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rojerono
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Cheating
Would you date or marry someone that was known as a habitual cheater?
My girlfriend announced her engagement yesterday to a guy that has been engaged twice and married once. All of those relationships ended becuase he cheated multiple times. In fact - he was married with 2 small kids when he met my friend.
She feels like she changed him because she refused to date him while he was still married to his wife and made him take a 4 month cooling off period after his official seperation. But he had already cheated on his wife before he met her and he had a girlfriend between his seperation and hooking up with her.
I worry for her, but I won't say anything to her - she's a big girl - but all I could think is that I don't think I could ever marry someone with that kind of track record.
I should add that I probably wouldn't be so concerned if he had slipped up once.. but this guy seems to be a serial cheater.
Would you marry someone like that?
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Posted 11/1/07 7:12 AM  |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Cheating
i would not.
i would never feel at ease in the relationship. i couldn't live like that.
but i do know women who have. nothing but headaches and heartaches.
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:23 AM |
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Diane
Hope is Contagious....catch it
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Re: Cheating
no way
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:29 AM |
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mikeswife06
Drama Momma
Member since 9/06 9947 total posts
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Anne
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Re: Cheating
Heck no
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:31 AM |
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GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
Member since 11/06 26792 total posts
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Shawn
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Re: Cheating
If he was cheating with his wife when he met her, why does she think it will be any different now? Women can't "change" men. The man *may* be able to change, but only if HE wants to. From his track record, it sounds like he'll stay with her until someone "better" comes around.... 
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:33 AM |
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
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Baby Momma
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Re: Cheating
You know what they say about leopards...
I would not
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:41 AM |
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Lanabean
Yoginis
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Re: Cheating
First of all...she may think she has...but you can't "change" anyone. I would worry for her, too!
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:43 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: Cheating
NO, Once a cheat, always a cheat.
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:49 AM |
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Alli06
Baby #3 coming this June
Member since 8/05 6721 total posts
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A
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Re: Cheating
You can't change someone like that. He most likely will cheat again. I would never ever ever marry someone like that!!
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:52 AM |
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greenfreak
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greenfreak
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Re: Cheating
Posted by JennZ
NO, Once a cheat, always a cheat.
That's the way I always thought.
Through conversations here and with some friends, my outlook on this has changed slightly.
In your friend's situation, I say she has a lot to worry about and I would never enter into a relationship as an adult with someone with that kind of track record. The fact that she knows this in the first place is funny to me. The low life cheaters I knew would try to keep that information to themselves.
But in situations where you're still young and you cheat on your gf or bf once, it's 10 years later and you realize that it was a stupid mistake... Well that may be 'forgiveable' for some people. And I can't fault them too much for that.
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| Posted 11/1/07 7:59 AM |
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sunflowerjesss
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Jesss, duh.
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Re: Cheating
Posted by GoldenRod
If he was cheating with his wife when he met her, why does she think it will be any different now? Women can't "change" men. The man *may* be able to change, but only if HE wants to. From his track record, it sounds like he'll stay with her until someone "better" comes around....
ITA! I have seen it happen first hand.
Fact of the matter is, it's not like he cheated on his girlfriend 15 years ago. This man has a very consistent track record and for your friend to think "it won't happen to her" is very naive.
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| Posted 11/1/07 8:04 AM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: Cheating
a habitual cheater..no way
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| Posted 11/1/07 8:04 AM |
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neenie
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Re: Cheating
nope.
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| Posted 11/1/07 11:49 AM |
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XcalystaX
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Re: Cheating
No way!
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| Posted 11/1/07 11:50 AM |
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baghag
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Re: Cheating
Nope.
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| Posted 11/1/07 11:51 AM |
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smdl
I love Gary too..on a plate!
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Re: Cheating
Posted by JennZ
NO, Once a cheat, always a cheat.
I don't think it's always true. People make mistake.
In this particular case, I think, yes, the guy is a repeater offender and will keep doing it.
I don't know why women set themselves for failure with losers. Like they have some kind of social mission to accomplish to "rescue" the guy.
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| Posted 11/1/07 11:55 AM |
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NinaLemon
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Jeannine
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Re: Cheating
Posted by libby2595
i would not.
i would never feel at ease in the relationship. i couldn't live like that.
but i do know women who have. nothing but headaches and heartaches.
ITA! I would never be able to trust him, knowing he had cheated so much in his past.
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| Posted 11/1/07 11:59 AM |
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Preguntas
it's pretty precious
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Re: Cheating
I would never even get involved with someone who is a known cheater.
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| Posted 11/1/07 11:59 AM |
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Akajt98
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Jill
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Re: Cheating
Habitual cheater.....no way!
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| Posted 11/1/07 12:00 PM |
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lucyloo
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Re: Cheating
hell no
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| Posted 11/1/07 12:01 PM |
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Brittny817
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Re: Cheating
Habitual cheater??? Unless the cheating was a pattern in their teen years I say absolutley NOT!
ETA: I think a lot of women are attracted to men with issues like that. A lot of women believe they have the ability to change a man.
Message edited 11/1/2007 12:06:23 PM.
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| Posted 11/1/07 12:04 PM |
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Ginger123
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Member since 8/07 1235 total posts
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dana
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Re: Cheating
I used to cheat on my exes , I was immature selfish and did not know what I wanted. i am in a mature relationship now and have matured... shame on everyone for having no faith !
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| Posted 11/1/07 12:05 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Cheating
Not a chance. He does it for the thrill of the chase. I don't consider marriage a sport.
Message edited 11/1/2007 12:05:25 PM.
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| Posted 11/1/07 12:05 PM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Sonia
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Re: Cheating
Habitual cheater no. I think there is a difference between a person that makes a mistake and cheats and someone who does it over & over.
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| Posted 11/1/07 12:08 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Cheating
not in this lifetime! I would never be able to trust someone like that. and without trust, there is no relationship.
I heard someone say this once and I think it's so true... "if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you!"
I’m not saying people can’t change, but again, it’s all about the trust factor, IMO.
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