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mia818
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Re: confession time
Posted by mommy-of-2-angels
Posted by At12weeks
Posted by mommy-of-2-angels
I am going to be perfectly honest here
I do everything I am told because I have already lost so much...
I am with you on that. Nothing, not even my favorite food or drink that's a no no is worth even touching my lips to me. 
I prefer not to have one ounce of guilt in my head should something go wrong. So I do understand.
thanks i think I sometimes blame myself for the lost of my daughter I know that the first was not of my control but I could have been better
oh please don't think that
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: confession time
I miss my vitamins on occasion.
I have an 8oz cup of coffee every morning.
I had a glass of champagne to toast at my SIL's wedding this past Saturday.
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twinkletoes807
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Re: confession time
Posted by babymaybe
to headoverheals.....Why would you do the things above?? It doesn't make sense to me 
I mean...like drink beer, wine, eat tuna....aren't they all big no no's??
Oduls still contains Alcohol... Contains Less Than 0.5% Alcohol by Volume,
Maybe it'll make sense to you when you're pregnant!  Who are you to judge? 
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twinkletoes807
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Re: confession time
My confessions:
1. I do not drink enough water. 
2. I do not exercise at all! And I need it! 
3. I sometimes have a Friendly's Reese Pieces Sundae for dinner! 
4. I have had a glass of wine and a glass of sangria in my 1st trimester! 
5. I live on carbs and sugar! 
6. I was eating hot dogs like they're going out of style but am not really craving them now. 
7. Sometimes I don't eat lunch.
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Lanabean
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Re: confession time
I don't think you have to be pregnant to comment on this. No flames, but as someone whose sister is disabled...and whose mother did everything right and by the book--it still happened. When I see people engaging in risky behavior--even slightly--and the babies are born just fine when my sister struggles daily--you know what? It sucks. If that person is fine with sipping wine and stuff, more power to her. For ME...I could never. I'm not pregnant, but my life experience tells me 100 percent I will never. And yeah...my mother has seen lots of pregnant women do things wrong, and it breaks her heart that she took no chances and still, that 1 in 100,000 happened to us.
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twinkletoes807
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Re: confession time
Posted by Lanabean
I don't think you have to be pregnant to comment on this. No flames, but as someone whose sister is disabled...and whose mother did everything right and by the book--it still happened. When I see people engaging in risky behavior--even slightly--and the babies are born just fine when my sister struggles daily--you know what? It sucks. If that person is fine with sipping wine and stuff, more power to her. For ME...I could never. I'm not pregnant, but my life experience tells me 100 percent I will never. And yeah...my mother has seen lots of pregnant women do things wrong, and it breaks her heart that she took no chances and still, that 1 in 100,000 happened to us.
I totally agree with you... you don't need to be PG to comment on this. But I think it is pretty ballsy for someone to comment on a topic called "Confessions" about the OP's actual confessions! This is a public board, but if the comment was that necessary to make, it could have been done via FM, being that Headoverheels posted a thread so that we could Confess...not be judged by other women! No matter how long it takes someone to get pregnant, whether it be one month or 5 years, once a person is pregnant, their ideas of what is 'right' or what they would do, may change from how they thought when they were not pregnant.
Regarding your thoughts: I can totally appreciate your feelings of how it succks seeing other women doing things you wouldn't do if/when you are pregnant, having the experience of having a disabled sister. But just as you said... your Mom did everything right. It is basically up to the God(s) on how any of us land here on Earth. Do I think it's cool that my Mom was a chain smoker and an alcoholic when she carried me and my brother? No. Am I going to follow in her footsteps? No.
The fact is, we don't need someone telling us what they think is right or wrong unless it was solicited.
