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kms717
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by JenniferEver
According to what I read on NYCLU.org, the parents can't force her 
Can't force her to put the baby up for adoption?
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Legal Info Please
I do not believe the parents have a legal right to make the decision for her. The decision is up to her.
That being said, and I know others feel differently, IMO I think she should continue the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption. There are many many families out there who cannot have children and many families that can give this baby a wonderful life. I do believe it is a woman's choice for abortion, however, I personally would never have one and only believe in abortion under certain circumstances. Embarrassment and the stupidity of a 14 yr. old is not one of them.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Legal Info Please
Honestly, No, I don't think a 14 year old should have a baby, but how is it that her parents allowed this situation to happen in the first place? Yes, I know you cannot watch your children at all times, but obviously this 14 year old girl is running the house and ruling her parents or she would not be walking straight right now. If I ever ended up pregnant at 14, you can bet your azz that if my parents told me I was having an abortion, there was no questioning it, and if they told me I was giving the baby up for adoption, there would be no questioning that either. Hell, if I even had a dog I didn't take care of they'd have set me straight the first time. It looks like they will be paying the price for not parenting her correctly. Sorry, just my opinion. Hopefully they'll be better parents to this child. Since, yes, I'm sure they will take on that role. Sorry to sound like a b-tch, but they basically have created a monster who won't listen to them.
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| Posted 3/17/07 3:49 PM |
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neenie
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by jana
Neenie- Thank God for you things worked out but I think 19 and 14 are WORLDS apart..not so much in #'s but in mentality and capability.
Oh, i totally agree that there's a huge difference... and most 30 year olds- who are financially stable and PLAN to have a child- don't even realize everything that comes along with having a baby, nevermind 14yr olds, BUT...i think that by the parent coming in Now... and using this to make the authoritative statement is just going to cause even more problems down the line. Its something that requires a social worker, mediation- whatever kind of 3rd party...to help them work it out, because the problem isn't just going to go away if they give the baby up for adoption.
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| Posted 3/17/07 4:28 PM |
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Re: Legal Info Please
In this situation are the parents still legally responsible to care financially for the 14 ryr old. If the law considers her now an adult could they threaten to cut her off financially.
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| Posted 3/18/07 9:01 AM |
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sunnyplus3
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Re: Legal Info Please
I was an unwed teen mother, 17 when my son was born.
If she wants a reality check you can FM me & I'll give you my email address.
My son is going to be 20 in July so I can explain to her exactly what sacrifices she'll need to make if this is what she wants.
I could have NEVER raised my son if I didn't have my Mom's support. She wasn't crazy about the idea at first but we made a deal that she would care for my son while I finished high school & went to college.
Things turned out well in my family, but I consider myself a very rare exception
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| Posted 3/18/07 9:19 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by prncssrachel
Honestly, No, I don't think a 14 year old should have a baby, but how is it that her parents allowed this situation to happen in the first place? Yes, I know you cannot watch your children at all times, but obviously this 14 year old girl is running the house and ruling her parents or she would not be walking straight right now. If I ever ended up pregnant at 14, you can bet your azz that if my parents told me I was having an abortion, there was no questioning it, and if they told me I was giving the baby up for adoption, there would be no questioning that either. Hell, if I even had a dog I didn't take care of they'd have set me straight the first time. It looks like they will be paying the price for not parenting her correctly. Sorry, just my opinion. Hopefully they'll be better parents to this child. Since, yes, I'm sure they will take on that role. Sorry to sound like a b-tch, but they basically have created a monster who won't listen to them.
I totally agree.
Also if I would have gotten pregnant at 14, my parents would have kicked me out on my azz.
Have her parents threatened her with that at all? I mean she can't work - where would she live with a baby? With no money to support herself or buy food for the baby? Does she think she can get an apartment on her own at 14?
Of course she's not going to give up that baby so long as she knows that she can continue to manipulate mommy and daddy to do absolutely everything for her - shelter her and the baby, feed and provide for them both.
I feel for that baby. 
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| Posted 3/18/07 9:24 AM |
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I wouldn't blame the parents. If you have ever been on babycenter their is a board of pregnant teenagers. Some of them try to get pregnant. Then there are also people throwing baby showers for these teenagers who shouldn't be pregnant in the first place. I think it is the way society is now.
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| Posted 3/18/07 10:26 AM |
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Maathy317
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Re: Legal Info Please
The only fact that matters at this point is that this child is pregnant and a baby is on the way. There is nothing her parents can do to stop that. That being said, her parents need to consult an attorney as soon as possible to find out what can be done after the baby is born.
This girl is going to neglect this baby just as soon as the fantasy is over and reality sets in. That is when her parents are going to need to step and take legal action. I am sure they can petition the court to have custody turned over to them. This is why they need legal advice before hand to know what they can and cannot do. This baby needs to be protected at all costs.
This girl, from what you have stated, is a spoiled brat and is out of control. Once the situation with the baby is taken care of, these parents need to grow a backbone and take charge of this girl. She needs therapy quickly. I don't like to criticize other parents because I don't walk in their shoes, but, these parents, and others like them, have no one but themselves to blame for a mess like this. They are more concerned with being their child's friend instead of their parent. Now, they need to clean this mess up before it gets worse. There is nothing they can do right now, but, they need to get their "ducks in a row" so they can take action later. Situations like this are so sad and so infuriating because it didn't have to happen.
