who would you have a baby for?

this morning, on good morning america, they did a story about a young woman who had cervical cancer. she had a hysterectomy. she was only 25 at the time and a newlywed.

after she was ok, her mother approached her to carry a pregnancy for her daughter.

grandma carried a pair of twins. everyone is happy and healthy now.

made me cry.

my question to you:

who would you be willing to be a surrogate for?

edited for typo

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i would surrogate for my sisters. maybe a couple of my cousins because we are very close. Maybe 2 of my closest friends.
That is about it.

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I read a story in this month's Glamour on this topic.

I don't know if I ever could - but I'm also not in the place right now in my life where I could make this decision.

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to answer my own question:

my cousin had an infertility scare a few years back. honestly, she hadn't finished the sentence when i told her she could "use my oven".

luckily, she didn't need it. she is the mother of three beautiful girls.

i would have done it for her, two other cousins, and my sister.

i would even do it for a close-enough friend.

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my sister and my bestest friend, who I actually offered to when she was having infertility issues (and before I was married!)

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my sister, definitly

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I would have a baby for someone, maybe my sil or someone else that I was close to. I think its a remarkable thing to do and I would do it because i have had an easy pregnancy and delivery in the past with my son.

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my sisters

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my sister, that is it

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Definitely my sister, no questions asked.

Maybe 2 of my closest gfs.

eta - most likely my SILs

Message edited 8/8/2007 9:48:09 AM.

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The only one I would even consider doing this for would be my sister. I am not sure I could even handle that, though.

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i dont think i could handle it for anyone

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My sisters, and any of my future children.

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My sister, if I thought it was something I could do.

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i don't think i could do it for anyone. i don't think i could have this life growing inside of me for 9 months and then turn around and give it away.

I am also pretty conservative when it comes to all that stuff.... i guess i feel that you don't mess around with God and nature. I understand why people do surrogates and IVF and other things to make a baby.... but I am not sure i would do it if I had to. I feel like if I couldn't conceive or someone else coulldn't conceive, then maybe there would be other ways around it... like adoption, for one. i would do that before trying to take over God's plan. i don't think I would be comfortable being only an "oven". How do you tell a kid, "Well, you're part of Daddy's sperm and maybe Mommy's egg, but you grew in Aunt Karen for 9 months..."

No, I don't think I would do it.....

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My sister, without ever giving it a second thought.
Perhaps a close friend, if they really needed it, and had no one else....
But I LOVED being pregnant and had a relatively easy pregnancy - not everyone is so lucky!

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I don't think I could for anyone. I don't have sisters, so maybe that would have been an exception to the rule. I don't do well with pregnancies at all- I have been hospitalized and on bedrest with both, so I'm not really a great person to ask. Plus, I form such a bond with the growing baby, I don't think I could carry for 9 months then not be able to raise him/her.
But now thinking about this, my brother is gay and has a partner for many years. If they asked me to carry a child for them...I don't know. I might consider it. Thta's how much I love him.

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my sister. my daughter.

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I don't think I could do it for anyone. And I don't think I could ask anyone to do it.

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right now - we're lucky if you can have one for ourselves - let alone someone else

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I have offered this to someone who's story touched my heart in ways I can't describe. I think she's probably the only person I would do it for. I hope she knows the offer still stands.