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1stimemom
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Great post!!!
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Lanabean
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
it doesn't sound that way at all; it's a really good perspective! 
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| Posted 6/23/10 4:10 PM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
I think the key is to let yourself indulge, but don't go CRAZY!!!
Try to eat healthy for the sake of the baby. But sneak in those bad meals every once in a while. Have ice cream, but not a pint at a time.
Everyone will be fine!
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| Posted 6/23/10 5:06 PM |
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DomesticDeeva
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
good points, but I also think its healthy for us to vent about it
Can I give another perspective?
I had hyperemsis when I was pregnant and only gained 3lbs and could not keep down food except certain things.
I would have LOVED to be able to enjoy myself and eat and gain weight.
So ENJOY it
ITA...I have the stupid gallstones, and have been on a low/no fat diet since I was 11 wks preggo. I would give my right arm for a slice of pizza, fries & ice cream!! I have not been able to enjoy the eating aspect of this pregnancy, and it sux! I am still at -4 for weight gain, and although they say it's ok, I still worry because I am not gaining, and I'm 28 wks.
I too was concerned with my first pregnancy, but ate like a pig while on bed rest lol, and gained only 15lbs. I was overweight to begin with, so I was worried.
Well, I lost 50lbs. Postpartum, from breastfeeding...and that's it. I did not diet, I did not watch what I ate...the pounds just came off. So I agree with Amy...I understand the concerns, but don't get too caught up in the numbers. And enjoy some cheeseburgers for me!
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| Posted 6/23/10 5:56 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Watch the "MAYO-NAZI" at Ranch-1 in Roosevelt Field. The illiterate clod will tell you exactly how to feed your kid - trust me .
We all want to do what's best for our babies, but we cannot drive ourselves nuts. With Abby, my weakness was bologna and soft cheeses. With this pregnancy, I indulged in a diet coke every once in a while.
All I can say is this, stay away from the alcohol, cigarettes and drugs. I can write tomes about how this will destroy your child. I teach those children. A child born addicted, stands little chance of a typical life. Done preaching now.
Message edited 6/23/2010 6:09:22 PM.
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| Posted 6/23/10 6:03 PM |
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Mere09
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Posted by Porrruss
It's just that there's a big "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality on LIF (just WAIT til you get to Parenting) and I know how upsetting it was to me when I was pregnant with my first when people complained about 5-10 pounds when I was up almost 30 in my second trimester. But I also realize that those 5-10 pounds were as upsetting to those girls as my 30 were to me.
Yet all (well, most of) the weight came off after I had the baby. Looking back I realized how much time I spent stressing over it and comparing myself to others. It's impossible NOT to when there are 5 posts sitting on page 1 talking about how much weight people have gained, being scared to gain weight, how to avoid gaining weight, etc.
The comparing weight gain threads do the most damage because I find that it's usually the people who haven't gained much that post on them. I know I avoided posting on them with my first and I don't even open them now.
I could have written this verbatim! I gained 70lbs with my first and I'm up 60lbs now with 4 days to go.
The only difference with me is, this time around (2nd pregnancy), I don't stress as much over what I'm gaining because I know that's just the way my body reacts to pregnancy and there is NOTHING more I can do about it. I always like to post in the weight gain threads now because I'm sure my weight gain makes everyone else feel better about what they've gained. 
But I did have a VERY hard time coming to grips with my weight gain in my first pregnancy, especially when people on the boards would be concerned that they gained 10lbs in total when I was gaining almost 10lbs a month... but after giving birth the weight literally FELL right off of me.
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| Posted 6/23/10 6:08 PM |
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neenie
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
ITA!
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| Posted 6/23/10 6:15 PM |
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TLC1018
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Great post!!! I have always been thin, but gained a good amount of weight while carrying my DD. I never bounced back to where I was, and now that I am pg now, I am definitely not concerned with how much weight I put on (still want to be healthy though!).
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| Posted 6/23/10 7:33 PM |
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BigSurprise
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
i gained 50lbs the first time eating whatever i wanted the first 3 weeks i lost 30lbs guessing the real baby weight the dr says u should again and after 4 months of hard work i lost the other 20lbs
so to allthe new mommies to be i promise no matter what you gain with hard work it will be gone. the scale will be lower again i promise.