Edit for grammar
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bicosi
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Re: confession time
Posted by twinkletoes807
Posted by Lanabean
I don't think you have to be pregnant to comment on this. No flames, but as someone whose sister is disabled...and whose mother did everything right and by the book--it still happened. When I see people engaging in risky behavior--even slightly--and the babies are born just fine when my sister struggles daily--you know what? It sucks. If that person is fine with sipping wine and stuff, more power to her. For ME...I could never. I'm not pregnant, but my life experience tells me 100 percent I will never. And yeah...my mother has seen lots of pregnant women do things wrong, and it breaks her heart that she took no chances and still, that 1 in 100,000 happened to us.
I totally agree with you... you don't need to be PG to comment on this. But I think it is pretty ballsy for someone to comment on a topic called "Confessions" about the OP's actual confessions! This is a public board, but if the comment was that necessary to make, it could have been done via FM, being that Headoverheels posted a thread so that we could Confess...not be judged by other women! No matter how long it takes someone to get pregnant, whether it be one month or 5 years, once a person is pregnant, their ideas of what is 'right' or what they would do, may change from how they thought when they were not pregnant.
Regarding your thoughts: I can totally appreciate your feelings of how it succks seeing other women doing things you wouldn't do if/when you are pregnant, having the experience of having a disabled sister. But just as you said... your Mom did everything right. It is basically up to the God(s) on how any of us land here on Earth. Do I think it's cool that my Mom was a chain smoker and an alcoholic when she carried me and my brother? No. Am I going to follow in her footsteps? No.
The fact is, we don't need someone telling us what they think is right or wrong unless it was solicited.
Edit for grammar
I agree and to add to what twinkle wrote, it's not as though we're doing/did something that we were SPECIFICALLY told NOT to do. I know that for me, my doctor has told me that it was okay for me to have an occasional beer, glass of wine, eat certain foods in moderation but that overall everything in moderation was key to having a healthy pregnancy. I don't think that ANY of us would willfully put our unborn babies into harms way.
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Goldi0218
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Re: confession time
As someone who has been in the field of working with children with disabilities for many years, I am privy to a lot of information about the pregnancies of the mothers of the clients we serve in our facility. Guess what. Most of the mothers report (and I ill assume that all are honest) that their pregnancies were in fact normal with no major issues. Every once in a while, you may come across a child that was born premature but not any more so than the population at large.
Not each and every case has a clear cut reason as to why disabilities MAY have occurred. Some problems occur at conception. Some problems occur in utero. Some occur due to substance abuse. Some happen at the time of delivery. And yes some problems are NOT detected because some mothers prefer NOT to have certain testing and screenings done. It is what it is.
If we can prevent, we do our best to. But not one of us is infallible. If we were, we would all be living where the air is clear, where there is no crime and where there is sunshine and lollipops all day long. I prefer NOT to live in a bubble and eat my bologna sandwich once a month rather than live in fear for nine months.
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msbree825
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Re: confession time
ok here goes!
i find myself forgetting way too often to take my prenatals
i still have drinks w/caffeine like coke, or occasionally coffee or tea almost daily. i even will admit to having about 2-3 red bull energy drinks during this pregnancy when i was completely exhausted and couldnt get thru the day
i stayed away from cold cuts the entire 1st trimester, but in the 2nd i started eating them again several times a month
i havent been good about eating veggies lately, but i do try to eat fruit each day
i never can seem to drink enough water
i've eaten way too much junk food like mc'donalds fries and burgers than i can to say at least 1-2 x a week during most of the pregnancy.
i havent gotten back into exercising since last month when i was sick with bronchitis, and having a really hard time trying to get started with it again, grrr.
i think that's it for now...
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saraH
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Re: confession time
I have to say that I engaged in some of these behaviours while I was pregnant. And while I had a perfectly healty baby, she was born 7 weeks prematurly. Could I have caused it by eating boars head turkey and coloring my hair? Most likely no, but the next time around I will avoid most of these things and see if the outcome is different.
