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Aly764
Isla Grace born on 11/15/13 <3
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Alyssa
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Got invited to a wedding a week before my due date...
It's a vineyard wedding which I have NEVER been to and always wanted to go to (out at Raphael's). Not like I can drink the wine lol but I just love the vineyards in the fall and I always thought it would be so nice to go to a wedding out there!
I need to RSVP like tomorrow. Not sure what to do! The groom is an old family friend (practically a cousin/ my parents are his godparents... I rarely see him other than weddings) And I've only met the bride twice.
I went to her shower and gave a gift...
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Posted 9/17/13 4:20 PM  |
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jessnbrian
Only God knows His plan for us
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If you feel like you'll be up for it, RSVP to go, I would also write a note on the RSVP card that you are looking forward to the wedding but that as it is the week before your due date you might not be able to make it in the end and that you will call if that is the case. I was out there just this weekend, I love it out there!
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| Posted 9/17/13 4:23 PM |
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StaceyWill
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I'd RSVP no and send a gift. It's too close for me.
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| Posted 9/17/13 4:26 PM |
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JSDB
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It depends how badly you want to go to that wedding and how close you are to the couple.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding at 37 weeks pregnant, 1.5 hours away from home (although local to where my parents lived so we were able to stay with them). The understanding was that I would try my best to be there, and I ended up going to the wedding, having a great time, and staying almost to the end of the reception. Then my parents picked us up and drove us back to the city. After that we didn't leave the city until my DS was born (I went a day late) but we also didnt own a car at the time and didn't have a real reason to leave. If I had lived in the burbs at the time and we had a car, I probably would have gone to a wedding up to maybe an hour away until the very end since I felt up to it. But, if it was a wedding I didnt really care about I would have declined and sent a nice gift.
Message edited 9/17/2013 4:36:32 PM.
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| Posted 9/17/13 4:35 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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If it's not a far drive, I'd call to explain that you are RSVPing Yes, but that there's a chance you'll have to back out at the last minute.
You could go early or you could go late. Personally, I went 10 days early but a week before I had DS, I would've been fine to go to a local wedding.
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| Posted 9/17/13 4:37 PM |
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DreamsofBaby
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I just had a similar situation. We were invited to a wedding 2 weeks before my due date. We decided not to go but sent a gift. Ive been pretty tired lately and my back has been hurting. Just the thought of putting on a dress and shoes at that point made me not want to go!
If you are comfortable backing out last minute then I would rsvp yes and let them know that could be the situation. I didn't feel comfortable doing that as they are friends of ours, but not very close.
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| Posted 9/17/13 5:09 PM |
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PitterPatter11
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Can you talk to the bride and RSVP no for the headcount, but then if you feel up to it, go. They usually just add place settings for you - no big deal - it happens frequently.
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| Posted 9/17/13 5:19 PM |
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I was a bridesmaid in a wedding 10 days before my due date...I also wound up being 9 days late w/ my DD.
I say RSVP and go. Obviously if you have the baby early or go into labor, they should understand...if that happens just be sure to send a gift and you should be fine.
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| Posted 9/17/13 8:00 PM |
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Maybe-Baybe
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Posted by PitterPatter11
Can you talk to the bride and RSVP no for the headcount, but then if you feel up to it, go. They usually just add place settings for you - no big deal - it happens frequently.
This.
Kinda sucky, but, I'd do it this way also because I'd give a larger the gift if I went, and a smaller amount if I didn't make it.
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| Posted 9/17/13 8:42 PM |
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Aly764
Isla Grace born on 11/15/13 <3
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Alyssa
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Thanks for your replies. I think I am going to RSVP yes and try to go and leave after dinner. If I go early I will still send a gift anyway to cover my plate.
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| Posted 9/18/13 6:41 AM |
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donegal419
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it depends on how close if was to the couple. if it was good friend or family member, absolutely, but would tell the bride anything could happen that close and i might not be feeling well....
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| Posted 9/18/13 10:23 PM |
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MRsFaTThead
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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!
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I wouldn't go but that's because I know how miserable I would feel. Week 35 was the begining of me feeling like crap with DD. I also popped 3 weeks early.
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| Posted 9/19/13 8:57 AM |
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edfilippi
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I would go. I was a bridesmaid at 37 weeks and was ok. At 39 weeks I was absolutely more uncomfortable but I still was out and about. If you wouldnt want to miss it I say go for it. Waiting for the baby was torture at least you will have something to do that will distract you for a little while.
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| Posted 9/19/13 10:02 AM |
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FergieK
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I wouldnt go and RSVP no so that they didnt have to pay for the plate. I would just send a gift.
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| Posted 9/19/13 1:54 PM |
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Lala08
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I would go but tell the bride there is a good chance you will be a last minute no show. As long as she is ok with it then I see no problem. I love the vineyards so that's the main reason I would go!
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| Posted 9/19/13 4:17 PM |
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Wishes1111
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I wouldn't go and I would send a gift. As pp said you are making them pay for your plate when you might not be showing up and even if you call to cancel it will most likely be too close to the wedding date for them to get their money back.
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| Posted 9/19/13 4:17 PM |
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Aly764
Isla Grace born on 11/15/13 <3
Member since 6/12 1021 total posts
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Alyssa
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I sent in the RSVP and put a note. Honestly if it were me I wouldn't be upset about paying for a plate as long as the person gave a gift, which we are planning on doing either way. They are a totally laid back couple so I'm not worried about it. I plan on leaving after dinner since I'm prob not going to be up for too much dancing!!
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