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| Posted 3/18/07 10:59 AM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Legal Info Please
Withiout knowing the situation, kicking her out may be the WORST thing. She amy say "ok fine" and go live with friends and end up doing drugs, on the streets, etc. Obviously she's out of control.
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| Posted 3/18/07 11:14 AM |
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lilacwine
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Re: Legal Info Please
some hugs for you and the family
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| Posted 3/18/07 11:17 AM |
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I am not sure if this is totally true but I thought once you were pregnant you were concidered an EMANCIPATED MINOR so the parents wouldnt have a say in what she does with her child
I too was a teenage mother(17) I was a wild child and my parents were great parents but they had no idea what to do with me I met this guy (DDs father) and then stopped listening to them they tried everything but nothing worked. I have to say having my DD was the BEST thing to ever happen to me She is a great kid and she totally grounded me. I am a better person having had her.
I am a totally different person now then I was back then ......so you never know maybe this will change her for the better
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MrsT
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by kms717
What right does a parent have if their 14 year old daughter is pregnant. Apparently they cannot make her have an abortion, but can they put the baby up for adoption?
Wow, such a horrible situation I do not think there is anything they can do to force her to put the baby up for adoption. But maybe they can get the parents of the boy involved.
My sister mentioned something about parents now being obligated to pay child support for the babies of their minor children. I did not check it out but I think my sister confirmed this.
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MrsT
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by kms717
I can understand that, but I think being that she's not even old enough to work and is mentally not ready for a baby, this child is going to suffer. This is not a mature 14 year old I'm talking about. This is a girl who doesn't know who the father of the baby is, who has no regard for anyone else other than herself, and only wants the baby because she thinks it will love her unconditionally. She has no clue what the real world is like! This is a girl who begged and begged for a dog and now that she has it doesn't walk it and when it uses the living rug as a place to relieve herself, she leaves it there all day for her parents to come home and clean. She will not take care of this kid, it'll be new for a few weeks, but the middle of the night feedings are going to get old really fast.
OMG!! She does not even know who the father is of her baby Well, I guess she will need to get DNA testing done before she can even seek child support.
I assume the boy is a minor as well but if not it's statutory rape!!! Her parents should not raise that issue until AFTER they can get the name of the boy/man and his contact info. Having the would-be dad go to jail may put enough fear into her to not go through with the pregnancy However, her parents cannot force her to terminate.
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megsm3
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Re: Legal Info Please
I have no words of advice, but just wanted to say how sorry I am for all involved - this is not a good situation for anyone
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apb17
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Re: Legal Info Please
I was born to a 15 year-old and thank God every day that she placed me up for adoption. I pray that this girl has the smarts to do the same thing for herself and that little one especially with so many couples unable to have their own child.
With that said, I am also a middle school teacher and know that there are many young teenagers out there that believe that having a baby is the answer to all of their problems. It is so sad and so frustrating. I have had a number of pregnant students and all as far as I know, have kept the baby and had their parents help raise them.
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dandr10199
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by apb17
I was born to a 15 year-old and thank God every day that she placed me up for adoption. I pray that this girl has the smarts to do the same thing for herself and that little one especially with so many couples unable to have their own child.
apb17 - IMHO, Your birth mother was a HERO for choosing adoption. JMHO, but if she chooses adoption, she is WAY more mature than if she chose to raise the baby or terminate it.
Please let her know tons of people would adopt her child in a heartbeat, myself included.  's for the family during this difficult time.
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june262004
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by BabyAvocado
Posted by prncssrachel
Honestly, No, I don't think a 14 year old should have a baby, but how is it that her parents allowed this situation to happen in the first place? Yes, I know you cannot watch your children at all times, but obviously this 14 year old girl is running the house and ruling her parents or she would not be walking straight right now. If I ever ended up pregnant at 14, you can bet your azz that if my parents told me I was having an abortion, there was no questioning it, and if they told me I was giving the baby up for adoption, there would be no questioning that either. Hell, if I even had a dog I didn't take care of they'd have set me straight the first time. It looks like they will be paying the price for not parenting her correctly. Sorry, just my opinion. Hopefully they'll be better parents to this child. Since, yes, I'm sure they will take on that role. Sorry to sound like a b-tch, but they basically have created a monster who won't listen to them.
I totally agree.
Also if I would have gotten pregnant at 14, my parents would have kicked me out on my azz.
Have her parents threatened her with that at all? I mean she can't work - where would she live with a baby? With no money to support herself or buy food for the baby? Does she think she can get an apartment on her own at 14?
Of course she's not going to give up that baby so long as she knows that she can continue to manipulate mommy and daddy to do absolutely everything for her - shelter her and the baby, feed and provide for them both.
I feel for that baby.
I agree
My mother would have KILLED me if I came home pregnant 
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EmmaNick
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by JenniferEver
Withiout knowing the situation, kicking her out may be the WORST thing. She amy say "ok fine" and go live with friends and end up doing drugs, on the streets, etc. Obviously she's out of control.
I'm sure DSS would provide housing, food stamps, daycare,, etc. for a 14 year old with no job and a child on the way.
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| Posted 3/18/07 6:42 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Legal Info Please
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by JenniferEver
Withiout knowing the situation, kicking her out may be the WORST thing. She amy say "ok fine" and go live with friends and end up doing drugs, on the streets, etc. Obviously she's out of control.
I'm sure DSS would provide housing, food stamps, daycare,, etc. for a 14 year old with no job and a child on the way.
Yeah but that's only one way to go, another way is to just in with the wrong people who "love" her and will "take care" of her. She probably doens't have the foresight to look for state aid, etc
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