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sunnygirl
loving life
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
my sister without hesitation
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
Member since 5/05 24460 total posts
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Tania
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
definitely my daughter, no one else.
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| Posted 8/8/07 4:43 PM |
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
My sister/SIL's.
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| Posted 8/8/07 4:44 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
Member since 12/05 23902 total posts
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Leslie
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
My sisters. In a second.
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| Posted 8/8/07 4:54 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
A man that I work with currently goes to counseling with his wife once a week. The reason, his wife is carrying her sisters child. Her sister is unable to carry the child. This is the second time that this couple has been the surrogates. I have the utmost respect for anyone that would so lovingly carry someone elses child so they can experience the delight of having children of their own.
I don't think being a surrogate you develop the same love and attachment that you would if it was your own child. I don't know for sure, but that is my opinon.
I would do it in a heartbeat for my relatives and friends. I would also probably do it for DH's relatives. The only thing I would need is their ingredients. 
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| Posted 8/8/07 6:01 PM |
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Deedlebugs
Blessed
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Kiki
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
I would carry a baby for my sisters. But I think that is about it.
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| Posted 8/8/07 6:21 PM |
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donegal419
St. Gerard, pray for us.
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Posted by melijane
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Quite simply, because in my opinion her point of view needs to be attacked. I am not saying there is no God, or if there is he doesn't have a plan. The way her post was written sounds like she is speaking about something of which she has no knowledge.
When you have suffered multiple losses and a possible loss of something you deeply desire like having a child and you hear someone say, It is God's plan, You can always adopt or any number of other inane, insensitive comments it would make your blood boil. Anyone else who has an issue with what I said well BRING IT because this is something I feel VERY strongly about(if you couldn't tell )
I am sorry that you disagree with my post. I did not mean to start drama. I know this is a sensitive issue for a lot of people. All I stated in my post was that I, and only I--- not you, not anyone else, would not do it. I did not criticize anyone for the choices that they need and want to make re: their bodies, their families or their children. I support people in whatever decisions they make in their lives. I just don't think I would do it.
I have not actively tried to conceive at this point and I can only imagine how heartbreaking and devastating it is to not be able to conceive a child. If that happens to me, and it very well might due to some health issues, I know I will be devastated. But, please don't attack me for my views. It's just something that I don't think I would do if I was put in the situation.
I am deeply sorry for your losses and your difficulty... I am sorry if my post came across as insensitive... but again, it's not directed to anyone in partiuclar, but what I think and what I feel when it comes to ME, no one else.
I am sorry that it seems that one cannot have a differing opinion on this issue on this site. Please also don't attack my views on how I view God in my life. I never said that it had to be your opinion.
Message edited 8/8/2007 6:55:25 PM.
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| Posted 8/8/07 6:51 PM |
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JenandMikey
life is good =)
Member since 5/07 4216 total posts
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We're so blessed!
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Posted by donegal419
Posted by melijane
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Quite simply, because in my opinion her point of view needs to be attacked. I am not saying there is no God, or if there is he doesn't have a plan. The way her post was written sounds like she is speaking about something of which she has no knowledge.
When you have suffered multiple losses and a possible loss of something you deeply desire like having a child and you hear someone say, It is God's plan, You can always adopt or any number of other inane, insensitive comments it would make your blood boil. Anyone else who has an issue with what I said well BRING IT because this is something I feel VERY strongly about(if you couldn't tell )
I am sorry that you disagree with my post. I did not mean to start drama. I know this is a sensitive issue for a lot of people. All I stated in my post was that I, and only I--- not you, not anyone else, would not do it. I did not criticize anyone for the choices that they need and want to make re: their bodies, their families or their children. I support people in whatever decisions they make in their lives. I just don't think I would do it.
I have not actively tried to conceive at this point and I can only imagine how heartbreaking and devastating it is to not be able to conceive a child. If that happens to me, and it very well might due to some health issues, I know I will be devastated. But, please don't attack me for my views. It's just something that I don't think I would do if I was put in the situation.
I am deeply sorry for your losses and your difficulty... I am sorry if my post came across as insensitive... but again, it's not directed to anyone in partiuclar, but what I think and what I feel when it comes to ME, no one else.
I am sorry that it seems that one cannot have a differing opinion on this issue on this site. Please also don't attack my views on how I view God in my life. I never said that it had to be your opinion.
good for u!
eta i dont know if i could be able to but who knows it all depends on the situation at hand
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anonttcer
BOOOO for fall!
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Meaning a NON ttcer!
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Posted by MrsPorkChop
i dont think i could handle it for anyone
I don't even think I could handle it for myself- much less anyone else.
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| Posted 8/8/07 7:27 PM |
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IrishTracy
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Tracy
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
I would for my sister, niece, daughters (if I still could) & my bestest friend.
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| Posted 8/8/07 8:23 PM |
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lilqtny
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Tracy
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Not for anybody. I don't hink I could and I don't think I would want to. The thought of it is almost disturbing to me. I don't think I could have somebody else's eggs and sperm inside of me or grow a life that isn't mine in my "oven".
I have already been told that I may have issues with fertility, not that we are trying, and I will have to deal with that if it happens. I don't think I would want to use a surrogate. Of course until I am face with the situation I guess I will not know.
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| Posted 8/8/07 8:29 PM |
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DandN
Twins are here!