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mommy-of-2-angels
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Re: confession time
Posted by Lanabean
I don't think you have to be pregnant to comment on this. No flames, but as someone whose sister is disabled...and whose mother did everything right and by the book--it still happened. When I see people engaging in risky behavior--even slightly--and the babies are born just fine when my sister struggles daily--you know what? It sucks. If that person is fine with sipping wine and stuff, more power to her. For ME...I could never. I'm not pregnant, but my life experience tells me 100 percent I will never. And yeah...my mother has seen lots of pregnant women do things wrong, and it breaks her heart that she took no chances and still, that 1 in 100,000 happened to us.
Right on...I am not here to judge do what you want but think of the woman who have had problems getting pregnant I did 7 rounds of IVF finally got pg on #5 with twins lost one in week 8 and then 9 weeks later I delivered the second at 17 weeks then I did another IVF and failed and then another and now I am 9 weeks and 5 days there is no way in Hell I am doing anything to jepordize this one this my last chance there is no more savings and our INS money has run out...I do have 2 embryos left over and maybe we might be able to scrape up enough money to do another frozen transfer but that is only a possibility
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neener1211
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Re: confession time
So that this doesn't get out of hand, there are always going to be mommies that do something questionable (in other people's eyes) and there will be mommies that do everything by the book. In all fairness, none of us really have control. We can be preventative, but it is everyone's CHOICE on how far they take it.
You can't live your life in a bubble, because in reality, you don't know what will happen. I am a mommy that tried to do everything possible to make sure I cannot blame myself if something goes wrong with my child. You know what, I have had no control over anything bad that has happened. It is life, it obviously happened to make me a better person-although right now I can't understand it, I hope one day I can see how this all helped me grow.
Every doctor is different, every woman is different, with different beliefs and values. This is a confession thread-no need to judge what we may or may not have done wrong. There is also no need to judge those who question what we have done 'bad'. It is ok if they think we are doing something wrong, there will always be people thinking something you do is wrong. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs.
Now be nice!
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headoverheels
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Re: confession time
Posted by bicosi
Posted by twinkletoes807
Posted by Lanabean
I don't think you have to be pregnant to comment on this. No flames, but as someone whose sister is disabled...and whose mother did everything right and by the book--it still happened. When I see people engaging in risky behavior--even slightly--and the babies are born just fine when my sister struggles daily--you know what? It sucks. If that person is fine with sipping wine and stuff, more power to her. For ME...I could never. I'm not pregnant, but my life experience tells me 100 percent I will never. And yeah...my mother has seen lots of pregnant women do things wrong, and it breaks her heart that she took no chances and still, that 1 in 100,000 happened to us.
I totally agree with you... you don't need to be PG to comment on this. But I think it is pretty ballsy for someone to comment on a topic called "Confessions" about the OP's actual confessions! This is a public board, but if the comment was that necessary to make, it could have been done via FM, being that Headoverheels posted a thread so that we could Confess...not be judged by other women! No matter how long it takes someone to get pregnant, whether it be one month or 5 years, once a person is pregnant, their ideas of what is 'right' or what they would do, may change from how they thought when they were not pregnant.
Regarding your thoughts: I can totally appreciate your feelings of how it succks seeing other women doing things you wouldn't do if/when you are pregnant, having the experience of having a disabled sister. But just as you said... your Mom did everything right. It is basically up to the God(s) on how any of us land here on Earth. Do I think it's cool that my Mom was a chain smoker and an alcoholic when she carried me and my brother? No. Am I going to follow in her footsteps? No.
The fact is, we don't need someone telling us what they think is right or wrong unless it was solicited.
Edit for grammar
I agree and to add to what twinkle wrote, it's not as though we're doing/did something that we were SPECIFICALLY told NOT to do. I know that for me, my doctor has told me that it was okay for me to have an occasional beer, glass of wine, eat certain foods in moderation but that overall everything in moderation was key to having a healthy pregnancy. I don't think that ANY of us would willfully put our unborn babies into harms way.
i could not have said it better myself - this thread was not created so we could judge one another. we all know the potential risks of what we choose to do or not to do.
and i have NEVER gone against my own dr's advice.
