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neener1211
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by pnbplus1

Posted by smdl

OK.. I am TRYING to understand this!

So you are not happy because it BLOCKS your view into their yard and you cannot see what the heck they do (the DD comment) and just don't like the style.

So far you have not contributed a dime into the project but you think they probably should have asked you for your input.

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Obviously you haven't tried too hard to understand since you have made not one but two invalid and incorrect statements. Read carefully next time.

1. I am not unhappy bc it blocks my view of their yard. There was already a 5 ft fence there. I couldn't see into their yard. I am unhappy that I have to look at an ugly white wall that closes off my own yard. The DD comment comes straight from the grandma, not speculation on my part.


Why bother posting if aren't actually responding to what was written but instead to what you erroneously want to believe was written.




I think the problem is that you didn't make is clear what your issue with their fence was in your original post because I was confused as well and it took subsequent posts to get what you were talking about.

If the actual issue is that you don't like the style of the fence because it boxes in your yard, isn't that what fences do? You can vent all you want, but you had to have known your vent would have people saying it's too bad for you bc it's their property. If you wanted to vent without getting responses, don't post it.

Sorry, it does suck that you don't like what they picked, but, again, you can't control other people's tastes.

Posted 4/17/12 9:56 AM
 
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

i feel like this turned into the icicle light thread from a while ago.

Posted 4/17/12 9:59 AM
 

pnbplus1
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by neener1211


I think the problem is that you didn't make is clear what your issue with their fence was in your original post because I was confused as well and it took subsequent posts to get what you were talking about.

If you wanted to vent without getting responses, don't post it.




In my original post I wrote "I HATE how it completely closes off that side of our yard, just boxed it in. And it's bright white!"

I think the above pretty much sums up what my issue was. Seems pretty clear.

And, I knew I would get responses such as yours and posted as much in my original post (so as to make sure people wouldn't erroneously think that I didn't expect it). It does not bother me in the least that people continue to attack me based on my post. If anything it serves as a good tutorial for anyone new to LIF who wants to see how these boards really work.

Just editted for spelling

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Posted 4/17/12 10:31 AM
 

neener1211
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by pnbplus1

Posted by neener1211


I think the problem is that you didn't make is clear what your issue with their fence was in your original post because I was confused as well and it took subsequent posts to get what you were talking about.

If you wanted to vent without getting responses, don't post it.




In my original post I wrote "I HATE how it completely closes off that side of our yard, just boxed it in. And it's bright white!"

I think the above pretty much sums up what my issue was. Seems pretty clear.

And, I knew I would get responses such as yours and posted as much in my original post (so as to make sure people wouldn't erroneously think that I didn't expect it). It does not bother me in the least that people continue to attack me based on my post. If anything it serves as a good tutorial for anyone new to LIF who wants to see how these boards really work.

Just editted for spelling



The majority of the people responding didn't find it clear because of the extra information you added such as the grandmother watching their kid, something about a party, they're weird etc. Those facts and opinions took away from the point of your post.

And you're right, this does serve as a good tutorial for anyone new to LIF to see how the boards work.

That's all I'm saying, you believe the post was pretty clear, we didn't.

Posted 4/17/12 10:44 AM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by JennZ

Posted by smdl

OK.. I am TRYING to understand this!

Your neighbors had a fence, they removed THEIR old fence and put a new WHITE privacy fence out of THEIR pocket.

So you are not happy because it BLOCKS your view into their yard and you cannot see what the heck they do (the DD comment) and just don't like the style.

So far you have not contributed a dime into the project but you think they probably should have asked you for your input.

Are you serious?????

This is what I suggest.

You get YOUR OWN FENCE ON YOUR SIDE of the yard. You know the nice looking one that you think is ACCEPTABLE by your OWN standards.

Meanwhile, mind your own business. They did not put a white trailer as your view. You may not like what they chose but nobody goes around the neigborhood and complains about the new color siding a neighbors puts up. Especially if it is a POPULAR color/product. And call them SELFISH.

Maybe wonder why they put such privacy fence in the 1st place.




Amen!!



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Posted 4/17/12 1:01 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by mrsv1015

Posted by JennZ

Posted by smdl

OK.. I am TRYING to understand this!

Your neighbors had a fence, they removed THEIR old fence and put a new WHITE privacy fence out of THEIR pocket.

