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I wish this was my biggest worry.

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I only read past the title and first sentence and could not go on

I really don't understand why people can't be happy with what they have. I will be ecstatic with a healthy baby life is blessing me with.

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Posted by MrsJM

I only read past the title and first sentence and could not go on

I really don't understand why people can't be happy with what they have. I will be ecstatic with a healthy baby life is blessing me with.

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Posted by Eireann

So what? This is how SHE feels. How can you discount someone's feelings? I cannot relate because I have two girls and if I could have requested the genders, that's what I would have picked; however, I am reasonably certain that if we do have a 3rd, my DH would probably be a bit disappointed if we were to have another girl. What's wrong with that?? I do think she was being "real." Why should she have to censor her feelings to your group? It's not like she said she was going to kill her child if it's another girl. I do think she has other issues though...

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I understand that people "wish" for one sex or another ~ totally normal~ but, this chick is ridiculous!!!

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Posted by headoverheels

ok first of all i can barely understand what this girl is saying. holy typos and weird words!

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Posted by Eireann

So what? This is how SHE feels. How can you discount someone's feelings? I cannot relate because I have two girls and if I could have requested the genders, that's what I would have picked; however, I am reasonably certain that if we do have a 3rd, my DH would probably be a bit disappointed if we were to have another girl. What's wrong with that?? I do think she was being "real." Why should she have to censor her feelings to your group? It's not like she said she was going to kill her child if it's another girl. I do think she has other issues though...

Message edited 7/18/2008 11:39:43 AM.

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I have a friend who wanted a girl soooooooooooooooooooooo badly. She swore it was a girl. When she went to her level II and they told her it was a boy, she could not believe them. She couldn't even TELL me it was a boy, she WROTE IT DOWN ON A PIECE OF PAPER!! Ultimately, she lost the child at 4.5 months and has not been able to get pregnant since. She told me that next time she gets pregnant, she is not even going to find out the sex. She says it doesn't matter. Just another perspective.

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I have a friend right now who is going through a major depression b/c she is not happy with the gender of her baby. She is due in December and I truly think that it is a mental illness in a way. No matter how much she wants to be happy that she is having a baby, she is really devestated over the gender.

Personally, I could care less. To each their own.

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Posted by monkeybride

Posted by Eireann

So what? This is how SHE feels. How can you discount someone's feelings? I cannot relate because I have two girls and if I could have requested the genders, that's what I would have picked; however, I am reasonably certain that if we do have a 3rd, my DH would probably be a bit disappointed if we were to have another girl. What's wrong with that?? I do think she was being "real." Why should she have to censor her feelings to your group? It's not like she said she was going to kill her child if it's another girl. I do think she has other issues though...

Couldn't have said it better.
I have no problem saying that if this baby was a girl I would have felt disappointed as I know DH would have. I have this really strong desire to experience having a son, it something I really feel deeply about. I am blessed that my "wish" has been granted (or so they say) but if it was a girl I would have gotten past my twinge of disappointment and moved on.
I don't think it's write to discount someone's feelings, that's what they are feelings and everyone is entitled to feelings. It doesn't make them ungrateful or horrible people.

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I understand that fleeting feeling of disappointment..we are all human and I can understand maybe hoping for a girl or boy and getting the opposite...

but this poster sounds crazy. Anyone blessed with a healthy child should be jumping up and down with joy. GOD FORBID something were wrong with her child, then she'd really feel like hell having the thoughts she did.

A lot of people today take for granted that a healthy child is what is most important. What some women going through infertility wouldn't give to just have the news that they are carrying a child, let alone caring about the gender. The poster needs to move on and concentrate on her many blessings...

What is funny to me is that she already has a daughter, right?? After having a son and thinking I was having a girl, I could care less if I have all boys.

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At this point, all I want is a healthy baby. I'd love to be able to have at least 1 boy and 1 girl at some point. I'd love my children no matter what I have. I'm sure some people are slightly disappointed when they find out the sex, but being devastated over it is extreme. IMO, that poster sounds ridiculous. What's even worse is there's an entire website devoted to those experiencing gender disappointment. It's really sad how upset people get about the sex of their children.

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i wonder how the psycho poster and her "Matthew" did the BD...doesnt rear entry allow for faster swimming for boy makin sperms?
lmfao..sorry...i had to...


actually i have a boy..he is goin to be 10 when my second is due..i didnt think i could even conceive ever again..or if i did, it would take years and years of expense, and mental anguish that i just could not afford..by some miracle, we have been BLESSED..
My son is PRAYING for a lil brother..and to be honest..i "know how" to be a mommy to a boy..so 10 years later, and starting all over, yes. it would be easiest..
BUT...God doesnt always give you easy..He gives you what you need..
That being said..im almost positive ill have a and at first, ill really have to get used to the idea..but my baby is SUCH a miracle, that i DIDNT EVER think id have..and it is what it is..
:)

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I can understand people wanting one gender or the other, but her original post implied she basically didn't want it if it wasn't a boy. I thought it was a very selfish and insensitive post on her part.

Plus, I think those women jumped all over you for giving your honest opinion and then applauded the other girl for giving her honest opinion.

