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Goobster
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by Lisa
Hmmm...thats a hard one
I would have to say no unless you are the sister of the bride or groom.
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rojerono
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
When I was a bride I encouraged children at my wedding and at every event before.
Of course.. I was already a mom.
As a guest, I have always avoided bringing my babies anywhere unless they were specifically invited. This actually meant that I have turned down more than a few invitations over the course of the last 6 years or so..
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| Posted 2/7/08 6:15 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....I don't have to bring her. My mom or DH can watch her, I just wanted to see what the consensus was on this.
Honestly, my friend did this at my shower and it annoyed me very much. I never made a big deal about it, but there were about 4 other new moms there and they (my cousins for that matter, in my bridal party!) didn't even bring their new babies. My shower became all about passing this child around, it did bug me TBO. Not meaning to be harsh, being honest but it is the bride's day, not your day as a new mom.
Babies do cry, babies do draw attention, they do need to be fed and changed. Don't do that to the bride, esp if you are not a sibling of the bride. Let the day only be about her.
Message edited 2/7/2008 6:20:50 PM.
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| Posted 2/7/08 6:16 PM |
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LisaI
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I personally feel Bridal showers and even baby showers (events for adults) should be no children. jmpo.
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| Posted 2/7/08 6:19 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I wouldn't bring a baby to a bridal shower, JMHO
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| Posted 2/7/08 6:22 PM |
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PreshusSmurf
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
IMO, this is the biggest reason NOT to bring the baby ... it will turn into show & tell, and pass-the-baby ... and take the focus off the Bride, for whom the day is supposed to be about. And especially if the invitation did not include the baby on it ... that is the biggest clue that you should not bring your DD.
I was a Bride in this situation, and I can tell you that I was  about it.
The baby wasn't even there for that long ... but it happed to be during gift opening time, and some people very important to me were out in the hall with the baby because he was getting fussy. So they missed me opening *their* gifts.
And I was a guest at a different shower, a Baby Shower, and a friend of the Mom-to-Be had brought her daughter. The baby was very cranky and fussy, and I don't think anyone at the table really got to enjoy themselves. It was all about who was going to hold the baby next so that the person currently holding her could eat a few bites of food. The mom of the baby didn't get to eat anything. Honestly, it was a pretty miserable situation for everyone at the table.
Especially since you have 2 very good options of someone to stay with her while you attend, there is NO reason to bring her to the shower at all.
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| Posted 2/7/08 7:38 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by LisaI
I personally feel Bridal showers and even baby showers (events for adults) should be no children. jmpo.
I agree.
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| Posted 2/7/08 8:10 PM |
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Reese32
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I wouldn't. If someone is available to watch the baby, I'd go alone.
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| Posted 2/7/08 8:30 PM |
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lullabella
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I wouldn't care if someone brought there baby to my shower. I probably wouldn't bring my babies unless I had too, it is nice to get out without the kids!
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| Posted 2/7/08 8:35 PM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by bicosi
I wouldn't bring my child to a shower unless the host/bride invited him/her to come. 
ETA that even when friends/family do invite my kids to these types of things, I treat these things as ME time, so I thank them nicely and just leave them at home.
ITA!!
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| Posted 2/7/08 8:42 PM |
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KPsquared
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
As long as the host knows the baby is coming I think it is fine. A baby always puts a smile on everyones face. 
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| Posted 2/7/08 8:49 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Unless your child was invited then no. Personally I prefer no children at showers
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| Posted 2/7/08 8:51 PM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by KimPetro
As long as the host knows the baby is coming I think it is fine. A baby always puts a smile on everyones face.
hmmmm yes i agree with this! at least in my family this is true! we always have babies at every function. i say why not? it's a baby not a pestering dog. how much complete attention does someone need? it's not like the baby will consume everyone's attention at every moment. i just love babies so maybe thats why it is easy for me to say that. i had babies at all my showers and could have cared less about how much attention it took from me
but that is just me.
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| Posted 2/7/08 8:54 PM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
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This is her shower...not a time to show everybody the baby. I know that's not how you ment it, but I don't think you should. I would go stay an hour or 2 and leave.......look at it this way if the situation was reversed how would you feel? Try to remember what it was like when you were a bride. This is JMHO and in no way do I think you're trying to be spiteful. Oh your baby is 
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| Posted 2/7/08 9:00 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by saraH
Then it looks like she'll stay home with daddy.
maybe you can invite her over later on after the shower? or DH can come by when the shower is over with the baby and help load up gifts for the bride and she can see the baby?
I agree, the baby would be stealing the thunder of the bride to be.
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| Posted 2/7/08 9:23 PM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by LisaI
I personally feel Bridal showers and even baby showers (events for adults) should be no children. jmpo.
i agree...
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| Posted 2/7/08 9:25 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
wow, hot topic.
For the record, when I got the invite, I think I asked my mom that week if she could watch the baby. I never intented to bring her with me.
About a week ago, my MIL asked me and I told her no. Mainly because it's in a restaurant and I really don't want DD around all those people.
It's a situation where if I were to bring her, I would never hear the end of it from DH's side of the family. They are like that about things like this. For example, at the same bride to be's engagement party, only the immediate siblings, sisters of groom could bring their kids. Dh's other cousins were all like  because it was at a KofC type of hall and the kids would have been next to nothing.
And I also told her, it's the brieds day, not mine. And while I'd want people to see the baby, I know it can wait.
Thank you all for your responses.
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| Posted 2/7/08 9:31 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by Lisa
Hmmm...thats a hard one
I would have to say no unless you are the sister of the bride or groom.
I agree
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| Posted 2/8/08 9:15 AM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I would generally say no. Attention should be on the bride or mother-to-be at a shower, but there are always exceptions.
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| Posted 2/8/08 9:35 AM |
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LFitzy79
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....
honestly--than no.
not to be harsh--but its a shower for HER and not for you to show the baby off. she might feel like you are stealing her thunder and i don't think she would appreciate it. i know i wouldn't.
I have to agree....if it was an issue of childcare, and you wouldn't be able to go unless you brought her, then that's one thing...but not to show her off...
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Shelly
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
put it in a spinoff- don't want to hijack the thread.
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Kara
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Were you invited with the baby?
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curliegirl
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
At my bridal shower, my mom was specific about it being adults, I have a cousin with 3 girls and they stayed home.
DHs friend showed up with her DD and my mom got a little upset....her name wasn't on the invite and now she had to do damage control with my couisn who wasn't really bothered anyway, she loves her time without kids hanging on her!!!!
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| Posted 2/8/08 10:35 AM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I would leave her at home if you have the option.
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| Posted 2/8/08 10:36 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
There were two babies at my shower and I didn't think twice about it. Both were the children of DH's cousins.
I would ask the host of the party....and it totally depends on the bride.
If you think she would care, don't bring your DD. But, if she's pretty easygoing, ask if it would be okay.
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