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1stimemom
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Re: confession time
Posted by neener1211
So that this doesn't get out of hand, there are always going to be mommies that do something questionable (in other people's eyes) and there will be mommies that do everything by the book. In all fairness, none of us really have control. We can be preventative, but it is everyone's CHOICE on how far they take it.
You can't live your life in a bubble, because in reality, you don't know what will happen. I am a mommy that tried to do everything possible to make sure I cannot blame myself if something goes wrong with my child. You know what, I have had no control over anything bad that has happened. It is life, it obviously happened to make me a better person-although right now I can't understand it, I hope one day I can see how this all helped me grow.
Every doctor is different, every woman is different, with different beliefs and values. This is a confession thread-no need to judge what we may or may not have done wrong. There is also no need to judge those who question what we have done 'bad'. It is ok if they think we are doing something wrong, there will always be people thinking something you do is wrong. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs.
Now be nice!
Perfectly put!
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MetsGirl07
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Re: confession time
Posted by 1stimemom
Posted by neener1211
So that this doesn't get out of hand, there are always going to be mommies that do something questionable (in other people's eyes) and there will be mommies that do everything by the book. In all fairness, none of us really have control. We can be preventative, but it is everyone's CHOICE on how far they take it.
You can't live your life in a bubble, because in reality, you don't know what will happen. I am a mommy that tried to do everything possible to make sure I cannot blame myself if something goes wrong with my child. You know what, I have had no control over anything bad that has happened. It is life, it obviously happened to make me a better person-although right now I can't understand it, I hope one day I can see how this all helped me grow.
Every doctor is different, every woman is different, with different beliefs and values. This is a confession thread-no need to judge what we may or may not have done wrong. There is also no need to judge those who question what we have done 'bad'. It is ok if they think we are doing something wrong, there will always be people thinking something you do is wrong. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs.
Now be nice!
Perfectly put!
ITA!! very well said!!
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Happy1
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Re: confession time
1. I don't drink as much water as I should.
2. I don't watch my sugar & salt intake.
3. I live on carbs 
4. I don't excersise and am super lazy.
5. I ate feta cheese once throughout this whole pregnancy but it was just a tiny bit because I was craving it BIG time!
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| Posted 4/30/08 11:18 AM |
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Lanabean
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Re: confession time
Well I am sorry if it sounded like I was judging. Some things are just hard to read. I really didn't meant for it to sound that way....sure, anything can happen and I do believe it's in God's hands. We try and say in my family that things happen for reasons and perhaps if she weren't born like this, maybe something ELSE bad would have happened. Who knows. It was really just my 2 cents and I wish the best for everyone. For me, though....i don't see the wine sipping happening. Sniffing it? Sure. Sipping...no.
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headoverheels
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Re: confession time
Posted by Lanabean
Well I am sorry if it sounded like I was judging. Some things are just hard to read. I really didn't meant for it to sound that way....sure, anything can happen and I do believe it's in God's hands. We try and say in my family that things happen for reasons and perhaps if she weren't born like this, maybe something ELSE bad would have happened. Who knows. It was really just my 2 cents and I wish the best for everyone. For me, though....i don't see the wine sipping happening. Sniffing it? Sure. Sipping...no.
no hard feelings at all - i don't have the experiences you did, and i can totally understand why you would feel the way you do.
looking forward to seeing you on this board when you are ready!
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neener1211
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Re: confession time
Posted by Lanabean
Well I am sorry if it sounded like I was judging. Some things are just hard to read. I really didn't meant for it to sound that way....sure, anything can happen and I do believe it's in God's hands. We try and say in my family that things happen for reasons and perhaps if she weren't born like this, maybe something ELSE bad would have happened. Who knows. It was really just my 2 cents and I wish the best for everyone. For me, though....i don't see the wine sipping happening. Sniffing it? Sure. Sipping...no.