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| Posted 6/23/10 10:36 PM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
While I am not happy with the numbers on the scale, I can honestly say that I enjoyed my pregnancy. I slept when I wanted to, ate what I wanted to and basically did whatever I knew would make me feel good at the time. I wish everyone could have the same experience! 
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| Posted 6/24/10 7:16 AM |
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SweetOctBaby
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Thank you for the reminder, very well said. I should print this post and use it as wall paper to remind myself every day. Thanks again
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| Posted 6/24/10 7:44 AM |
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2boys4me
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
I honestly thought that I was the only one on here who refused to look at the weight gain posts. It makes me cringe when I see them and don't click on them because I made the mistake of doing it once and saw a whole post of people complaining about ten pounds. I am up almost 40lbs and just broke down crying to DH saying that I was such a slob for being so fat and that I'm sorry I'm not pretty for him anymore, etc. He's a perfect DH though and tells me everyday how beautiful I am even though I feel like a beached whale.
I have spent my ENTIRE life dieting. I have hormonal issues and I put on weight so fast regardless of what I eat. I ended up getting to 112 two summers ago, looked like a bobble head, and I STILL found flaws with my body. I didn't eat a single carb and was at the gym two times a day. I was so unhappy yet I thought being thin would make me feel great.
I was still dieting for my wedding last summer and ended up getting pregnant three months after the wedding and I finally threw in the diet towel. I was done. It's hard to diet, I was sick to my stomach everyday, and sooooo tired, I slept 14 hours a day my first trimester. I decided then and there that I am going to eat what I want and not worry. So do I go to Taco Bell once a week... yes, do I eat ice cream for lunch every now and then... yes. But I eat what I crave, and avoid what makes me sick. I told the nurses at South Bay don't you dare tell me what the scale says, because I know if they tell me I'll freak because when you spend your entire life worrying about the numbers going up as much as you try to tell yourself it's for the baby, you are going to have a mini heart attack. Why put yourself through that.
I know it's going to be hard to get the weight off after our son is born but it's going to be worth all the hard work in the world
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Mere09
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Posted by 2boys4me
I know it's going to be hard to get the weight off after our son is born but it's going to be worth all the hard work in the world
You never know... it may be easier than you think. Like I said before, I gained 70lbs with my DD, and by 3 months PP I had already lost 50lbs... literally by doing or changing nothing. It just fell right off. The only reason it stopped there is because I got preggers again. So hopefully you'll have a similar experience to me.
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2boys4me
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Posted by Mere09
Posted by 2boys4me
I know it's going to be hard to get the weight off after our son is born but it's going to be worth all the hard work in the world
You never know... it may be easier than you think. Like I said before, I gained 70lbs with my DD, and by 3 months PP I had already lost 50lbs... literally by doing or changing nothing. It just fell right off. The only reason it stopped there is because I got preggers again. So hopefully you'll have a similar experience to me.
Thanks :) It's these kind of posts that keep me coming back to LIF. I LOVE this site because it's moms who live near you that went through this stuff and tell you like it is LOL instead of reading it in what to expect when you are expecting. I am SO grateful that you posted that you gained 70lbs, because everyone else said 10lbs and I wanted to hide in a closet, now I know I'm not a freak and fat whale, but that I'm normal and there is hope that it will come off....
thanks, you made my day :)
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| Posted 6/24/10 10:57 AM |
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jcslady
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Tricia
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Re: Guys- try to chill.....
Posted by Dee0522
I agree that we shouldn't obsess over every little pound we gain, but at the same time it's normal to worry about how our bodies will be affected (both short-term and long-term) especially for us first-time moms who have never been through this before. And it's hard not to dwell on it when all we see on TV and in magazines is how quickly people get back to their pre-pregnancy weight! Deep down, we all realize that this is not the "norm" but when you see it everywhere, it's hard not to worry about your own body and your own weight gain/loss. Unfortunately, being women, obsessing over our weight and body image comes with the territory!!
I agree with you!! thanks for saying this
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