Husbands

Just curious, because I look at some of my friends and can't believe how little their husbands do.

So, how much does your husband do?

I am very lucky, mine is an amazing Dad. He gets her ready every morning, drops her off at daycare- we take turns getting up with her if she gets up earlier then normal, which is often. He also gets up a lot with her at night.

We sometimes argue a little about getting up and stuff like that, usually our arguments are at 3 or 4 am and are forgotten by the next day.

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I'll be honest - mine does NOTHING but he works 6 days a week and is gone for 12 hours a day.

It aggravates me but I'm not the one working outside in this heat so I've learned to have more patience.

If I ask him to help me he does.

When I see you Tuesday night I'll complain some more

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Most of the tme my husband does a good bit. (Morning feedings, laundry, he'll cook, reads Patrick his bedtime stories) But then there are days where I feel like I'm raising them & he is playing w/ Patrick.

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Jt does EVERYTHING. He's so amazing. He only works two days in a row or three in a row, so the nights where he has no work the next day, I don't have to get up or lift a finger. Same for his days off. He does everything. He feeds her, changes her, bathes her, etc. But he also took care of two little boys when he wad in college. He was a "manny"

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My DH is the sole provider in the family yet he gets a B+ in the kid chore dept and an A++ in the overall dad dept.

He doesnt understand that I can't just go out and do stuff... he asks me why I dont have a hobby or do things for myself, well moron it's because I have 2 kids 24-7. He will however stay home when I ask him to (which isn't too often) so I can do things I need to do.

BUT when it comes to being daddy I couldn't have asked for more. Constantly talking on the phone to the kids although I know he is super busy. Coming home early to take them swimming. The first thing he does when he walks in is play with the kids until he goes to bed, or they do. He's a great daddy.

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I just had a ladies night out, encouraged by my DH last night, and it was great. He fed them, bathed them, put them to bed and the house was cleaned when I got home! It was a fantastic feeling! He does so much, and works 6 days a week too. there are some nights he's at work until 10 p.m. and I am cursing him out while doing a million things, but when it all comes down to it, he does more than his share and I am thankful for that. He's definitely a hands on dad.

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Ok, love my hubby to pieces but he does very little with the kids other than playing with them, he NEVER cooks them meals, has bathes them maybe 1-2 times (ad my oldest will be 7), he deosn't buy them their clothes or diapers, it is all me!!! The house, the kids, the bills, ALL ME!!!! And imagine that I would love to have another 2!! And so would he, but i guess I can understand why!!

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From 4pm on he's home from work and takes over with feedings and changing her. I have to say he's a good daddy. Although this weekend he is working overtime so I am a single mom He commutes(drives) to Manhattan everyday from out east. The drive alone would kill me yet he still helps out......

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DH is great, he helps out a lot with Alex. On weekends he does it all so I get a break which is nice. I give him an A+ in the daddy dept.

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I won't complain tooooooooo much b/c DH gets up at 5:30 and has been working LOTS of OT(soemtimes even overnight) out in this terrible heat and every sat so he only has 1 day off.

I have basically done everything for DS all along. If I ask DH to help with something he definately helps me out. He also helps me with the dishes (I do all the cooking except bbq), and helps with the laundry. I don't mind it this way.... If I were working FT it would definately be different.

He has been great with letting me do my own thing though. I did go to CA for 2 days and he stayed with DS and did EVERYTHING (and then appreciated the heck out of me when I got home ) and he is good when I need to get out........like having a girls night out tonight

Overall he is a great daddy and Logan loves him SOOOOOOOOOO much. I couldn't ask for anything more

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My husband is wonderful. I wonder how single moms do it, or moms who don't have as supportive husbands, because I know I couldn't do this without him. I would say that we are equal with taking care of the baby as well as cleaning up around the house. He constantly does dishes, vacuums and straightens up. I do the mopping, cooking and bathroom cleaning---but the everyday tidying is what he does.

He is also amazing with Emily and sometimes has a lot more patience with her then I do! He loves to play with her so much!

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I think the fact that you are awake and she is asleep says it all!

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GRRR this is a touchy subject for me. DD is 7 weeks old and is sleeping terribly at night - we have been arguing for 2 days now because he doesnt get up at all during the ungodly hours! I am going back to work in a couplw of weeks and I told him this better change!!!

he is great and even pretty helpful - when the baby is happy, when he is being fussy or not sleeping - thats another story.

Its only been a few weeks...Im hoping we get into more of a routine and find a good balance for both of us.

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We work opposite shifts so it's just him and her in the mornings. The only thing my DH doesn't do is bath her. He is afraid. Not sure why, but he is. Today I didn't sleep welll last night and he has been working a ton of OT so I got up with her at 7 so he could sleep a little. Well as soon as he got up I went right back to bed and he didn't care.

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I am going to wait for another day to answer this thread because it's a little after 9am here and I am up with DD for the SECOND time today while he is sleeping, first time was at 5am. Did I mention I didn't get to sleep until 2am

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He does what he can. Because of his work schedule, he's really only able to help out on his days off, which he does.

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My husband does NOTHING. He is a wonderful provider, wonderful husband-considerate, sweet, funny, etc..-but lazy as anything. Let's not confuse our relationships with how much housework they do...
I must say that he does play with Juliette and entertains her the whole time we are home, but he is still uncomfortable with me going out for long stretches of time. I think it's b/c she was nursed and cried the entire time I would leave up until she was three months old. He has been bbq'ing everynight so it has been easier on me. Half the problen is that he works alot of night hours, and it throws our routine out of whack for weeks at a time. But it is my fault, I have been doing everything since we first started dating...laundry, cooking, cleaning, bill paying... I let him be this way, so I can't expect him to have changed overnight!

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Hubby works 6 days a week - and i work 4 days a week for right now - he helps out in the morning - when its time to get the baby ready and get out the door. But - I pretty much cook, clean, do the laundry - etc... He takes care of the bills, mows the lawn, takes out the garbage etc.... He always gives her a bath, that's his favorite time to spend with her. He does play with Julia and entertains her all the time when he is at home - or even gives me a break and takes care of her if I need some "me" time or to run some errands.
I guess our chores are pretty much split - and i feel fortunate to have a loving husband and great dad to Julia.

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I am also very lucky. My DH does a lot. He does early morning feedings, plays with DH, changes him and helps me out a lot.