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Unfortunately, I can't say that my DH does a lot. He does help here and there, but majoity of the time it's me. It upsets me that he doesn't help out that much, besides me being tired, I think it's quality time with Caiden that's being wasted. I know he loves and adores his son, but most time spent with Caiden is mainly for playing. I know my DH works 2 jobs, but so do I and that's not including taking care of Caiden. I get up with Caiden every morning since he was born, I get him ready for school, I drop him off, I pick him up, I mainly feed him/get his dinner ready, I bathe him, I get him ready for bed and I change his diapers. My DH most of the time will do something if I ask him too, but to me I shouldn't have to. He's been a little bit better lately, but he could definitely do more with Caiden and definitely around the house. I just can't do everything by myself! I love my DH more than anything, but his laziness and procrastinating is sooooo annoying and hard to live with at times. Please someone show my DH that he's not the only one who works 2 jobs and that it doesn't exempt him from family and household responsibilities!!!

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My DH is great. He does the laundry and comes home and gives Jack his bath every night and puts him to bed. When he was an infant we would rotate night feedings so we could each get a decent nights sleep. Now on the weekends he gets up with Jack and takes care of him in the morining while I sleep in a little bit.

Forgot to mention he is also in charge of cleaning all the bathrooms!

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I can't complain here. Al's awesome with Ella and with helping around the house (laundry, cooking, cleaning and all the yardwork). He works from home most days, so he's here to help me bathe her, comfort her, change her, etc.

Now that she's taking bottles also, he feeds her in the morning, and lets me sleep in.

To think, he never changed a diaper in his life before Ella, and now he's a pro

I love watching them together.

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Ok.... I'm really jealous!!! Why isn't my DH like that?

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DH just as much as I do. We basically split everything. I get up most mornings with DS because DH works late a few nights a week. But if I ever need anything DH has no problem taking care of business!

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Mine does a lot. He picks up the kids every day, cooks dinner, takes them on bike rides, plays dolls, etc. He gets up by 5am & has been working 6 days a week.

It wasn't always like that. In the beginning, I was in charge of EVERYTHING. It was overwhelming to come home from a long work day, clean bottles, make dinner, feed the baby, clean up from dinner, clean up the baby, etc. I was so sleep deprived the first few years.

Now that they're older - he's more invoved. It's easier because they can tell him what they need. He wasn't good at figuring out diaper change, hungry, sleep, etc. I still remember him giving me a "break". I could hear Joseph crying and DH saying "Just talk. Tell me what's wrong. I'll give you anything. Do you want a bottle? A car? Anything just tell me!" He was about 6 weeks old.

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DH is a good "helper".

When DD was born he would never wake up for midnight feedings because 1 - I was on maternity leave (for 8 weeks) so why should he have to get up? - and 2 - because he claimed to never hear her cry - that changed when I threatened to quit my job.

He does get her ready 3 times a week for daycare (I pick her up) - and he will cook dinner and clean up (I do bottles, bath, bedtime, daycare bag, and lay out clothes for the next day).

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Well I'm a SAHM, so I pretty much do all the work, but when my DH works from home sometimes he helps me out, and on the weekends. He will take her to the stores with him just so I can get a little brake! If I need him to come home early once in a while to get a pedicure or anything, he will do it. He really is an amazing daddy and DH.

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I really cnnot complain. My hubby helps out alot (don't let him know I am admitting it ). He gets up with him in the morning so I can take a shower and get myself ready. On the weekends we each take a day to lseep in. We both work from home, so if I need a hand during the day he is always right there. He helps with the cooking and loves playing with Jake and taking him out. I really do most of the cleaning, but he really helps alot with Jake so I think that is a fair trade.

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Posted by CaidensMommy

Ok.... I'm really jealous!!! Why isn't my DH like that?

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My DH does it ALL!! He watches Brianna 3 day out of the week while Im working. HE works nights so its all me when and if she gets up at night.. I couldn't have asked for a better husband and daddy...

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Since I have been home on leave and breastfeeding, I've been doing most of the work. Dh comes home from work and plays with the baby or just spends some time holding him..But Dh does the shopping ang he has been cleaning a lot lately. He wll also do baby stuff when I ask him too. When I go back to work though, he will be watching the baby for 2 days out of the week.