So you are not happy because it BLOCKS your view into their yard and you cannot see what the heck they do (the DD comment) and just don't like the style.

So far you have not contributed a dime into the project but you think they probably should have asked you for your input.

Are you serious?????

This is what I suggest.

You get YOUR OWN FENCE ON YOUR SIDE of the yard. You know the nice looking one that you think is ACCEPTABLE by your OWN standards.

Meanwhile, mind your own business. They did not put a white trailer as your view. You may not like what they chose but nobody goes around the neigborhood and complains about the new color siding a neighbors puts up. Especially if it is a POPULAR color/product. And call them SELFISH.

Maybe wonder why they put such privacy fence in the 1st place.




Amen!!



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Posted 4/17/12 5:35 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

I can't wait to see my friend Bob - Bob Frost - and let him know that BAD fences make BAD neighbors. Chat Icon

Posted 4/17/12 7:57 PM
 

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Posted 4/17/12 11:36 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Just a thought, maybe they plan on putting in a pool? And then they legally HAVE to put up a 6 foot fence?

My neighbors did inform us when they put up their 6 foot white fence, before they did it and we thought SCORE! free new fence and we told them to try to convince the neighbors on the other side (their parents) to do the same LOL



Posted 4/18/12 6:30 AM
 

timefortwo
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

hey, i think you got a pretty good deal Chat Icon 6 ft feet to block out your weird neighbors and give you privacy and you didnt pay a dime for it Chat Icon

Posted 4/18/12 9:20 AM
 

NervousNell
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by alli3131

Posted by MarsB

Are white PVC fences offensive? Just a question because we're looking into getting a new fence and it seems like this is what everyone in our neighborhood has.



No they are not offensive......at least not to most people!

Look around, I would say 95% of the fences out there are PVC so clearly they can't be that offensive.



I think they are a lot nicer and cleaner looking than a wood fence that will end up rotting and falling down...
Not to mention ours cost us a pretty penny.
All out of our own pocket and our neighbors were thrilled because they got a brand new, clean, neat, modern looking fence- for FREE- to replace that old wood rotting, falling down, outdated, eyesore.
So it's all a matter of how you look at it.

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Posted 4/18/12 9:43 AM
 

summertime
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Personally I do not like white PVC fencing either but I think I am in the minority as most do like it. Perhaps your neighbor thought you would appreciate a new fence without being asked to contribute?

We put up a new fence we actually went to our neighbors and told them. We werent looking for "permission or input" we already knew what we were going to do. It was more of a courtsey to let them know it was happening. We put a 6 foot black chain link and estate fencing around our pool. My one neighbor complained, "why cant we put estate fencing on his side". I told them it wasnt worth the expense as we plan on hiding the fence with mature bushes and trees. Plus you cant even see the fence on your side of the property with all your trees??

People love to spend other peoples money.

Posted 4/18/12 9:48 AM
 

Babymakin
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Honestly?

The spirit of her post was that they put in a big, white, ugly fence that blocks off her yard. She used to have a more "open" feel, and now, she has ugly white 6 foot fence.

I dont think there was anything to mis-understand.

Seriously? Leave her alone for G-ds sake. Attacking the OP over and over isnt enough? People have to KEEP attacking her?



Posted 4/18/12 9:52 AM
 

Kim7706
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by PennyJ923

We just put in a 6ft white PVC fence for privacy




We just did last week!!

Message edited 4/18/2012 10:10:41 AM.

Posted 4/18/12 10:08 AM
 

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I wish my neighbors would have offended me, would have saved myself a good 7k Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 4/18/12 10:38 AM
 

pnbplus1
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by Babymakin

Honestly?

The spirit of her post was that they put in a big, white, ugly fence that blocks off her yard. She used to have a more "open" feel, and now, she has ugly white 6 foot fence.

I dont think there was anything to mis-understand.

Seriously? Leave her alone for G-ds sake. Attacking the OP over and over isnt enough? People have to KEEP attacking her?






Thank you!

Seems simple enough yet the people that love to create drama and then perpetuate it seem to have difficulty understanding it.

Posted 4/18/12 2:01 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by Babymakin

Honestly?

The spirit of her post was that they put in a big, white, ugly fence that blocks off her yard. She used to have a more "open" feel, and now, she has ugly white 6 foot fence.

I dont think there was anything to mis-understand.