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Deirdre
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
my sister, without a moment's hesitation.
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| Posted 8/8/07 9:49 PM |
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evenedan
Need a little sunshine
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D
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Either of my two sisters, one of my cousins and my best friend. Oh and my niece. That's it.
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| Posted 8/8/07 10:03 PM |
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Holly
Prayers to those who need them
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Holly
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
I would only do it for my brother and his wife, if they could not get pregnant. I do not have any sisters, but my SIL is VERY VERY close to me--like a sister.
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| Posted 8/8/07 10:12 PM |
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wp
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
For either one of my sisters or my brother, if his future wife needed me to.
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stayandjohn
Our life is complete
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Since I dont have a sister, I would do it for my cousin Michelle who has PCOS
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| Posted 8/8/07 10:35 PM |
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gottaluvmusik
Just the 4 of us
Member since 12/06 3554 total posts
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Andrea
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
I would do it for my gay best friend if he and his partner ever wanted a baby
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BikerGrl
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It's not the destination....it's the journey!
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Any of my brothers or sisters I would be honored to do it if they wanted children & could not have any
A disclaimer though.......I would want at LEAST one of my own children before I had one for anyone else.
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| Posted 8/8/07 10:54 PM |
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I have a good friend who was a surrogate for a friend of hers. She thought she's be ok with it and wound up really not doing well emotionally after it happened. She already had a son and knew she'd have another after the surrogate, but after she had the surrogate baby, she got very ill with a heart problem, had a pacemaker put in - at 30 yrs old - and was told she would never be able to have any kids again... It took her a long time to get over that....
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| Posted 8/8/07 10:57 PM |
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After going thru pregnancy with Cailen, I have to say that I could NEVER ever do this and hand the baby over to someone else...
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dm24angel
Happiness
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Donna
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Posted by cpanyc
Why are you attacking her opinion? So because you don't believe it has anything to do with God, it doesn't? She is not attacking people who think they would do it, she is just saying why she thinks she wouldn't. Everyone is different, we don't all have to believe the same thing.
Its not HER opinion being knocked, its the choice of words IMO.
She could say...I believe that God has this or that in store for ME.
To say that its Gods plan is painful to hear , I went through IVF to have my son and to think Or be told or implied I went against Gods wishes to do so, hurts me on a DEEP level....
It all comes down to the way things are said ( or typed) ...
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donegal419
St. Gerard, pray for us.
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by cpanyc
Why are you attacking her opinion? So because you don't believe it has anything to do with God, it doesn't? She is not attacking people who think they would do it, she is just saying why she thinks she wouldn't. Everyone is different, we don't all have to believe the same thing.
Its not HER opinion being knocked, its the choice of words IMO.
She could say...I believe that God has this or that in store for ME.
To say that its Gods plan is painful to hear , I went through IVF to have my son and to think Or be told or implied I went against Gods wishes to do so, hurts me on a DEEP level....
It all comes down to the way things are said ( or typed) ...
I am sorry that my post was misconstrued. it was not meant to be hurtful or to pass judgement on other people. I mentioned the word "I" throughout the post meaning that I don't think it would be a choice that I, and ONLY, I would make. I meant that perhaps something like that would be God's plan for ME... nobody else's. I never implied that people who have children through IVF or other methods is not God's plan.... I just meant that I don't know if it would be His plan for ME.
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AeroJenn
LIF Infant
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Jenn
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
I couldnt and wouldnt do it for anyone. I would never be able to carry a child in my womb for 9 months and then just hand it over like it never happened.
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Posted by AeroJenn
I couldnt and wouldnt do it for anyone. I would never be able to carry a child in my womb for 9 months and then just hand it over like it never happened.
I would not hand the baby over "like it never happened" but I think to give someone the gift of being a mother or father is the most selfless act. It is a very big decision that is why I say I would only consider doing it for my sister
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DRMom
Two in Blue
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Melissa
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Re: who would you have a baby for?
Posted by donegal419
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by cpanyc
Why are you attacking her opinion? So because you don't believe it has anything to do with God, it doesn't? She is not attacking people who think they would do it, she is just saying why she thinks she wouldn't. Everyone is different, we don't all have to believe the same thing.
Its not HER opinion being knocked, its the choice of words IMO.
She could say...I believe that God has this or that in store for ME.
To say that its Gods plan is painful to hear , I went through IVF to have my son and to think Or be told or implied I went against Gods wishes to do so, hurts me on a DEEP level....
It all comes down to the way things are said ( or typed) ...
I am sorry that my post was misconstrued. it was not meant to be hurtful or to pass judgement on other people. I mentioned the word "I" throughout the post meaning that I don't think it would be a choice that I, and ONLY, I would make. I meant that perhaps something like that would be God's plan for ME... nobody else's. I never implied that people who have children through IVF or other methods is not God's plan.... I just meant that I don't know if it would be His plan for ME.
OK but thats not how the post was written. I accept your statement and realize that you were not intending to be hurtful or address anyone. However, I think a lot of people think this way and one day someone is going to get decked for saying things like that. I guess this is a PSA--you never know what people are going through and sometimes you do have to watch what you say.
The way I think about this is: If you had cancer that would be "God's Plan" right? So would you not use medical intervention to help save your life? Just some stuff to think about. No hard feelings
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