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DumpsterBaby
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Interesting question...
This came up in a convo recently and I was surprised by how many women said they would do it.
If you had the money and resources to have a gender selection procedure done to pick the sex of your child, would you do it?
I wouldn't...it feels like playing God and I'm not into messing with nature in that way.
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Tina1117
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Re: Interesting question...
oooh tough question...
I have 2 DS's and love them dearly as much as I would love a little girl I would have to say no on the gender selection. BUT I don't know much about it. If I know that it wasn't dangerous, no birth defects, etc then I may consider but right now I would say no I'd just be happy to get pregnant again.
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| Posted 6/26/12 11:14 AM |
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AngnShaun
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Interesting question...
Ive already messed with nature, so i guess if i had the money and more than one of the same gender i would.
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| Posted 6/26/12 11:16 AM |
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ModDot
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Interesting question...
I wouldn't. I'd always worry about 'what if'
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| Posted 6/26/12 11:19 AM |
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by AngnShaun
Ive already messed with nature, so i guess if i had the money and more than one of the same gender i would.
Choosing a procedure like this is far different than reproductive technology, to me. Biologically, all women should be able to bear children, and if one needs assistance in doing so, I in no way think that's messing with nature.
Choosing gender selection is not allowing your body's natural processes to take place, and that to me is messing with nature. If someone gets pregnant, shouldn't the only focus be a healthy baby, no matter the gender?
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| Posted 6/26/12 11:45 AM |
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maymama
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Re: Interesting question...
nope 
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| Posted 6/26/12 11:57 AM |
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PitterPatter11
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Re: Interesting question...
At this point, I just want a baby, so I would not be bothered with gender selection. But isn't it really just the same procedure as someone undergoing IVF to ensure that they do not pass on a genetic disease. The RE would only put back the desired gender embryos and then freeze or discard the other ones....
Message edited 6/26/2012 12:13:17 PM.
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AngnShaun
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by PitterPatter11
At this point, I just want a baby, so I would not be bothered with gender selection. But isn't it really just the same procedure as someone undergoing IVF to ensure that they do not pass on a genetic disease. The RE would only put back the desired gender embryos and then freeze or discard the other ones....
Exactly. I am not seeing a difference. Its still not nature taking its course. Its the same as someone doing IVF w/ICSI.
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| Posted 6/26/12 12:15 PM |
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ModDot
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Interesting question...
a co worker had to have a surrogate, they ended up with twin boys. He said that when they go back to have another they will aim for a girl based on the embryos. I can kind of understand that. What I think she meant was that if you're already preggo, can they change the genetic code of the baby before it develops. I think that is different than selecting which embryo to implant
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| Posted 6/26/12 12:20 PM |
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phoenix913
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Re: Interesting question...
I have a DS. So yes I would consider having the procedure to have a girl. Depending on what exactly the procedure entails and the risks though.
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cateyemm
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by PitterPatter11
At this point, I just want a baby, so I would not be bothered with gender selection. But isn't it really just the same procedure as someone undergoing IVF to ensure that they do not pass on a genetic disease. The RE would only put back the desired gender embryos and then freeze or discard the other ones....
Exactly. I am not seeing a difference. Its still not nature taking its course. Its the same as someone doing IVF w/ICSI.
i see a difference because the necessity is there if you have a genetic disease. otherwise it's like consmetic. we were very close to doing genetic testing on the embryos and then we would've found out which were girls/boys. in that case, we would've put back two o fthe most healthy ones and if there were a lot, we wouldve put back one girl and one boy because we felt uncomfortable with preferring one gender over another. we ended up not having to do that though.
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AngnShaun
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by PitterPatter11
At this point, I just want a baby, so I would not be bothered with gender selection. But isn't it really just the same procedure as someone undergoing IVF to ensure that they do not pass on a genetic disease. The RE would only put back the desired gender embryos and then freeze or discard the other ones....
Exactly. I am not seeing a difference. Its still not nature taking its course. Its the same as someone doing IVF w/ICSI.
i see a difference because the necessity is there if you have a genetic disease. otherwise it's like consmetic. we were very close to doing genetic testing on the embryos and then we would've found out which were girls/boys. in that case, we would've put back two o fthe most healthy ones and if there were a lot, we wouldve put back one girl and one boy because we felt uncomfortable with preferring one gender over another. we ended up not having to do that though.
Right but in terms of it being natural or unnatural. I think its just as unnatural as the IVF procedure... If i was willing to do that i dont see it as any more unnatural.
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ModDot
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by PitterPatter11
At this point, I just want a baby, so I would not be bothered with gender selection. But isn't it really just the same procedure as someone undergoing IVF to ensure that they do not pass on a genetic disease. The RE would only put back the desired gender embryos and then freeze or discard the other ones....
