How do you react to this question?

Lately it seems like if I am not at a baby shower, childs birthday or holiday, I am at a pregnancy unveiling.

I always get the question "When are you going to start popping them out?"

Background: DH and I have been married almost 2.5 years and TTC for 5 months.

How do you respond to the question asking you when you are going to have children?

Do you tell then you are "working on it" or do you give them a snarky remark?

Im trying to find the best way to answer this without making anyone feel uncomfortable but keeping my personal business private.

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I strongly believe just because people ask you things, doesn't mean you owe them an answer. We have been going through a lot between infertility.. a loss.. and the questions have been flying left and right

Typically I say something to the effect of "When we are ready to share good news, you will be the first to know" .. though.. in my situation many people know we are trying ... they just ask details about it which is incredibly rude If I were you, I'd say something like "We'll see, I haven't given it much thought" .. and if they press you any further say something like......... "Gee you know, this is really personal, I'd prefer not to discuss it". Honestly, if they do press you further after the first comment, I wouldn't worry about making it rude or uncomfortable. Obviously they don't

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I usually just say "sooner than later". I don't want people to know we are trying. If they continues to ask I just say before 30 (gives me a 3 year range). It's annoying though when people say stuff like that. I never realized before we started TTC how annoying it can be, now I will never ever ask anyone that question.

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I just tell them we are working on it..and make a joke about it..such as...yes, we are working on it and having fun trying...by making a bit of joke out of it nobody gets uncomfortable, u do not divulge too much and u can change the topic quickly....

Good Luck

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I always just say hopefully soon. Luckily I haven't really gotten it too much.

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Posted by dreamingofalittleZ

I just tell them we are working on it..and make a joke about it..such as...yes, we are working on it and having fun trying...by making a bit of joke out of it nobody gets uncomfortable, u do not divulge too much and u can change the topic quickly....

Good Luck

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Lately we are asked all the time...just celebrated 2 yrs

I say we are goingto start trying very soon (we are next month).

As the months pass if we don't get preggo I will probably say "we're working on it".

I have only had friends and family ask and I a pretty open person so I will just tell them.

But who knows that might change if we have trouble kwim?

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I don't get this question a whole lot... mainly because most people know of the mc... so they purposely don't ask me anything related. Some do ask if we are trying again, to which I just say yes.

Honestly, I wouldn't ever ask these types of questions... but I have little problems telling people the truth about it when they do ask. I tell them, we had a mc in Jan and we have been trying again since. They usually get a tad horrified and then never ask again. It puts an end to that. I think it makes them realize that perhaps they shouldn't really be asking in the first place. And who knows.... maybe they also in turn stop asking other people they know the same types of questions.

What I have had on occasion is the conversation from people who know we are trying... they would say "just take it easy, don't think about it, relax and then it will happen".... I used to be like now that I got a bfp... I just chuckle. I've had at least 3 or 4 people give me this speech while I was pregnant. People are just dumb!!!

IDK why anyone would WANT to bring that up to you and say those things in the first place. If' I'm not talking about it, then neither should you so STFU!!!

Also, I did just get an email that had a chart of questions and answers... it gave nicer and snottier type answers! They were quite funny... I should search for them!!
I know that one q was "are you pregnant?" and the answer was "are you?"

I was asked this when I wasn't pregnant... and I wish I had that as an answer then!!!!

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i usually just say.. we r working on it

but i will say something i learned from ttc is that i will never ever ask someone this question cause i know how much i hated it when it was asked to me

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I get this allll the time!
I just say maybe next year... me and dh are enjoying each other right now so when we feel ready thats when. (Although its a complete lie because we are ready but don't want anyone to know we are trying... most people don't know how we lost our baby at 12 weeks).

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i tell ppl that we arent ready yet. that usually turns to my medical issues and then ppl shut up and realize they shouldnt have asked it in the first place.

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I get this all the time too and I just tell them "When God says so". It usually shuts them up. It's none of anyone's beeswax!

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My standby answer is someday. I don't want anyone to know we are trying but I'm a terrible liar. So far this has worked for me, I don't know what people suspect and I don't really care. But I totally agree that i never realized how annoying it could be to hear that question! Never again!

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I usually say "when Im ready " I find that a little personal , but it depends who it is coming from. I am pretty private so only DH and BF know

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i say "ah, i don't know, we'll see"

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Most people know not to ask me peronal questions like that, I can be a real biotch when I want to be. But when it does get asked I usually have a snarky remark. It's been too long of TTC to try and filter myself to spare others from feeling uncomfortable/awkward.

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I have only gotten this question a few times, mostly from people who I rarley see, so I do find it strange when they ask. I try to be as vague as possible. The last thing I want is to people knowing my business and asking me more questions.

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My favorite would always be "don't worry you'll be next!" To your question, I would just say "we're having fun practicing!" Good luck

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I have been married for almost 3 years and get the question a lot. It REALLY bothers me. We are not TTC (actually I am crashing the board at the moment). If I'm feeling particularly moody, I say "never." I don't feel bad being rude about it b/c I think it's a wildly inappropriate question.

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people dont ask us much after finding out we had a m.c but when other people ask (like from work, etc) I just say... we're enjoying our marriage and each other for now.. when we're ready it will happen.
It does start to get annoying.. but I only think that because I've been trying. If I didnt kow it could be difficult I'd probably still be asking other people the same question. They just don't know any better.

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at my cousin's christening for her DS my aunt touches my stomach and looks at me I told her NO I am not pregnant its the button on my pants and we are working on it. That shut her up and the looks on everyones' face at her table.

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my uncle asked me this yesterday... i kinda froze....

2 of my sisters and my SIL actually answered for me...

i was holding my nephew when he asked me and i pretended that i didnt hear him...