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This post hits home for me because as ashamed as I am to say it, I had a twinge of disappointment when I found out I was having a . My whole life I always thought I would have a girl first (my intuition never fails me) and when I got pregnant I was even more sure. When they told me it's a I was completely shocked and a bit disappointed. This is my first baby and I have always wanted to experience at least one of each, but I was upset and embarrassed that I was so wrong and mad at myself for caring. It's like I had this vision of something happening for so long and then it happens, but not in the way you think. It can be hard. I've shared these feelings with my best friend, and no one else, because I am eternally grateful to be blessed with a child and know how difficult it is for many to even conceive. I know that how I initially felt was despicable, but feelings are just that - not something you can always control.

But for me as well the feelings have been fleeting. I see how proud my DH is of his "manly" sperm and having a son to pass his name along too, I play with my friend's son and am amazed by him, I see pictures of little boys on here and my heart strings are totally pulled. I can't wait to meet my little man.

I worry that I won't know how to take care of a boy because well, I'm not one. I'm a girly girl to a fault. Do I still hope to someday have a little girl? Of course. Does my stomach still flip-flop a bit as I walk through the aisles and aisles of pink stuff? Sure. But in the meantime, it's team blue for this mama, and I couldn't be more excited.

Please don't flame me, I've flamed myself enough over this.

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Posted by Katie111806

This post hits home for me because as ashamed as I am to say it, I had a twinge of disappointment when I found out I was having a . My whole life I always thought I would have a girl first (my intuition never fails me) and when I got pregnant I was even more sure. When they told me it's a I was completely shocked and a bit disappointed. This is my first baby and I have always wanted to experience at least one of each, but I was upset and embarrassed that I was so wrong and mad at myself for caring. It's like I had this vision of something happening for so long and then it happens, but not in the way you think. It can be hard. I've shared these feelings with my best friend, and no one else, because I am eternally grateful to be blessed with a child and know how difficult it is for many to even conceive. I know that how I initially felt was despicable, but feelings are just that - not something you can always control.

But for me as well the feelings have been fleeting. I see how proud my DH is of his "manly" sperm and having a son to pass his name along too, I play with my friend's son and am amazed by him, I see pictures of little boys on here and my heart strings are totally pulled. I can't wait to meet my little man.

I worry that I won't know how to take care of a boy because well, I'm not one. I'm a girly girl to a fault. Do I still hope to someday have a little girl? Of course. Does my stomach still flip-flop a bit as I walk through the aisles and aisles of pink stuff? Sure. But in the meantime, it's team blue for this mama, and I couldn't be more excited.

Please don't flame me, I've flamed myself enough over this.

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Posted by Lizzy

I can understand people wanting one gender or the other, but her original post implied she basically didn't want it if it wasn't a boy. I thought it was a very selfish and insensitive post on her part.

Plus, I think those women jumped all over you for giving your honest opinion and then applauded the other girl for giving her honest opinion.

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Well.. i wanted a boy
REALLY wanted a boy, kept talking about my son and him etc

I'm having a girl. I was a little bummed when I found out but they said she was healthy and I saw her kicking and said "Hey this is what was dealt to you"

Now I want her here already. My hubby is so going to be wrapped around her finger, but honestly I have no idea how I will be as a mother to a girl.

I have horrible mother/daughter experiences. What can I possibly add? I finally realized I will have to be the mom I can be and that will have to be enough, girl or boy.

Now I'm practically vigilant about making sure my baby girl isn't 'classed' as a girly girl before she has a chance to make that choice. I hate public push for girls to wear pink, frills, bows and only boys get to play with cars, trains and bugs. I want my girl to grow up with all of both. Why not?

I think i get what this person was trying to say but I think she went about it the wrong way.

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She must be reallllly young.....It all sounds very immature. she's probably one of those teen moms. And you can tell she's not very educated by the way she writes. It's very sad.
XOXOXO
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There are a lot of people that get upset about the gender. Some more than others of course. For me, it didn't matter either way, we found out it was a . I'm thrilled! but I can't imagine going through life without a daughter. if we had a 2nd and 3rd baby, all boys, I would be dissappointed about never having a daughter but healthy is really what matters.

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Sorry. I can't even get past the grammar. something tells me that any kid of hers would be doomed...

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

Sorry. I can't even get past the grammar. something tells me that any kid of hers would be doomed...

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So many words... perhaps young, immature use of words BUT she is also pregnant and hormones can do crazy things to you and the internet is not exactly the most efficient way to communicate true feelings sometimes. Things can be taken out of context.

Sounds silly but I actually know a couple where the hubby LEFT after they had a girl because his previous relationship(s) produced a girl as well and he really wanted a boy to pass on his legacy yada yada. In his culture boys are a sign of strength.

Anyways, I must say in some way i can understand what she means. I wanted a girl both pregnancies and I had pregnancies from HELL where the thought should never had entered my head but when the sonographer said girl DH and I looked at each other like a ray of sunshine had just appeared. Granted we would have been happy with a boy too but I just wasnt ready to give up dresses and pigtails. It was preference for me . My mom said she would watch with popcorn if I ever had a boy cause I'm such a girlie girl sometimes

All in all no harm done once the baby comes that she loves he/she and provides the best home/future possible.

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It does not matter to me at all if it's a boy or a girl. I just could not be any happier that after all these years and all my doctor appts. and sonograms and bloodwork I am finally pregnant and this baby is a blessing no matter if it's a boy or a girl. It sounds cliche, but as long as it's healthy that is all I care about.