Exactly. I am not seeing a difference. Its still not nature taking its course. Its the same as someone doing IVF w/ICSI.
i see a difference because the necessity is there if you have a genetic disease. otherwise it's like consmetic. we were very close to doing genetic testing on the embryos and then we would've found out which were girls/boys. in that case, we would've put back two o fthe most healthy ones and if there were a lot, we wouldve put back one girl and one boy because we felt uncomfortable with preferring one gender over another. we ended up not having to do that though.
Right but in terms of it being natural or unnatural. I think its just as unnatural as the IVF procedure... If i was willing to do that i dont see it as any more unnatural.
I totally see your point.
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cateyemm
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by AngnShaun
Right but in terms of it being natural or unnatural. I think its just as unnatural as the IVF procedure... If i was willing to do that i dont see it as any more unnatural.
It's certainly not natural lol, there's no argument about that! I could justify it if it's a necessity to have a healthy baby though.
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AngnShaun
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by AngnShaun
Right but in terms of it being natural or unnatural. I think its just as unnatural as the IVF procedure... If i was willing to do that i dont see it as any more unnatural.
It's certainly not natural lol, there's no argument about that! I could justify it if it's a necessity to have a healthy baby though.
But your talking about after its already fertilized, rather than picking individual sperm that will make it a girl. Its a little different but still the same idea... except yours doesnt cost nearly as much probably lol....
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cateyemm
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by AngnShaun
Right but in terms of it being natural or unnatural. I think its just as unnatural as the IVF procedure... If i was willing to do that i dont see it as any more unnatural.
It's certainly not natural lol, there's no argument about that! I could justify it if it's a necessity to have a healthy baby though.
But your talking about after its already fertilized, rather than picking individual sperm that will make it a girl. Its a little different but still the same idea... except yours doesnt cost nearly as much probably lol....
it wasnt really that expensive considering ... but i didnt realize that's how they did it in those situations! isnt that what the beckhams did supposedly?
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AngnShaun
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by AngnShaun
Right but in terms of it being natural or unnatural. I think its just as unnatural as the IVF procedure... If i was willing to do that i dont see it as any more unnatural.
It's certainly not natural lol, there's no argument about that! I could justify it if it's a necessity to have a healthy baby though.
But your talking about after its already fertilized, rather than picking individual sperm that will make it a girl. Its a little different but still the same idea... except yours doesnt cost nearly as much probably lol....
it wasnt really that expensive considering ... but i didnt realize that's how they did it in those situations! isnt that what the beckhams did supposedly?
Yeah well im pretty sure its medically covered for you. As an elective thing i doubt it.
I think that was the rumor.
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ARIELSMOM
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Re: Interesting question...
i have 2 boys and a girl, so that wouldnt be necessary for me since i have both genders. I dont know what i would do if i was in a different situation
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cateyemm
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by AngnShaun
Yeah well im pretty sure its medically covered for you. As an elective thing i doubt it.
I think that was the rumor.
No it was OOP- but it wasnt as expensive as you may think- $5000 I think? Or was it 2500. I blocked it out of my memory lol
I dont think I ever answered the OP's question lol. If I didnt have to do it to have a healthy baby, no, i'd never choose to do it.
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PitterPatter11
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Re: Interesting question...
Posted by retrochick
What I think she meant was that if you're already preggo, can they change the genetic code of the baby before it develops. I think that is different than selecting which embryo to implant
If you are already pregnant, they do not have the technology to change the genetic code. That would require them to go into each individual cell and change the code for each cell (since your cells all have the same exact DNA, regardless of function). Any manipulation must be done either to the gametes OR directly after fertilization occurs when there is only the zygote (single celled fertilized egg). As of now, no genetic manipulation has occurred like this in humans due to ethical/moral reasons.
Pre-implantation genetic diagnosis (PGD), however, does occur and requires no manipulation of genes.
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MrsFrizzle
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Re: Interesting question...
No I wouldn't. Whatever God wants to give me he can give me
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MRsFaTThead
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Re: Interesting question...
We talked about this a few weeks ago because hes sooooooooooo pro boy and i told him HELL NO!!!
It would be very similar to IVF. Which when we were ttc I told him that clomid and iui was as far as I was willing to go for a LO
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TaraVinny
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Re: Interesting question...
i would love to have a girl but i'm gonna let God decide.
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gina409
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Re: Interesting question...
i never had a desire for gender so i would not
to each their own...i just wanted a baby no matter what sex and we got two for the expensive price of one
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babycrazed
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Interesting question...
No way! Of course I would love my baby, but I would always wonder about the baby that should have been. And if god forbid I had a baby with some kind of medical issue, I would always feel guilty that I may have caused it somehow. I'm too superstitious for something like this.
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