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I found this on another chat board and was wondering what you guys felt
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Gender Disappointment

Ok, yeha i have yet to be seen. but, everyday i am saddened with pretty much not feeling like i am having a boy. i REALLY want a boy. i wanted fallon to be a boy and when they said girl i seriously cried. mostly beucsae i have no idea how to deal with girls. me and girls don';t click. i bearly consider my self a girl mentally besides the plumping and boosickels i have. All the myths seemt o be coming true about what i can eat, holdwon, the heart beat rate was 143 when iw as around 8 weeks pregnant.

im sorry this musts ounds REALLY stupid. but matt HAS a son, it's in the adoptive family and has been for 9 years, btu i really think a part of him feels liek that was his only chance to have one, and osmeday that junk will comeup or thrown in my face.

What if there is osmething in me thats killing the male chromozome!?

i can't even think of girl names. And all my symptoms are mathcing up with fallons to the T except that massive mornign sickness, and i don't have heartburn which is really nice.

But, leatly i cant eat meat!! i mean yes i can eat chicken, but Beefy meats and hams i can't hold down they make my stumach messe dup to where its gotta coem out of if not both ends.

So im thinking yeah, great, another girl.
Has anyone ever been kinda dissapointed with not having a certain gender?

i look at all the boys clothes when i pass by the infants department and i just know im notgettign any.

positive sides? I have loads of girl clothes! lol. and a pink pack and play. so i pretty much have a great start!

Ok, my semi emo/vent is over now! Love ya's!

oh ya all the stinking online predictors keep saying girl only TWO have said boy.

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Is this person for real????? Im sure alot of people feel the same way as her.. i know someone who was a student at my job and she was super upset when she found out she was having a boy and wanted a girl... Me personally.. just dont get the feeling of being sad about gender, as long as the baby is healthy.

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I think she's crazy...I'll be brutally honest, I would LOOOOOVE a little girl, I'm such a girly girl that I'm scared of boys but either way I would be thrilled...I think ppl can definitely love to have one or another but I would NEVER be upset over which one I'm having!!! I'll be thrilled either way!!!!!!!!!

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ok first of all i can barely understand what this girl is saying. holy typos and weird words!

secondly, the part about her being somewhat disappointed about having a girl... i know a lot of people feel that way (not about girls, but being slightly disappointed in whatever sex the baby is) and i could never judge them for it. all i cared about was having a healthy baby... but i knew, deep down, my DH would be over the moon if he found out we were having a boy, so that's what i wished for - and we are, so that makes me happy.

if we were having a girl, i would still be 10000% thrilled, as i know my DH would be as well... but i don't doubt that there would be that half second of "oh..."

it's such a personal feeling, we all know that we "should" wish for a healthy aby and nothing more... but we are human, after all.

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My honest opinion is that I would rather not see a post like this, because of so many woman on these boards that struggle with getting pregnant.

I know it is this woman's feelings on her child, but it seriously angers me on how ungrateful people are.

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I can sort of understand about being disappointed; I know many people wish for one and when they are told they are getting the other, they are disappointed, but then when the baby arrives, those feelings simply melt away. That to me is normal and does not make someone a bad person. This post sounds kind of borderline psychotic to me though.

People are bizarre.....we are having twin boys and I get all sorts of stupid comments "oh are you sad you're not having a girl?" or "too bad it's not a boy and a girl". What????? Please, getting pregnant was not a snap for me so if they are healthy, that is what I care about, not what their genders are - these are your children, they are people regardless. Ok, rant over

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Ok...

I have to be honest and say that when DH and I found out at our sono for this baby that we were having another girl, I cried for about 5 minutes...for a couple of reasons...

1. I was CONVINCED it was a boy

2. This is my last child

3. I will never experience what it's like to have a son - something I have ALWAYS wanted

Of course I got over it immediately upon hearing the baby was measuring right on and seemed healthy....

I have had every doctor and sono tech double, triple, quadruple check because there is this instinct in me that feels boy...it's very strange to not be able to trust your own instincts...

Anyway, please don't flame me for feeling that way. I feel truly blessed to be having a BABY, but some women, good women, react that way at first. Then you just have to get over it and feel thankful.

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Posted by BabySammie

Posted by snowflake08


link - hope it works

This link hurt my head trying to read

Which one are you?

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I think it is OKAY to have some dissappointment. I was talking to my friend the other day and I said if I am blessed to be pregnant again, I really want another girl. Would I be "sad" or "cry" if the baby is a boy, no but I DO want another girl

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i was hoping it wasnt just me LOL

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Posted by stephanief

I think it is OKAY to have some dissappointment. I was talking to my friend the other day and I said if I am blessed to be pregnant again, I really want another girl. Would I be "sad" or "cry" if the baby is a boy, no but I DO want another girl

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Where the helll is the OP from? Is she trying to write in English? Talk about being obtuse!!

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So what? This is how SHE feels. How can you discount someone's feelings? I cannot relate because I have two girls and if I could have requested the genders, that's what I would have picked; however, I am reasonably certain that if we do have a 3rd, my DH would probably be a bit disappointed if we were to have another girl. What's wrong with that?? I do think she was being "real." Why should she have to censor her feelings to your group? It's not like she said she was going to kill her child if it's another girl. I do think she has other issues though...

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Posted by Eireann

So what? This is how she feels. How can you discount someone's feelings? I cannot relate because I have two girls and if I could have requested the genders, that's what I would have picked; however, I am reasonably certain that if we do have a 3rd, my DH would probably be a bit disappointed if we were to have another girl. What's wrong with that?? I do think she was being "real." Why should she have to censor her feelings to your group? It's not like she said she was going to kill her child if it's another girl. I do think she has other issues though...

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I think the girl sounds really immature-- but there is some validity to what she is thinking.

I think plenty of people would prefer to have one gender over another-- but, from what I have heard-- that, if you want one and get the other-- the disappointment lasts for a second, then it goes out the window.

Her husband also sounds like an arsehole if she thinks he would hold it against her-- and that she thinks it's HER that determines sex.

While some may also think it's insensitive to post something like that-- it's her feelings. Is she not entitled to have them? Regardless of how ridiculous they are? I agree with another poster-- we are just human.

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no one said she cant have her feelings
it was the "saddened" part when thinking of ANY life that you are bringing into this world and then for her to mock my responses and say "oh i want an unhealthy baby but i dont care what the sex is"
i mean, c'mon

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As I re-read this, the woman doesn't even know what she is having yet, nothing has been confirmed boy/girl.

So rather than posting about it, she should have kept this to herself (I know, even though this is how she is feeling and people are allowed to vent).

But she is getting herself all worked up and worried and she doesn't even know what she is having.

My opinion was that I just hate seeing posts like this-it makes me sad.

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Yes, this post pisses me off. Why try to have a baby boy when you know it is 50% chance of having one? In her post, she seems so immature.