If you wanted more children than DH...

Did he ever come around to wanting more or did you just decide to stop hoping he would?

We never agreed on a certain number of children because we just never knew how life would be once we had them. We have 2 amazing little sweeties now and I desparately want a third. Not right away, but maybe start trying in a year or so. DH is ADAMANT that he is done. I'm holding out hope he may change his mind later on. Our girls are only 1 and 3 now and although life is less hectic than it was a few months ago, it's still crazy so he needs time.

Anyone's DH change their mind on this issue later on?

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i want 4 kids, my husband would be done right now at 2 if i was ok with that. But we settled on 3 as a compromise. Can't blame the guy because he's home with the kids most of the time during the day and he'd like to move on from the baby stage.

People keep saying that i'm going to have twins for our last one. I wouldn't mind that so much.

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I always wanted 4, my husband was ok with 3....we have 4 I said to him you will never regret having another child, but I will def regret not having one! That's the honest truth though! There was no doubt in my mind or his that he would love #4 the same way that he loved all the others!

Now part of me could have gone for number 5, but he was really set against that...I agreed though, bc I am ready to move on from the baby stage and love my boys so much! Looking forward to all the adventures that lie ahead ( especially with 4 )

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I was on the fence.
Dh was pretty much a no.
One night of fun and we just had our 3rd.

After a momentary freak out when we first found out dh came around and was super excited. I agree with the pp you'll never regret having another but you may regret not having one.

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We said 2-3 before we got married. After DS1 my DH wanted another one right away (like when the baby was like a month old ) but since I was the one nursing ad doing all the feedings and work I wanted to wait. I was ready to try a few months after DS turned 1. At that point DH started saying he was one and done. It was a big problem for me. I basically told him that was not the plan and that I was going off the pill at the end of the summer, which was about 6 months away. It wound up taking 10 months and an IUD to get pregnant. All along DH kept telling me this was our last child. When DS2 was born, he was such a great baby that I still had the urge to have one more. Then reality of life set in and I accepted that we were done. At this point, not only have I accepted it, but I have less then zero interest in having another baby. And the crazy thing is, DH wants a baby girl!

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Dh always said we would have three and I always wanted two. We have two amazing baby boys and they give us a run for our money. However I can't say with a 100% confidence that I don't want a third. My husband is content with two but now I'm not so sure. The other poster said it perfectly we will never regret having another one but I might regret not having another one. Its a very hard decision that we will address in another year or so.

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we always said 3-4. our first 2 were very close together and i needed a break for a few years. after moving away from the baby stage, he was on the fence as to whether we should go for a third or not. I said a piece of me was still missing. I said I would forever wonder about the third baby i felt was supposed to be part of our family, and although he might be stressed out for a year, in the long run, he would never regret, whereas I would always be a little sad. since he could really have gone either way at that point, we went for the third and she is due in 1o weeks. he is super pysched for her and once he agreed to go for it, he was totally on board. i don't want a fourth at this point--3 seems like the right number for us. it just feels right

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We are the opposite! DH wants more children than me. I think he expects me to come around butI just don't think that will happen. It may in a few years but right now... no way!

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i wanted to keep my options open, DH was DEAD SET on being done at 2. He would have been ok with 1. We compromised with 2. Although I wish I could have another in the future, we are done. His mind will never change.

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We have the opposite as well. DH and I never really put a number on having kids before we got married. We knew we wanted kids. Dh always said 4 or 5 and I always said lets have 2 and see if you change your mind We have 2 now and my girls are close in age (21 months) and I just felt like it was very hard on me with 2 under 2. Dh wanted to have a 3rd pretty much right away after we had number 2. He wants our kids to all b close in age because he says we shouldn't get out of the baby stages and start all over again.

I on the other hand felt like we are so limitied on space in our current home. My time is stretched thin with 2. I have to go through fertility treatments to get pg and I had a rough pg with #1, and a horrible c-section with #2. I just felt like I was done.

Dh has spent the last few months trying to change my mind. He kept saying we won't regret a 3rd. I know I'd never regeret a 3rd but I just kept feeling like the stress of adding a 3rd would be a big strain on us. DH kept telling me how he felt like 3 would be great for us, and the girls. I could just tell he felt very strong about having number 3 and we are going to ttc next spring. I told him I did not want to ttc now and have 2 under 2 again. I just found that age gap really hard. So we are compomising and going for #3 next year and spacing the kids a little further apart.

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Reverse situation here: Dh wants #3 and I am done. I am not going to change my mind and I feel so bad! but I do worry he will find a new baby momma

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I want 4 and DH would be happy with 2. We have #2 due in 6 weeks and I know we are definitly going for 1 more and see how we are then. But i will take a year off 1st as DS1 is only 1 today LOL.

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Before we had kids dh said 3 I said 2. Then we had 2 kids and dh said he was done. I was not lol He kept saying no more until I was having female issues and contemplating having a procedure done that would pretty much mean no more kids. Suddenly he said ok we can try for 1 more. I got pregnant and he freaked. I explained getting pregnant usually happens when you ttc. We now have 3 great kids i can say without a doubt we are now done lol Now if dh would just go and get snipped lol

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DH was adamant that he was done- but also wanted to rely on the PNP method of birth control (I can't be on hormonal BC and he refused to wear a condom).

So- here we are pregnant with #3! I'm thrilled because I knew I wanted a 3rd- he should've been more careful

I should add that he is also excited about #3 now that it's happening.

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