For those that plan on/have separating DC 3 or more years apart

Do you feel like the odd one out? I feel like everyone around me has children that are less than 3 yrs apart. In the mommy & me classes I go to everyone that has a child DD's age is either pg or has an infant or has children just a couple of yrs older. Please tell me I'm not the last one on earth that is not jumping on the 2 under 2 bandwagon!

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You're not the only one. I wanted my kinds to be 2.5 to three years apart. We got married when DD was 2 so the smallest age gap would've been 3 years. We're TTC now, but we'll have an age gap somewhere around 3.5 years at this point.

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I am waiting. I know personally I can't handle 2 under 2.

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Nope, you're not alone. Our plan was to have our DC just about 2 years apart (not necessarily stuck on the 2 under 2 thing), but you know what God does when you make a plan...

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Everyone is different. My mother was almost a member of the 2 under 1 club (my brother and I are a year and two weeks apart-he was a surprise though), but then didn't have my other brother for another 6 years, so there's a huge age gap. DH's sisters are 4,7 and 10 years younger than him. Do what works best for you!

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Andrew and his future sibling will be 3 yrs apart. I am a little upset about the age difference but it just hasn't been the right time for another yet.

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Well, we are one and done and most people make us feel weird about it

Or don't believe us

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Kerri and will be at least 3 years apart.....I didn't want another any sooner than that

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You're definitely not the only one. We're planning on 3 yrs apart and I too often feel like the only one. so many people are having them close together but I just didn't feel like I wanted to start over again that soon.

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Are you one of the younger moms in your class? I think some of it may have to do with the fact that a lot of folks are starting their family's later in life and don't have the time to have two or three kids each 3 or 4 years apart. I was 34 when I had DD and would like to be a member of the 2 under 2 club-we'll start TTC late summer. If I was younger, I might wait a little longer.

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I was planning on having mine three years apart (for me that is PERFECT!) but since I had a miscarriage it seems they are going to be closer to 3.5 years apart (at least I hope!) and I think that is still ok. its going to be harder to go back to the baby stage, but I think as they get older financially it will be a little easier.

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we are shooting to get pregnant with #2, when DS is around 2, so they would be 2-3 years apart

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If we have another, the age gap would be 3-5 years apart.

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Mine will be exactly 2 yrs & 7 months apart. I wanted them close to 3 years apart. My brother and I were 3 years apart and I always loved that time span

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I wanted my children close together, but because of infertility issues ended up with children 3.5 yrs apart. I love it. My 4 yr old is so independent and he loves his bay sister. The only thing is he does not have a built in playmate.....but that is what the neighbors kids are for

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I definitely want 3 yrs apart. I couldnt have handled carrying dd and carrying an infant.

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my kids are all almost 4 years apart and I wouldn't want it any other way.. i love it.. and they all love each other.. and no competition which i love!

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DD#1 and DD#2(coming 4/18) will be 7 years apart, we planned on 2 1/2 maybe 3 years apart, but it just did not work out that way due to infertility issues(4 m/c's) I just think whatever happens you are just lucky to have another child.

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Well my kids are all spaced out...

My eldest is 14..then the twins are 9 and Caden is 7 months...

I never felt weird about it at all..

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We are hoping for a little over 3 years apart. Mostly because of personal reasons and partly because of space. We have no room for a 2nd child right now.

I have noticed most of my friends and family members have kids closer in age but it doesn't bother me that ours won't be. A lot of mommies in DD's room at daycare are pregnant and I don't envy them at all. I'm not there yet.

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My sons are a little bit over 3 yrs apart and I think it's the perfect age difference. I really don't think I would be able to handle two kids that were closer in age. If we go for a 3rd, I definitely want to wait 3-4 yrs. Seeing other moms in my son's class and activities, it seems like the average age difference between each kid is 3 yrs.

A good friend of my DH's has 4 kids and they are all 1 yr apart!! Give or take a couple of months. I don't know how they do it, especially since the dad is going for his MBA after work right now.

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I am hoping to space them out about 3 years because daycare is just so expensive!!!!

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Nope...Its what I choose to do. I need it that way...for me, our financial situation and Im ok with starting over at that point.

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I don't think I could have handled them being so close in age. I really wasn't ready. My kids will be 3 years apart...just the way I planned it.

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You are not the only one AT ALL!!

Looks like we will be having our second children around the same time as our first! How terrific!!

Even though I am having major baby fever now (I posted yesterday about it) I know that I will not have one sooner than 3 years between them. Its what I have always wanted and hopefully, thats the way it will work out!