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KellyNYC
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Letting nanny go
I am quitting my job in May to stay home with my daughter, now 10 months old. We have a nanny who we like very much. She loves my daughter, and really likes my husband and I as well. She has only been with us for a short time, since October.
Anyway, I'm unsure when to let her go. Whether it is safe to give her two weeks notice, when I give my own notice, and keep her on for the next two weeks as I finish out my job, or if we should let her go on my last day and offer her two weeks severance pay.
Obviously, it will be a bigger financial hit for us to let her go on my last day and give her two weeks pay when I'm no longer collecting a pay check, but I do worry about leaving my daughter in her care when she knows she no longer has a job. I know this sounds crazy, and I'm pretty sure I'm being paranoid and unrealistic, but I really don't KNOW her...after all, it's only been 6 or so months since she's been with us.
What do you think - is it safe to give her two weeks notice or should I be overly cautious and just let her go on my last day (which of course would be terribly abrupt and I'd feel awful).
Oh, and if anyone needs a great nanny let me know!
TIA!
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Posted 4/19/10 10:27 PM  |
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Tine73
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Re: Letting nanny go
Salason just let her's go. If she doesn't respond, I would FM her.
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| Posted 4/19/10 10:28 PM |
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clwp
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Re: Letting nanny go
I may be interested in a few months, but it depends where the nanny lives. I doubt mine will be able to continue once we move to suffolk. There are some other issues as well, but that's another post.
My current Nanny and I have an agreement that if we terminate her employment but she is in good standing she gets 1 month severance. I would do the severance thing. I'm not out all day and yet I still wouldn't want my nanny to work knowing she is being terminated for any reason.
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| Posted 4/19/10 10:31 PM |
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KellyNYC
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Re: Letting nanny go
Thanks...I think that is the way I'm leaning as well. She lives in Brooklyn, we are in Manhattan...not sure if she would do Suffolk but FM me if you are interested.
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| Posted 4/19/10 10:34 PM |
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cantbelieveit
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Re: Letting nanny go
I was a nanny for years and wouldn't expect the severance pay. However, now being a mom, I may have to say go for that. I trusted myself  to stay with kids knowing I was being let go but I can't say I would trust others with mine.
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| Posted 4/19/10 10:36 PM |
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clwp
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Re: Letting nanny go
Posted by KellyNYC
Thanks...I think that is the way I'm leaning as well. She lives in Brooklyn, we are in Manhattan...not sure if she would do Suffolk but FM me if you are interested.
Thank you... Brooklyn to Suffolk wouldn't work for us. My current lives in Nassau and it's tough enough to get around on time. If she's good she'll find something fast. I know I plan on writing mine a nice letter of recommendation.
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| Posted 4/19/10 10:36 PM |
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MrsO
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Re: Letting nanny go
If you really like her and trust her I would let her know now so she can start looking for a job and say if she stays til the last day of your job give her 2 weeks severance.
Think if you were in her situation which you would prefer especially since you like her.
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| Posted 4/19/10 11:19 PM |
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Salason
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Re: Letting nanny go
Posted by Tine73
Salason just let her's go. If she doesn't respond, I would FM her.
I have to update you because she came in yesterday willing to do all these things, including drive, so we may wind up working something out... It's been a roller coaster of a weekend with this whole thing...
OP, I would do the 2 week severence thing with no notice. To give you an idea, my nanny has been with us for over 2yrs so we offered one month's notice and one month's severence BUT we know her very well (she also lived-in for a former colleague/friend for 14 yrs though) so I had more trust in her to still take good care of DS even after knowing the job will be ending.
My cousin had his nanny for a year and gave no notice for the same reasons you're concerned about but they did a month's severence. I read 1 week severence for every year is standard but I felt awful about leaving someone suddenly without a job, KWIM? I'd do 2 weeks if I were in your position.
FM me if you have additional questions!
ETA: The most valuable thing you can offer up is references! Tell her you'll let others know about her (as you have here) so she finds a job more quickly and I'm sure she will appreciate it.
Message edited 4/20/2010 7:53:27 AM.
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| Posted 4/20/10 7:47 AM |
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KellyNYC
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Kelly
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Re: Letting nanny go
Thank you all for your advice. I will feel AWFUL letting her go so abruptly, and am most likely being overly paranoid...but obviously my daughter comes first.
Any other thoughts welcome!
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| Posted 4/20/10 11:44 AM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Letting nanny go
We let our nanny of 15 months go about 2 years ago. I was laid off though so my job was abrupt. I let her finish off the week then gave her 2 additional weeks notice (no additional severance). I allowed her to leave early as needed for job interviews in those 2 weeks and offered a great recommendation. A friend got her a job with a great local family right away but that job didn't work out so she continued to use me as a reference for a few months following. I was home in those 2 weeks so i was OK with her still working but I'm not sure I would have been comfortable with her staying alone if I wasn't.
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| Posted 4/20/10 11:59 AM |
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babyonthebrain
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Re: Letting nanny go
I would give her more than 2 weeks notice. My "nanny" knows I'm PG and knows I'll be going out on maternity leave. So at least she can find something else. With this economy it would be nice to give her ample time to figure out her financial situation. Are you afraid she will leave you if you let her go? Is this why you're contemplaiting letting her go last minute and giving her severance pay?
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| Posted 4/20/10 2:21 PM |
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