Seriously? Leave her alone for G-ds sake. Attacking the OP over and over isnt enough? People have to KEEP attacking her?






My neighbors across the street have two broken down crappy cars in their driveway from the 70s. Are they allowed to do it....sure, but I hate it and it sure as hell annoys me that I have to look at it every single day.

Posted 4/18/12 3:26 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Ugh I can sympathize I think that PVC fences are terrible looking in my opinion. I think they re a fad that already look dated. While the may be popular in other areas they are not popular in our town thankfully. Most people here use real wood or black wrought iron. If I were you I would put my own fence abutting theirs in whatever color/ material you prefer.

Posted 4/18/12 3:45 PM
 

alli3131
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by Nifheim

i feel like this turned into the icicle light thread from a while ago.



I can't wait to put icicle lights on my white PVC fence!!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 4/18/12 4:52 PM
 

KellyNYC
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by Babyaholic

Posted by Babymakin

Honestly?

The spirit of her post was that they put in a big, white, ugly fence that blocks off her yard. She used to have a more "open" feel, and now, she has ugly white 6 foot fence.

I dont think there was anything to mis-understand.

Seriously? Leave her alone for G-ds sake. Attacking the OP over and over isnt enough? People have to KEEP attacking her?






My neighbors across the street have two broken down crappy cars in their driveway from the 70s. Are they allowed to do it....sure, but I hate it and it sure as hell annoys me that I have to look at it every single day.



I agree. I hate looking at my neighbor's chain link fence and cars parked in front of my house every day. Sure it's their right and their taste but it doesn't mean I have to like it. I see nothing wrong with OP voicing her opinion on what SHE deems visually offensive. It's not like she barged over there and demanded they take it down.

Posted 4/18/12 8:21 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

I would be upset as well. In the village that we live in you are actually not allowed to put up anything higher than a 5' fence. I think it's for exactly what you described. A lot of people don't want to look at a big giant wall in their backyard. Especially if it's a small backyard to begin with.

Posted 4/19/12 6:56 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

To the OP--

I totally get it and we're grappling with what to do with our own fence line. We and our neighbors have small yards and all share the original 1950 4' chain link and have no privacy. The moment we put in any kind of new fence, regardless of height or materials, it will get rid of the "open" feel of our yards. It's a tough balance to try to keep.

I think that the trellis and rose bush idea is a good one. Depending on how much sun you get in that spot, you might want to look at clematis and trumpet vine. Privet hedges or one of the various cedar shrub varieties that are fast growing could also be good.

Good luck!

Posted 4/20/12 3:34 PM
 

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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by rojerono

Posted by MarsB

Are white PVC fences offensive? Just a question because we're looking into getting a new fence and it seems like this is what everyone in our neighborhood has.



I THINK the OP's biggest issue was that the fence was not put up all around the property.. just between her house and the neighbors. She did admit that she doesn't have the 'right' to be angry since it's their property.. but she feels it ruined the look of her own property (made it feel smaller, reduced the natural landscape).

I don't think they are offensive. I don't like them - but that's TOTALLY a personal preference. I prefer natural materials - wood and stone. I don't like chain link either. I know plenty of people love PVC... power to them!



I agree. It was a vent. Leave it be. I also am not a fan of stark white PVC fences.

Posted 4/20/12 4:18 PM
 

ave1024
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by lululu

I would be upset as well. In the village that we live in you are actually not allowed to put up anything higher than a 5' fence. I think it's for exactly what you described. A lot of people don't want to look at a big giant wall in their backyard. Especially if it's a small backyard to begin with.




I am curious what village does not allow you to put up something higher than 5' in your back yard?

Most villages REQUIRE 6' again if you have pool, hot tub, etc.

Posted 4/20/12 5:18 PM
 

Mrs213
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Re: Neighbor fence vent!!!!!

Posted by ave1024

Posted by lululu

I would be upset as well. In the village that we live in you are actually not allowed to put up anything higher than a 5' fence. I think it's for exactly what you described. A lot of people don't want to look at a big giant wall in their backyard. Especially if it's a small backyard to begin with.




I am curious what village does not allow you to put up something higher than 5' in your back yard?

Most villages REQUIRE 6' again if you have pool, hot tub, etc.




My town doesn't require any height for the fence for a pool but it must be fenced, and there's no fence around the hot tub. So it could be true...

Posted 4/20/12 5:46 PM
 
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