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dlj97
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Letting go of nanny
If you let your nanny go, did you give them notice, severance or both? How much of each did you give?
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Letting go of nanny
We let our nanny go because we were moving. We gave her something like 7 weeks notice. We told her if she stayed with us through those 7 weeks, then we'd give her a bonus, which turned out to be about 2.5 additional week's pay. So basically, that gave her almost 10 weeks to find a new job.
With regards to how much notice, I think it depends why you're letting the nanny go. But regardless, you should pay her severance. If you're paying her on the books, she can also apply for unemployment then.
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| Posted 9/18/15 2:12 PM |
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Letting go of nanny
I have a question. How much advance notice can you give where you wouldn't have to pay out severance?
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| Posted 9/18/15 8:21 PM |
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dlj97
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Re: Letting go of nanny
Posted by EatingMyVeggies
I have a question. How much advance notice can you give where you wouldn't have to pay out severance?
That's my question too :)
I am a little nervous to give notice since she is taking care of my kids - I would probably rather just give her two weeks pay.
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| Posted 9/19/15 2:24 AM |
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dlj97
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Re: Letting go of nanny
Posted by NYCGirl80
We let our nanny go because we were moving. We gave her something like 7 weeks notice. We told her if she stayed with us through those 7 weeks, then we'd give her a bonus, which turned out to be about 2.5 additional week's pay. So basically, that gave her almost 10 weeks to find a new job.
With regards to how much notice, I think it depends why you're letting the nanny go. But regardless, you should pay her severance. If you're paying her on the books, she can also apply for unemployment then.
Thanks. Moving is the easiest situation to let go of a nanny.
We have had our nanny for 4 years and now that I am home on maternity leave with #3 she has totally changed and doesn't do half of what she used to. She was very vocal about not being happy I was having a third. And she recently got an interview for a job at a school so she may be leaving me, and I would rather not pay her my whole maternity leave when she is going to just leave me in the end!
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| Posted 9/19/15 2:28 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: Letting go of nanny
If you are letting her go based on her job performance then I would just let her go without notice, and give her a week's pay (I'm not sure what labor laws say though when giving severance).
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| Posted 9/19/15 9:06 AM |
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Katareen
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Letting go of nanny
Why would you have to pay severance? If you get fired from a "regular" job, you're typically not given anything.
Since it's based in performance and you're home anyway, I'd just let her go. No need to give any monies if she's not doing her job.
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| Posted 9/19/15 9:10 AM |
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Sixofus
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Letting go of nanny
I did not give severance. She knew for months that we wouldn't need her any more when our youngest went to school. Plenty of time to find a new job. We have a good relationship with her, though, and still use her for evenings/weekends sometimes. If you know you are moving, it is nice to let her know as soon as possible so she can make plans.
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| Posted 9/19/15 1:44 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Letting go of nanny
Posted by Katareen
Why would you have to pay severance? If you get fired from a "regular" job, you're typically not given anything.
Since it's based in performance and you're home anyway, I'd just let her go. No need to give any monies if she's not doing her job.
ITA. I never had a nanny though and don't know if the rules for them are different. I probably would just let her go without notice since it's your children she's caring for. I would want to risk her getting spiteful.
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| Posted 9/19/15 4:39 PM |
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dlj97
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Letting go of nanny
Thanks all. I would feel bad just letting her go with no notice or severance, since she has been with us for over 4 years. I still need to decide if I'm going to let her go - it's very hard.
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| Posted 9/19/15 6:46 PM |
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jade123
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Re: Letting go of nanny
I've let several nannies go. I NEVER give notice. They are watching your kids and I never want someone to watch my children after she knows she is being fired or won't have a job soon. Never want someone who is upset or not in the best of moods to watch my kids. Even if it's on "good" terms. I gave 2 weeks severance pay. I know it seems like a lot but I think 2 weeks notice is the right thing to do and this was my way of doing it. 2 weeks of pay to look for another job.
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| Posted 9/19/15 8:10 PM |
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NewLeaf2012
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Re: Letting go of nanny
I got let go with no notice and it was as the end of the summer. It sucked because I couldn't find another nanny position as most people hired already... I would much rather know in advance if I was losing my job... Most people would never take it out on the kids... Give her at least 4 weeks notice... No severance pay needed.
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| Posted 9/19/15 8:17 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Letting go of nanny
If you're letting her go because you're not happy with her job performance, then let her go with no notice. "Today was your last day" kind of thing. But I would give 2 weeks pay as severance. She's been with you for years so it's not nice to leave her stuck without any income or notice.
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| Posted 9/21/15 8:20 AM |
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Re: Letting go of nanny
Posted by jade123
I've let several nannies go. I NEVER give notice. They are watching your kids and I never want someone to watch my children after she knows she is being fired or won't have a job soon. Never want someone who is upset or not in the best of moods to watch my kids. Even if it's on "good" terms. I gave 2 weeks severance pay. I know it seems like a lot but I think 2 weeks notice is the right thing to do and this was my way of doing it. 2 weeks of pay to look for another job.
that's an interesting angle.
and a scary one.
it's a shame we have to worry about these things.
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| Posted 9/21/15 10:10 AM |
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wishing2012
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Re: Letting go of nanny
When I decided to stay home, we gave our nanny 3 weeks notice and an extra week's pay. I also spent hours speaking to a ton of moms in advance, and was able to give her a list of 18 women who wanted to meet with her.
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| Posted 9/21/15 1:12 PM |
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Re: Letting go of nanny
Posted by dlj97
Thanks all. I would feel bad just letting her go with no notice or severance, since she has been with us for over 4 years. I still need to decide if I'm going to let her go - it's very hard.
Honestly, I think you'd need to do one or the other. 2 weeks is the appropriate time frame. Either give her 2 weeks notice (without severance) or let her go without notice, but offer 2 week pay at least. In that case, whichever way you decide, she has 2 weeks to get her affairs in order and find a new job. I feel like it's very wrong to just drop somebody with no notice if they haven't done anything specific to deserve being fired like that. I had that happen to me once (I do a home daycare). At the time I was only watching one little guy and didn't start building up my business until DD was a little older. His parents decided they just wanted to pay less suddenly, so found somebody cheaper without giving me any notice at all. This was despite what we had agreed on at the start of our working relationship (that I would give THEM 2 weeks notice if I needed to drop them, as well as that they'd give me 2 weeks notice if they needed to pull him out). She told me literally that day which was insane to me since we had a good relationship and it totally left me in the lurch. It really was very wrong and unprofessional and just plain rude. So I'm a little biased in saying - if your nanny didn't do anything to deserve being fired and it's just your preference to move on, then do the right thing and give notice. It's totally up to you if you want to pay the severance or not though.
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