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DH does more than most, but simple things like making sure there are enough supplies in the diaper bag just escapes him. I hate that I have to remember all the time that we might need a diaper while we are out.

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My dh and I make a good team. We have our moments. I can completely rely on him. I go to the gym four nights a week and my hubby will bath and put Emily to bed. He almost always cleans out the dishwasher and reloads it before he leaves for work and cleans up Emily's toys. My daughter loves him. Yesterday I had a girls day with my girlfriend. We were out all day. My hubby took Emily to Ruby Tuesdays, shopping and then they came home and took a nap together. He then fed her dinner. He said he was sad when he heard my car pull into the driveway. He loves spending alone time with her. He is a wonderful dad. He works ten hours a day, so it is hard during the week for him to spend a great deal of time with her. The two of us really are enjoying being parents.

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Posted by CaidensMommy

Ok.... I'm really jealous!!! Why isn't my DH like that?

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I'm not sure if this will help at all but for the moms of girls, you can introduce the "slut" factor.

Tell him if he thinks back to all of those girls in high school that were slutty - they all had father issues. He should take note & get involved.

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my husband works, works, works. then he comes home and renovates our home. then he sleeps. he barely has any time for us!!!

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For the first 3 months (while home on leave) DH was no help at all. I felt completely overwhelmed and alone with a colicky unhappy baby.

After I went back to work DH watched Andrew full time for 9 months! And ever since Andrew started part-time day care DH watches him 2 times a week. He is better at the play/teach part of things and not so great at the diaper changing meal feeding stuff, but he does try hard.

They have a very strong bond which is nice to see.

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That's a tough one... lately I feel like all of the baby duties fall on me - I give her her medicine, feed her most of the time, change her, give her a bath, wake up with her and put her to bed. BUT, that's only temporary because we just moved into our new house and hubby is taking care of most of the renovations himself, so I'm giving him a lot of slack. Usually he's fabulous... he feeds her, changes her, hangs out with her in the AM until school and drops her off... we usually take turns waking up with her in the morning on the weekends, and he's usually very involved in her care and playtime. Once these house renovations are over and done with, he'll be getting a swift kick in the arse to get back into "baby routine"

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Where do i begin? DH does so much. I'm truly lucky. I'm on my own when he goes to work, but as soon as he comes in the door he takes over feeding and diaper changes and dinner. And he misses her so much during the day that he's dying to play with her just when I'm completely tired of it. We bathe her together at night and put her to sleep together. On weekends he tries to let me catch up as much as possible. I don't know how single parents do it! I'd be lost w/o him.

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DH doesn't do nearly as much as I do. I call him the part time daddy for this reason. He does work extremely hard and long hours but I knew that getting into the relationship.

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Commuting everyday working hard so I can be a stay at home mom is plenty!

He is a great husband & dad! I have to do is ask for help & it's there. He just can't help with feedings

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Posted by lorimarie

I'll be honest - mine does NOTHING but he works 6 days a week and is gone for 12 hours a day.

It aggravates me but I'm not the one working outside in this heat so I've learned to have more patience.

If I ask him to help me he does.

When I see you Tuesday night I'll complain some more

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DH is involved...super involved. He used to pray she got up in the morning before he went to work so he could change her diaper and spend a few minutes before he left. He leaves a lot of the figuring stuff out to me (like her eating schedule, what she should eat, medicine distribution, etc) but he feeds her, changes her, bathes her, and spends time with her in equal to me. I drop her off at daycare, he picks her up...we both met there one day when I got off early and we raced each other to the room so she would see us first.

Sometimes it's too much though like he says I over-medicate her if I give her tylenol two nights in a row for her teething and he'll fight me over her room temperature and if she cries when we put her down at night--and LORD help me if I put her down without him RIGHT next to me so he can give her a kiss!

He also cooks dinner every night and he cleans (he cleaned everything this past Friday night because I was sick even though he had to work on Saturday at 7 am)

I pay all the bills and keep track of dr appts in addition to making sure Bella's clothes are put away and that she matches when we leave in the morning. I also make sure we have enough diapers, wipes, and formula or she's be naked and starving.

We have a 50-50 partnership in many ways. He does things I don't do, I do things he doesn't do and with Bella we truly do it together...He drives me crazy, but I love him like crazy...