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DebG
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Is it tacky
All of our friends most certainly know what is going on with me and my (insert whispiring voice saying "cancer" ala my grandma here). I want to have a party! I guess not really a party but I want to have a night designated for people to come over to our house (at whatever time they please) so that I may see everyone in one shot before surgery. However, I don't have a lot of time nor do I have a lot of energy these days to go out and buy lots of food, drinks, and party type items and prepare them.
is that really wrong or do you think people would understand?
I thought of hiring a caterer but our medical bills are really starting to pile up already 
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DebG
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Re: Is it tacky
PS when I ask if its tacky, I really want to know! NO reason to sugar coat your answers or blow smoke up my behind  
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:10 AM |
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Salason
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Re: Is it tacky
no, i think EVERYONE would understand. honestly, im in the city but ANYTHING i can do from here to help that party, im there 
ETA: no suger coating here. you seem to be one tough cookie and im SURE the people you know will just want to be around you.
Message edited 7/22/2006 12:12:50 AM.
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:11 AM |
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Jenziba
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Re: Is it tacky
I don't think it's tacky at all...I'm sure EVERYONE will understand and when they ask if they can bring anything...don't be afraid to say yes. Have them all bring the food and drink...I'm sure they're not looking for you to prepare a feast for them.
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:11 AM |
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randella
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Re: Is it tacky
two words-- Pot Luck. I think it's a great idea and I am sure your friends will be excited to bring stuff over.
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:12 AM |
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Snozberry
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Re: Is it tacky
Honest answer: I think that people would understand; I'm sure that a lot of people want to see you.
I know that I would certainly understand!
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DebG
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Re: Is it tacky
Ali- I love your avatar saying.
ARI is simply one of THE BEST characters on television these days.
I LOVE ENTOURAGE!
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mrswask
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Re: Is it tacky
Deb - I agree with the other ladies - not tacky. I think it's absolutely fine to have a party. If you feel badly not having stuff - order a couple of pizzas and tell everyone it's potluck and to bring something to go along with the pizza - salads, another dish, drinks, etc.
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Jessica
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Re: Is it tacky
Posted by randella
two words-- Pot Luck. I think it's a great idea and I am sure your friends will be excited to bring stuff over.
thats what i was going to say
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:15 AM |
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OMG please - if I went to your house I wouldnt expect you to get up from your seat to greet me! No food necessary. Anyone who you are close enough to coming over would bring something I am sure.
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:16 AM |
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Posted by randella
two words-- Pot Luck. I think it's a great idea and I am sure your friends will be excited to bring stuff over.
I agree!
I think they would completely understand and besides, I bet people are tripping over themselves to do something, anything for you right now - if your only request as of now is to see their smiling faces before your surgery and bring a dish.... no, not tacky at all!
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monkeybride
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Re: Is it tacky
I don't think it's tacky, just call it an open house. I am sure people will just be glad to see you and baby Joey.
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:19 AM |
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DebG
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Re: Is it tacky
Ok just wanted to be sure.
DH nad I were talking about it and I just wasnt sure. USUALLY when we invite people over we want to do it up to the nines so I don't think I have ever treaded these waters
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:23 AM |
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Arissa444
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Re: Is it tacky
I really don't think this is tacky at all. I'm sure every one is understanding and will just want to see you and the baby. Food shouldn't even matter. I wouldn't go crazy over that. 
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Salason
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Posted by DebG
Ok just wanted to be sure.
DH nad I were talking about it and I just wasnt sure. USUALLY when we invite people over we want to do it up to the nines so I don't think I have ever treaded these waters
dont think that anyone will FORGET who you are under normal circumstances?! you CANT go to scale of what you would normally and thats FINE.
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:25 AM |
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Salason
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Re: Is it tacky
sent you FM but truly heart felt
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:29 AM |
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mrswask
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Re: Is it tacky
I make a mean guacamole! 
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:31 AM |
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JenG
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Re: Is it tacky
you should definately have a party! not tacky at all. whatever makes you feel better. it might also bring your spirits up!
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:34 AM |
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janet
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Re: Is it tacky
hey deb do as you want and i am more then sure everyone will be very happy to join you!!!
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:37 AM |
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neenie
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Re: Is it tacky
No freakin' way!
if Darren wore a polyester shirt, bellbottoms and white platforms, it might be a Tad bit tacky. but anything short of that. nope. no way.
hey- even if you charged admission at the door... i still wouldn't think its tacky. you ARE, afterall, the hottest thing to hit medical journals since Penicillin! 
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| Posted 7/22/06 12:44 AM |
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DebG
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Re: Is it tacky
Posted by neeniebean86
No freakin' way!
if Darren wore a polyester shirt, bellbottoms and white platforms, it might be a Tad bit tacky. but anything short of that. nope. no way.
hey- even if you charged admission at the door... i still wouldn't think its tacky. you ARE, afterall, the hottest thing to hit medical journals since Penicillin!
Shiat! how did you figure out what he would be wearing!
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neenie
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Re: Is it tacky
Posted by DebG
Shiat! how did you figure out what he would be wearing!
Ugh... i swear... its what Mike wears to every party, and i'm like "okayyyy at least get black platforms to be a little more modest" 
so, seeing as him and darren have so much in common- it was an easy assumption
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DebG
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Re: Is it tacky
Posted by neeniebean86
Posted by DebG
Shiat! how did you figure out what he would be wearing!
Ugh... i swear... its what Mike wears to every party, and i'm like "okayyyy at least get black platforms to be a little more modest"
so, seeing as him and darren have so much in common- it was an easy assumption
Hows school going for ya?
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Re: Is it tacky
well deb, you always count on me for my honesty, so i will give it to you
do i think it's tacky to ask people to bring things? no way - make it a pot luck - people do it all the time and it's fine.
However, I'm going to go a different way here. Like you say, the people you invite know your situation and know what you are about to go through - they may see this more as a "pity" party, rather than a simple gathering to see friends, which is what your main intention is - you just want to see your friends.
I'll give you an example - Christine's aunt had cancer and before one of her procedures, she had a BBQ to see everyone. I'll admit it, everyone, including us, felt awkward. How do you act? How do you say good night without getting emotional?
So, I'm not saying don't do it - but you have to make it clear that if you don't want a pity party, you should state it up front.
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Re: Is it tacky
Posted by randella
two words-- Pot Luck. I think it's a great idea and I am sure your friends will be excited to bring stuff over.
Ditto. I think this is a great idea.
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