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hopingforbaby
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Re: If a person tells you to "just relax..."
Posted by MrsKS
the ONLY time I would tell someone to relax or take it easy is if someone has been trying for 3 months and gets all upset.
Personally I don't think it's ever okay to tell someone to relax (but that's just me!).
I have only been trying for 3 months and when I got AF this last time I had a complete breakdown. Some people may not think I should have been so upset but there were so many outside factors affecting my feelings that contributed to it. I had just come from a family trip where I heard ALL weekend that I have to hurry up and get pregnant because my in-laws are getting older (no one knows we are even TTC) and I got AF two days later. It felt like a huge let down to my whole family. Not to mention that whole week prior I had what I personally felt were signs from my deceased step-father leading me to truly believe I was pregnant. It was just devastating to me when AF come. I am over it now but that day there was no way I was going to relax.
But yeah, I totally didn't mean to single you out Kerri I just personally feel like I would not tell someone to relax because I don't really understand what is going on in their lives and their heads during the whole TTC process.
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TheDivineMrsM
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Re: If a person tells you to "just relax..."
This was my pet-peeve, too. I would go NUTS when people would say this to me.
Try slapping your forehead and saying something like, "OMG, that's all I have to do? Really?"
Or you can slap them into the next county. Whichever you prefer. 
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| Posted 11/24/10 10:41 AM |
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summerbaby11
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Re: If a person tells you to "just relax..."
ITA I hated hearing this. wanted to punch them. and i hated reading "we just took it easy and didn't overthink it" even on this board about new BFPs.
Ironically though, the third month trying we did "just relax" b/c the second month was too stressful and THAT's when I got my BFP. I won't ever admit that to anyone though. 
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| Posted 11/24/10 7:01 PM |
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Meggo613
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Re: If a person tells you to "just relax..."
it seriously makes me wanna snap!!! weather your trying for 1 month or 1 year i think the disapointment can be the same. noone can understand how one would feel in the situation and i think telling someone to "relax" is just plain ol' insensitive its much easier said then done
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| Posted 11/24/10 8:27 PM |
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scanlj
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Re: If a person tells you to "just relax..."
I luckily never had this experience since TTC-ing.
But, we heard all the time when are you going to have kids? DH is getting older, blah blah.
Well, I was still in school and I got so tired of it, I told everyone we decided not to have kids.
What really bothered me, which is what bothers me about anyone telling any of us to "relax" is that people dont even know the extent of your TTC journey. They have no idea how hard, how long, etc. you have been trying. When I hear anyone ask someone when they're going to have kids I just want to slap them.
I know this isnt completely related, but its my pet peeve.
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| Posted 11/25/10 8:39 AM |
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CloudNine
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Re: If a person tells you to "just relax..."
ugh i HATE when people say that. if you arent living through it then you prob dont know what its like so zip it, i dont wanna hear your 2 cents!
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| Posted 11/26/10 1:03 PM |
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