
ETA: if you go the other route and don't invite children, I personally would not be insulted. I find it easier and more enjoyable sometimes to attend parties without my kids..I confessed a secret..lol is that bad of me?!?!..lol...
Good luck!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
Posted by AJandCJsMommy
who you and your DH invite is your business, but to pick and choose the kids to invite is kind of wrong.. to say ok, 1st cousins and babies are allowed but NO toddlers.
its either NO children or ALL children.
as a mother with a toddler and an infant i would def not go.
no children means NO children, including other family members children and babies
EDIT: will there be a NO KIDS ALLOWED printed on the invitation? if not even if its addressed to mr & mrs most will bring their children regardless
I would not put "no kids allowed" but more likely mr. and mrs. and then if someone asked I would tell them adult party ect ect. I guess that could leave some room for confusion and people showing up with kids anyway.
I agree with everyone that you can't do an inbetween and I guesss I would def stick to either ALL children or NO children.
Thanks for all of the responses, still not sure waht I'm gong to do.
Good Luck, its a hard decision and a touchy one to make as well.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I would NOT be offended if my DC was not invited to a Christening. If you do decide on having kids, with 25-30, I would def consider entertainment!!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
its your party...
IMO:
if your excluding kids then babies should be excluded cause parents will get upset, children may run around but some babies let out large wales when they have a wet diaper or food time
excluding kids is also a little more difficult if people dont have a steady babysitter you might be getting some no rsvps.
finally, if your exlcuding kids then be prepared to not be offended if any of the people you invite exclude your child from a future restaurant party.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
it really should not be "offensive" to anyone. will it but some people out, sure...but you can't please everyone.
I would just expect more declines, but I can see why would want to put the kabosh on it.
the only thing I can think if is cutting the guest list, children and parents alike, to those that are celebrating your child's entrance into his religions family, rather than inviting cousin vinnie b/c you were invited to his.
I am probably in the extremely small minority but (and I say this with so much love and respect for my family and friends) EFF keeping up with the jones.
no one outside of my four walls pays my bills or plots my life. my priority is to give my CHILD and my HUSBAND all that this world has to offer. NOT to offer shrimp cocktail to the masses at every single party.
many people, whether they know it/admit it or not, do most things to seem "equal" or some even for one upmanship.
honestly, if people cannot understand, especially in this economy, why cuts have to be made...that is on THEM. and if you (global) feel its embarrassing to have to cut back b/c of financial constraints...the best thing you (global) can do for yourself is get over it.
the ONLY important thing is the your son is received into God's love....(or the child feels celebrated on the birthday etc) the ONLY thing that matters in this life is how YOUR child sees what you do for him/her.
I hope you make the decision based on what YOU and your family want/need and DO NOT feel pressured ANY WHICH WAY.
believe me, I understand the pressure. I understand feeling guilty or sad that some have to be excluded. but at the end of the day, it's not about Me or anyone else, except 
PS....if you DO decide to invite all the kiddies....NO ENTERTAINMENT. besides everything else, it is still the celebration of the solemn and joyous religious event. you don't need a clown there as your exclamation point.
good luck. enjoy. and God Bless beautiful Santino Giuseppe!!!!!!  
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
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I guess the thing is you can do whatever you *want* to do, but the "picking and choosing" who can come is definitely going to annoy some people... for sure.... If you're doing an adult only gig, I'd make it an evening party. But I really don't think you need to go the entertainment for kids route at all. I've been to what feels like hundreds of christenings; kids are always invited and the parents entertain them or they entertain each other; it really doesn't take away from the party at all. You definitely don't need separate entertainment for them.
It's also another expense on your friends/family who have kids to get babysitters for the event so I'd be sensitive to that.
Literally all the parties I have been to with the kiddies have a kids DJ, characters, the balloon man and more! Is is reallly okay to not have kids entertainment???
God no! I never have entertainment. I just make sure there is room to run around....that and balloons entertains kids enough!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
I wouldn't be offended. I'd just make arrangements. I do think of a Christening party to be a family/community type of party, welcoming the child into "God's family" and where other children would normally be welcomed.
If it's a huge catered event, not wanting to add 25 kids is understandable though.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
While it is your party and you have to do what is best for you, if I got an invite to a Christening and my DD was not invited, i would not go. I think that any party in which the guest of honor is a child or baby, should have child guests invited. JMHO.
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by nrthshgrl
I wouldn't be offended. I'd just make arrangements. I do think of a Christening party to be a family/community type of party, welcoming the child into "God's family" and where other children would normally be welcomed.
If it's a huge catered event, not wanting to add 25 kids is understandable though.
ITA. If I couldn't find a babysitter though, I would hope no one would be offended
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
We only had 2 little girls at my son's christening, but i made them little entertainment bags with coloring books, hannah montana pencils, etc. Basically I just went to the dollar store and grabbed $10 worth of stuff for them to share.
They were so good the whole time- The bags worked like a charm!
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Re: No children at christening party? Honest opionons and advice please? (long)updated at bottom!
Posted by Ophelia
it really should not be "offensive" to anyone. will it but some people out, sure...but you can't please everyone.
I would just expect more declines, but I can see why would want to put the kabosh on it.
the only thing I can think if is cutting the guest list, children and parents alike, to those that are celebrating your child's entrance into his religions family, rather than inviting cousin vinnie b/c you were invited to his.
I am probably in the extremely small minority but (and I say this with so much love and respect for my family and friends) EFF keeping up with the jones.
no one outside of my four walls pays my bills or plots my life. my priority is to give my CHILD and my HUSBAND all that this world has to offer. NOT to offer shrimp cocktail to the masses at every single party.
many people, whether they know it/admit it or not, do most things to seem "equal" or some even for one upmanship.
honestly, if people cannot understand, especially in this economy, why cuts have to be made...that is on THEM. and if you (global) feel its embarrassing to have to cut back b/c of financial constraints...the best thing you (global) can do for yourself is get over it.
the ONLY important thing is the your son is received into God's love....(or the child feels celebrated on the birthday etc) the ONLY thing that matters in this life is how YOUR child sees what you do for him/her.
I hope you make the decision based on what YOU and your family want/need and DO NOT feel pressured ANY WHICH WAY.
believe me, I understand the pressure. I understand feeling guilty or sad that some have to be excluded. but at the end of the day, it's not about Me or anyone else, except
PS....if you DO decide to invite all the kiddies....NO ENTERTAINMENT. besides everything else, it is still the celebration of the solemn and joyous religious event. you don't need a clown there as your exclamation point.
good luck. enjoy. and God Bless beautiful Santino Giuseppe!!!!!!
Amen to this! You are so right in everyway..I think I needed to hear this You pionted out what is really important...ty
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