Personally, I was not writing towards you-just writing in general. I happen to agree with what you wrote, I too, would never sip alcohol, but that is my own preference. I too feel like your mom, I did everything right, and other people can have babies while doing all sorts of things. I guess in either instance, drinking or not drinking, you can't wonder 'what if' you'll drive yourself nuts.
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Lanabean
Yoginis
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Re: confession time
Posted by neener1211
Posted by Lanabean
Well I am sorry if it sounded like I was judging. Some things are just hard to read. I really didn't meant for it to sound that way....sure, anything can happen and I do believe it's in God's hands. We try and say in my family that things happen for reasons and perhaps if she weren't born like this, maybe something ELSE bad would have happened. Who knows. It was really just my 2 cents and I wish the best for everyone. For me, though....i don't see the wine sipping happening. Sniffing it? Sure. Sipping...no.
Personally, I was not writing towards you-just writing in general. I happen to agree with what you wrote, I too, would never sip alcohol, but that is my own preference. I too feel like your mom, I did everything right, and other people can have babies while doing all sorts of things. I guess in either instance, drinking or not drinking, you can't wonder 'what if' you'll drive yourself nuts.
oh i know; i just meant in general...to anyone i may have upset. i wish you all the best, by the way!
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neener1211
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Re: confession time
Posted by Lanabean
Posted by neener1211
oh i know; i just meant in general...to anyone i may have upset. i wish you all the best, by the way!
I wish you all the best as well!!! 
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wannabemom
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Re: confession time
Posted by Happy1
1. I don't drink as much water as I should.
2. I don't watch my sugar & salt intake.
3. I live on carbs
4. I don't excersise and am super lazy.
5. I ate feta cheese once throughout this whole pregnancy but it was just a tiny bit because I was craving it BIG time!
shoot, I forgot to mention that...
I totally don't exercise..... I also shamelessly consume chocolate milk and ice cream as if it's going out of style....
But dairy DOES help Crouton's bones ossify
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Happy1
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Re: confession time
Posted by Lanabean
I don't think you have to be pregnant to comment on this. No flames, but as someone whose sister is disabled...and whose mother did everything right and by the book--it still happened. When I see people engaging in risky behavior--even slightly--and the babies are born just fine when my sister struggles daily--you know what? It sucks. If that person is fine with sipping wine and stuff, more power to her. For ME...I could never. I'm not pregnant, but my life experience tells me 100 percent I will never. And yeah...my mother has seen lots of pregnant women do things wrong, and it breaks her heart that she took no chances and still, that 1 in 100,000 happened to us.
Well said, just wanted to comment...
No offense taken here whatsoever as I too have a disabled relative and when it came to my aunt's pregnancy she was to the book and look what happened in her situation. Your right, it does s--k, I totally see your point
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futuremommy
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Re: confession time
Posted by At12weeks
I am with you on that. Nothing, not even my favorite food or drink that's a no no is worth even touching my lips to me.
I prefer not to have one ounce of guilt in my head should something go wrong. So I do understand.
Sorry just had to pipe in here - but as someone who it did go wrong for I can tell you I categorically DO NOT feel guilty about the wine I had or the tuna I ate throughout my 11 week pregnancy. I know that's not what caused my miscarriage. These are not sins to be confessed - no one looks down on anyone who doesn't manage to drink enough water or exercise or eat enough veggies, so why is it so bad to have a doctor-sanctioned glass of wine every now and again?
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Dulcinea
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Re: confession time
I used to live in Europe for 2 years and found pregnant women drinking and smoking as if they don't have a care in the world.
Not that they are bad mothers or anything, but they seem more casual about these types of things.
Our grandmothers and mothers weren't privy to such pregnancy precautions and we came out fine, didn't we? :)
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